50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men
by Ed Attanasio.
Some call it the “Sugar Daddy Syndrome.” Others call it the “Father was never around” complex. A lot of people have no problem with it, while many find it sick and perverted. Regardless of your own personal views, young women dating older men is a worldwide phenomenon that is gaining popularity and acceptance at an alarming rate.
Why do young women like older men? What attracts 20-something females to 40, 50, even 60-something males? You could spend several hundred hours with a series of shrinks in an attempt to sort through the plethora of possible answers. The only problem with that is that most psychiatrists are expensive and love the term “billable hours.” It would cost thousands of dollars to find out the truth.
After talking with both sexes at great length, I have come to the conclusion that young women like older men because the relationship comes with benefits - lots of them. Face it — we are a very simple race. We look at dating the same way we look at a financial balance sheet.
What will I get out of it? Is it a good deal for me? How can I leverage this? These are just some of the questions we constantly ask ourselves when we’re in any relationship, whether we’re aware of it or not.
Here is a list that we’re calling the Top 50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men. If you’re a young attractive lady considering a guy twice your age, this list might give you the 50 reasons you need to persuade yourself into making a move to the geriatric side. Here it goes:
1. He knows a lot of useless stuff and makes a great partner in games like Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit and Balderdash.
2. He’s well-read. He can explain a book’s plot and storyline to you quickly and succinctly, thereby saving you the time it would take to actually read the book. It’s like having your own personal set of Cliff Notes.
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3. This gives you more free time to spend his money at malls, outlet stores, and online. |
4. He knows a lot about music. He can name the band that Paul McCartney played with prior to Wings.
| 5. You can borrow his Grecian Formula to patch any bleached sun spots in your hair. |  |
6. The big bedroom and/or guest rooms in his house means no rent for you and eventually your friends/relatives can move in too.
7. He’ll provide better, more intelligent and engrossing conversations. (How long can you talk about trucks, extreme sports and partying anyway?)
8. If you sprain your ankle, you can use his cane.
| 9. He qualifies for early bird senior discounts at restaurants. |  |
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10. He’ll actually dance with you at night clubs. He’ll be the hit of the party when he pulls out his “Funky Chicken.” |
11. He’ll open doors and pull out chairs for you.
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12. If he gets too chatty, you can hide his teeth. |
| 13. Qualifies for AARP membership privileges. |  |
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14. You can throw away all of your coupons for McDonalds, Der Wienerschnitzel and Panda Express since you have no use for them. Start to brush up on your dining etiquettes and prepare yourself for eating at restaurants such as Houston’s, P.F. Chang, and Morton’s. |
| 15. He’ll give you flowers, candy and best of all - cold, hard cash! |  |
16. He’s into holding hands and other Public Displays of Affection (PDA’s) as opposed to today’s “no contact” rules associated with dating in 2007.
17. You won’t need to pay for AAA roadside service because he’ll pick you up whenever your car breaks down.
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18. He’ll effectively replace your dad for when pops isn’t around. (Celebrate Father’s Day twice!) |
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19. Will treat 100% of the time. (Young guys don’t have cash, credit cards, or in many cases, wallets.) |
| 20. No random late-night booty calls, because he goes to bed at 9 pm every night. |  |
21. He won’t try to change you.
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22. He can help you with your homework. |
| 23. He’s very experienced in bed. If you like it or want to try it, he’s been there, done that! (And more than once.) |  |
24. He won’t pretend to listen to you just so he can get in your pants.
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25. Kiss goodbyes to Motel 6, Budget Inn, and Super 8 when you travel. Say hello to the Hyatt, the Hilton, and the Westin. |
26. He has a future, even though it might be a limited one.
27. You’ll never have to pay for car maintenance. A lifetime of free tune-ups, oil changes, tire rotations and windshield wiper replacements awaits you.
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28. Dating him will shock your folks. They may even throw lots of money at you to stop dating him. |
| 29. He has some serious pension/social security money coming to him down the line. |  |
30. He’s not sleeping on mommy’s couch or living with his parents.
| 31. You don’t have to worry about him looking at other women. (His vision is probably so shot he can’t see them). |  |
32. He’s articulate and knows multi-syllabic words. (Improve your vocabulary).
33. Sex with caring.
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34. He dresses better. Won’t show up in his one pair of ratty jeans all the time. Means you can get into nice restaurants/clubs. |
35. He doesn’t have any drug baggage. He may have smoked pot in the ’60’s and ’70’s; or did coke in the ’80’s and ’90’s, but chances are he’s clean now. (Otherwise he’d probably be dead.)
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36. He’s entitled to all kind of discounts including senior bus fares and matinee discounts. This means more cash left over for you. |
37. He’ll wait at least one month before he expects it.
38. You won’t have to worry about getting pregnant. His sperm cells are so old, they’re swimming backstroke (Warning: Always wear protection.)
| 39. He’s an attentive lover and won’t forget your name or order pizza immediately after he has an orgasm. |  |
40. He won’t argue with you over little, meaningless things. (He’s basically numb.)
41. He won’t ask you a bunch of personal, prying questions, like “What’s your name?”
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42. He won’t run away. At least not very far. Or very fast. |
43. You can talk politics with him, something you can’t do with younger men. (He knows that Colin Powell isn’t a medical condition.)
44. He’ll memorize your phone number, which comes in handy if you get too drunk and forget it.
45. He’ll turn you on to old-school chick flicks like The Graduate, Love Story and Breakfast at Tiffany’s.
| 46. He has a nice car. Park your Hyundai and start driving his Infiniti, Porsche, Lexus, Mercedes or BMW. |  |
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47. He’ll take you on incredible vacations, unlike young guys. No more Vegas, Palm Springs and Tijuana during Spring Break. Say hello to cruises to Europe and Australia, ski trips to Aspen and Telluride and African safaris. |
48. He won’t be jealous of your vibrator. He’s realistic!
| 49. He won’t be text messaging you all the time. He doesn’t know how! |  |
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50. When he dies, you can date his cute son(s)! |
About the author: Ed is a 48-year old former standup comic, freelance writer/journalist who likes to blow bubbles and kiss his dogs. Some people have serious problems with that, but does he care? He enjoys his life living in San Francisco and appreciates what he has — a fabulous fiancée, two great mutts, a dedicated shrink and really good prescription medication.
For more of his insane rantings, visit his blog, “Life on the Edge” at: www.edattanasio.blogspot.com
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June 23rd, 2007 at 10:36 pm
Funny stuff, although I gotta admit that I’m one of those girls who thinks if he grew up on disco he’s too old for my 20-something sister. I draw the line at he must at least have rocked on to my own 80’s hair bands. And I’m glad my parents are still together, because if Dad ever showed up for dinner with a girl younger than me I’d be the one in therapy : ).
June 24th, 2007 at 12:38 am
Nice. I am 50 and I’m hoping some of these young fillies start coming my way.
June 24th, 2007 at 7:14 am
Whoaaa this is interesting and it is quite often these days heheh
June 24th, 2007 at 1:59 pm
Hilarious! Younger women are flocking to us older guys and it’s a blast! I love them, because they’re bright, vivacious and eager to learn about the world around them. I find older single women in this country to be bitter, over-opinionated, pushy and selfish! They’re know-it-all’s with bad attitudes and lousy plastic surgery. When I date these young gals, I feel like a teacher, a lover and a father figure all in one and it’s both a physical and emotional turn-on. I’m 50, and I have more hot young 30-somethings vying for my attention than I can handle. I divorced a shriveled old bag who was 50 and fading fast, and now I have several young babes in dating rotation. It makes me feel younger too. All I can say is life is good! Great posting. I can’t wait to read your blog because you’re funny as hell!
June 24th, 2007 at 8:15 pm
I am one of those older ladies you’re dissing, Aaron, and I sure don’t appreciate what you’re saying. If we’re bitter, it’s because guys like you have been treating us like doo doo all these years. I’m a three-timer divorcee and all of my husbands had one thing in common — they were jerks! You just can’t handle older babes, Aaron, that’s probably your situation. We’re smarter, wiser and packed with personality. Young women can’t stand up to the real thing, baby!
June 24th, 2007 at 9:20 pm
I agree with number 30 and number 42 the most. No doubt about it.
June 24th, 2007 at 11:42 pm
You made our point for us, Ms. Korenko. You sound angry and burnt out. I wouldn’t date you for all the cash in the world. Younger women are a great alternative for guys like me (60-plus and wealthy), because they APPRECIATE us. I pity your three ex-husbands. Well, hopefully they’re happy now.
June 25th, 2007 at 1:18 am
All of you are sinners. Pre-marital sex is a serious offense toward God. Hooking up with women half your age isn’t normal, guys. Can’t you see it? Stop being pawns for Satan and wise up! Marraige is a lifelong thing, kitty. The fact you have been maried three times should tell you that you aree the problem, not your ex-husbands. You’re no better than the men. You all need to repent today.
June 25th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
I too enjoy a little of the young stuff from time to time. Some of them can be a little obnoxious, always wanting to borrow the credit card, but as long as I don’t mind playing Sugar Daddy, it all works out. You are right about the older ones, Aaron. They are a real handful and not worth the hassle, in most instances.
June 26th, 2007 at 2:15 am
I never heard about this until now. Where are all these hot young babes? I know there not where I live (Boise, Idaho).
June 26th, 2007 at 8:31 pm
I like younger women too. They are more fun to be around. They don’t complain all the time and they just like to hang out.
June 26th, 2007 at 10:05 pm
You guys are all losers. I cannot believe some of these comments. Older women have so much to offer and if you can’t see that then you are hopeless. There are a lot more important things in this world than how someone looks.
June 27th, 2007 at 11:11 am
I like old women, they are fun to be with. any one need love, please contact me. michealwiz@yahoo.com
June 27th, 2007 at 4:52 pm
I like young guys. There is also a big movement out there of young men going out with older, more mature women. It’s not like you older fellas have cornered the market on going out with people younger than you. Women are enjoying the young stuff too!
June 27th, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Funny stuff. I laughed my ass off!
June 27th, 2007 at 11:27 pm
I like the younger babes too! They love me because I’m still a big kid, even though I am almost 60. They don’t have bratty kids and they don’t bitch at me if I am late or want to hang out with my buddies.
June 28th, 2007 at 10:13 pm
Hilarious, with the exception of the comments. Wow, people, lighten up!
#32 always makes me hot…
June 29th, 2007 at 2:03 pm
Hey everybody! Thanks for reading my article and making the piece the second most popular one on this site. I had no idea that I would be stirring up so much controversy with this topic. I myself dated a younger woman for a while a few years back, but it didn’t work out because she was insane. She actually tried to slit her wrists one night after we had a fight. But, when the relationship was good, it was great. Something about dating someone younger than yourself just seems to energize you. She had a fascination about life that made her fun to be around. Now I’m engaged to a woman four years younger than me and we’re just happy being in our 40’s and in love. My dating days are over, but I can live vicariously through my readers who are still out there on the front lines. Thanks for all the feedback and keep an eye out for my next article on www.15minutedate.com. I hope you enjoy reading all of the content on this site as much as I do!
June 29th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
Sounds like Aaron and Phil just proved Ms. Korenko’s point: why would older women be attracted to insecure men who are afraid to date an equal partner with their own set of opinions, thoughts, and experiences? Personally, I’d rather stay out of the shallow end of the dating pool. Women of ALL ages are sexy.
June 29th, 2007 at 11:06 pm
Right on, Jay. My feelings exactly. Old, young, fat, skinny, smart. witty, black, white, etc. — I love them all. (From afar since I’m attached, however. Who knows when my fiancee might be reading this!)
June 30th, 2007 at 2:44 am
I’m a 52-year-old woman who looks like a 30-year-old. With me you get the best of ALL worlds!
June 30th, 2007 at 11:45 pm
Wow. I was just curious what other people thought about this subject. Toni - you are so right! An older woman with confidence, intelligence, and enough self respect to keep themselves in good shape is the best of ALL worlds. And it is a 2-way street.
PS - It must suck to be Kitty, Kyle, or Susan
July 1st, 2007 at 1:24 pm
ok i think this is the bottom line in this young vs.old female.
I’m 68 ,just look around any of you,anywhere,at the majority of woman
say 45 to 70,nothing but overweight,almost obese,uncaring witches.
Just try any dating service in that age range maybe 1 in 500 will be slim
lets face it men are animals/hunters we like eye candy.
on the other hand a woman searches for whats inside a man.
its all b.s anyhow
July 1st, 2007 at 9:23 pm
Hey Kitty, your offended about the comment that the person above you made, and then you end your post by practically degrading younger women…. so its not ok to insult an “older” women (cause you fall in that category) buts its ok for you to insult “younger” women (since it doesnt directly affect you, right?) sheesh, double standards at its best (my point was you should have promoted what older women have to offer, which is alot, and not downplay the qualities or intelligence of younger ones)
My partner and i are 32 years apart and we got quite a laugh from the article, its so narrowminded that i doubt anyone could take this seriously. Its not about age its about what people have in common and despite the skeptics out there may-december romances can work no problem, and some of these couples have alot more in common then people would believe.
Great article, made me smile
Thanks
Anna
July 3rd, 2007 at 3:26 am
Anna, it’s interesting that you should mention what people have in common. This is the argument that most people who are opposed to May/December romances give against it. After all, what could people from different generations have in common? They don’t like the same bands. They don’t like the same movies. Like that is what makes a relationship work. When talking about having something in common I like to think it is something deeper and more profound than having the same interests, like their basic philosophy. I believe that age should not be a factor in a relationship any more than race, religion or culture should be.
Kity, you just proved Aaron’s point (not that all older women are like you). You clearly are bitter. 3 divorces and none of them are your fault? Maybe the guys did treat you like doo doo, but you picked them. There are decent guys out there.
July 3rd, 2007 at 6:26 pm
Enjoyed the funny stuff but I was also saddened by the comments. I would love to date older women but bitter doesn’t really cover them. Desperately evil might be better. They seem to try and entrap men as fast as they can and then quickly go for the gold. I have been hit by this with many of the older women I have dated.
The younger women seem to be more relaxed and fun to be with. I feel like I am being weighed in a set of commercial scales whenever I date older women. They are giving me twenty questions all leading to how much money do I have. Young women many times just want to have spontaneous fun. If it requires money I don’t feel pressured to pay for everything with younger women. Older women try to force me in the place vacated by their long gone husband or husbands. I think I will stay with the young ones. These older witches can soon turn you into a broke frog wondering how you could have been so stupid.
July 3rd, 2007 at 8:34 pm
Wow, what a funny article, Ed. Looks like you’ve got a lot of people going in different directions here. I am a youngish gal (26) married to a wonderful husband who is quite a lot older than me (59). We love each other so much and just want to be around each other 24/7. He was married twice before, and both his ex-wives are dried up, spent prunes who are so bitter and unhappy that frowns and grimaces are their normal facial expressions. My husband has to deal with them, because he had kids with both of these shrews, but that’s the price he’s paying for being stupid. His one ex (I call her the Joker because she’s had so much plastic surgery she looks like she’s wearing a clown’s mask) reminds me so much of this Kitty Korenko. What a totally unhappy woman. My advice to older men is this — stick to the younger ladies — they’re not damaged yet!
July 4th, 2007 at 2:53 am
Man, this subject really brings out the fire in folks. Me, I like older guys. I always have. They are smarter, wiser and have $$.
July 4th, 2007 at 4:29 am
I do believe that there’s a strong primal component to a man’s attraction to younger women and a woman’s attraction to wealthy men. It’s the whole “he’s seeking fertility and she’s seeking a nest builder/protecter” thing. It’s hard wired into us to perpetuate the species.
July 4th, 2007 at 3:31 pm
Ladies love me because I’m sexy. It does not matter that I am old.
July 4th, 2007 at 6:18 pm
In Japan, we like older men because they are more virile and can support our expenisive life styles better. Young mans are to laught at. Matur men are to sleep with. This is thw way of my peeople/
July 5th, 2007 at 6:04 pm
lol… hilarious…
well dating older guy is kind of having the sense of security, maturity…
July 5th, 2007 at 7:39 pm
I like the older babes myself. And I’m 20 years old. They are smarter, more vibrant and know a lot more about life. Sure, gravity has caught up with most of them, but if you can look past the sagging flesh and wrinkles, there’s an incredible antique diamond in the rough there. Young women are mostly hoochies. At least where I live they are. I’m not into one-nighters anymore. You have to talk once in a while, know what I’m saying?
July 6th, 2007 at 1:45 am
50 reasons is too much. Some women like older men but I think the majority wants a confident man who treats them with respect and is kind and friendly.
July 6th, 2007 at 2:36 am
In my 20’s I only dated older women in their 40’s. It is fun both ways.
July 6th, 2007 at 6:51 pm
My girlfriend right now is 32 years older than me. It works, because she takes care of me and respects me. I’m not looking for a mother figure. We just met one day and fell in love. Plus, her daughter’s hot (just kidding!)
July 6th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
When i’m in my 80’s I want SEVEN BLONDE GIRLFRIENDS who are in their 20’s. Just like HEF!!
July 8th, 2007 at 3:33 am
I likes all the ladies, regardless of age, color, size or shape. They all look good to me. I do like them quiet, though. A yacky gal is a major turnoff. Silent but deadly is more my stlye. I see myself with an Angelina Joley type of woamn. But, she is already with Brad, so I guess I need tio look elsewhere. If any of youse beauties are looking for a 65-year-old mensa black man who knows hows to treat yo rite, e-mail me at funnyasIam@metroed.net
July 9th, 2007 at 1:10 am
I have always had a very special way with all the ladies, but the older ones just seem to gravitate toward me. It might be because I drive a Benz and look much younger than I am (36). I love the older set because they’re so much more willing to give. Younger babes are selfish and much more self-absorbed.
July 9th, 2007 at 2:45 pm
I’m in my 20’s and I find myself having more in common with older men. For example, I love classical music and going to symphonies and operas. I love visiting museums and art galleries. And I also enjoy reading books on business and investment.
I find that most guys my age don’t care about the same things that I love to do. They’d rather listen to those bands, play video games, and they rarely read anything (ok, maybe the textbook haha). But when I go out with older men I have so much more to talk about. Maybe I’m just different from other girls, but I’m just saying this May-December thing might suit some people better.
July 9th, 2007 at 6:10 pm
Double wow. I never anticpated this kind of feedback on my article, but I’m really enjoying it. The comments just keep coming on this topic and I love it. We’ve really gotten a wide range of feedback from a bunch of folks here and it’s great. Good for you, Ava. You’re a sophisticated woman and you require a sophisticated man. You go girl!
July 9th, 2007 at 8:42 pm
I’m a 34 yo man, and I find mature (older) ladies much more attractive. Many are quite beautiful still, elegant and young at heart. It’s easy to have an interesting conversation and to find common ground. I also find that a older woman is more comfortable with herself and with her view of life. There is less chance they will change a lot over time. Mature women know how to conduct themselves, know how to carry on a conversation, and know how to give respect.
The younger women I dated (say 24-26 yo) just didn’t have the right view of life. I try to be nice so I don’t point out things I don’t like, but I could see it was hopeless to have a relationship, even if the younger woman seems to be rather interested. Younger woman I found seem to play some sort of game, seem to be afraid to reveal their feelings. It’s difficult to become true friends, and they sometimes act like the older man is with them because of a sexual desire. If we must talk sex, let me say that I’m not too impressed with what younger women have to offer. Younger women seem not to understand the meaning of friendship, intimacy, sex and love.
Let me end with a quote from a former date with a younger lady. When tried to steer the conversation toward current events, I asked about her thoughts on the situation in Asia. Her answer “I think can’t we all just get along?” Hmmm I thought…..smiling gently, not knowing what else to say.
July 9th, 2007 at 10:36 pm
Aaron Goldberry, you hit it on the head with your statement, yes, young women like to play head games, but when you treat them right, the possibilities are endless, unless of course they’ve been hurt and it is fresh, then it is best to treat them with kid gloves and get that fresh, hot body while it’s still hot! However, if she can love you, then why not love her back. Im 35 and you best believe I will bed down an 18 year old in a minute, no questions asked and she will still get dinner, a movie and maybe a concert, happy hunting and young ladies, there are nice guys no matter what the age, who will treat you right….
July 10th, 2007 at 8:09 pm
What situation in Asia Mark, does’t have to do with age sweety.
July 10th, 2007 at 10:17 pm
What Mark was saying is that the woman was uninformed and not up on her current affairs. A good reason to get another current affair.
July 11th, 2007 at 2:14 am
I am 28 and currently in a “relationship” with a 52 y/o man. He’s intelligent, witty and spontaneous. We discuss politics, movies, sports, life in general. We have fun together. Younger men want to talk about beer and cars and women. That is boring. Even though I enjoy all of those things, my brain turns to mush if that’s the amount of stimulation that I get. I have much more to offer than what I could possibly get back from a boy that hasn’t experienced life. I get butterflies when I am around him. He’s sexy and makes me feel sexy. We have amazing sex. Women, these men know what they are doing, they know how to please a woman both in and out of bed. They aren’t selfish and they definitely ARE attentive to your needs and desires. I’ve primarily dated younger men (a year or 2) but NO MORE!
July 11th, 2007 at 7:54 am
Wow!!!!! Good comments, bad ones and lots of angry comments. I am 66 and madly in love with a lady that is fifty. What I am in love with is her! not her age or looks. known her for ten years as a friend with no contact and none attempted. Both single now and she is wonderful. She laughs and talks for hours with me. Her kids are well behaved and easy to love. She takes care of herself and so do I. Sometimes we both act like 18 year olds and at other times you might find us dicussing E=MC sq. Yes she is smart and yet she plays like a 16 year old sometimes. I believe a woman can be anything she wants given the right man and chances. Saddled with the wrong man or father or mother she can get fat or stay uneducated just as easily as a man. Older or younger we all are what we have made ourselves or allowed ourselves to become. Right now there isn’t another woman in the world that could drag me away from my beloved Kathy.
July 12th, 2007 at 12:35 am
I am always amused by you Americans. You put so much weight on how someone looks. No wonder your divorce rate is so high. In France. men and women are able to look beyond the physical to the mental and spiritual things about people that really matter. Until you get a clue about relationships in your country, you will always be playing second fiddle to the superior race known as Francais! You like to say we are rude, but the fact is we are just smarter and we find you boring and tiresome. That’s why we come off as rude. My wife is 48 and I am 29, and we get along famously. It’s because we care about each other and respect what’s inside, as opposed the size of her breasts or the size of my nose.
July 12th, 2007 at 7:13 pm
i want any older woman who would love to date me and have a relationship with me forever
July 12th, 2007 at 7:46 pm
Cote, you are so young and forgetful. Ask your 48 year old wife who saved your asses in WW 2. If it wasn’t for us you Francais would be speaking German today.
July 12th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
I do 2 no how to txt
July 13th, 2007 at 7:36 pm
my sister married a guy in his 50’s when she was early 30’s-
now he is in his 80’s and she has a lover, and basically
abuses the old husband–
it might be ok for the guy for a while but chances of a much
younger woman really hanging around ’till death do us part’
not that good…
also for younger women–they need to think of health
consequences of involvement with promiscuous older
men…
July 13th, 2007 at 10:53 pm
CG approximately 25-30 years seems pretty successful. I would be happy with those results. In that case when I turned 80 boot her cheatin butt out and find me a sexy 50 year old. Also my son runs a blood center…College kids are a ragin epidemic disease wise. They run the course from AIDS to hepatitis. He was saying 3 out of 10 had some disqualifying infection. So watch out for young and old when it comes to exchanging fluids.
July 14th, 2007 at 7:21 pm
You are an arrogant American, Money. How dare you insult the French. Take it back or face the guillotine, you Yankee scumbag!
July 15th, 2007 at 11:57 pm
I have owned a lot of bars and I’ve found that the young women just drink way too much. It’s no fun to go out with a young babe and then have her get really smashed. I’ve dated a ton of young women (I was married to one for close to 10 years) and sometimes I feel more like a designated driver than a significant other.
July 16th, 2007 at 5:11 am
Wow,Kitty you really do know how to pick them? You can’t blame all three men for possibly ending these relationships can you? I mean im sure you did certain things for the marriages to end. If you really think men are jerks you can end up bitter and alone or go date a female=]
Cote , you dislike americans and we are arrogant? Yes I am arrogant and I don’t mind admitting to that. Glad you can admit you have a big nose and so on as well if we are so annoying and arrogant than why bother reading what we have to say and keep replying to everyones comments? Childish and Highly interested in us Lovely Americans I see… We are very appealing I know it and so do you!
So I myself am and 18 yr old lady and the most common phrase I hear is “Age is nothing but a number” typically from older men. I myself just met an older man and he is quite the ladies man he is 36 and I have know him since i was 18 he is my dad’s friend.(I know right) He recently told me he has had thoughts about me since I turned 18 and he think’s im quite attractive and so on..Likewise he is hard worker and handsome. I can’t see myself seeing him with my dad and then on the side with me I think it’s wrong.Perhaps if he was not a friend.
Oh and young ladies were all going to be old so don’t think all these men trash talking older women..they basically are talking smack to us…We will be at that age so they need to shush. Appreciate youth as well as matureness.
-Cat
July 16th, 2007 at 11:58 am
For Brie … who married her old fart.. Yes his shriveled up dried prune ex -wives are who they are today becaues he has been through them. Your turn will also come. They also started out young and fresh. Makes you think. As for a bitter and twisted older women - I also prefer the younger fresh men for the same reasons the old farts like younger women - to use their bodies - definelty not for the stimulating conversation. The difference is - older women don’t have to PAY for the privilage of younger flesh, the willing to do it for free… no strings attached and we dont want to be looked after. We also older an experienced enough to know the difference. So let grandpa PAY and continue to babysit you
July 16th, 2007 at 3:08 pm
I like your attitude Cat. You seem very mature for your young age. It’s refreshing. Would you consider dating a 48-year-old?
July 16th, 2007 at 5:43 pm
Welll, unfortunately the political hatred of men dating younger women in the USA has turned into an actual law.
The International Marriage Broker Regulation Act (IMBRA) forces websites that introduce Americans to foreigners (all dating websites do that) to background check the Americans before contact is allowed. You can read up on that at www.onlinedatingrights.com.
The logistics of the background check are such that contact never happens or is greatly delayed in most cases.
Both Democrat and Republican politicians voted for this (except Ron Paul and Tom Tancredo) and the media is mostly silent about it: the media is run by corporations that want the Internet to be regulated so people are not anonymous anymore.
The Supreme Court will quietly uphold the law in a year or two, permanently ending the 1st Amendment Right to Assembly.
Regarding the above subject, it may seem that the bitter older women are in the minority online, but they control the Bipartisan Women’s Caucus in Congress.
It stands to reason: the younger women who want to bed down the male senators have less power than the female senators. The female senators get revenge with laws like IMBRA. The male senators allow themselves to be castrated.
It used to be that the Democrats protected “the patriarchy” before 1968 when the Republican Party was mostly women. Then there was a period when men really had their fun until 1986 when the Christian Right took control of the Republican Party and joined the anti-male feminists in pretending that there was a heterosexual Aids crisis…thus ending the Sexual Revolution they hated so much (because they did not want to see men having fun).
Since 1986, the Republican Party and the Democratic Party have been more anti-male than political parties in any democracy in history (even Sweden). Top level female senators in both parties are like the woman above with three ex-husbands and a chip on her shoulder about men dating younger women. Look especially at Maria Cantwell and Hillary Clinton. They are not going to be happy until all heterosexual men over 40 are unhappy. Meanwhile, there are man-hating males like Sam Brownback in the Republican Party.
July 16th, 2007 at 9:31 pm
Jack: Hillary has a lot of reasons to hate 40-something men. This law sounds like pay back for Monica, Gennifer and all of the other hoochies Bill bedded down over the years.
July 17th, 2007 at 12:08 am
Haha.. this was hilarious! Here’s an interesting article on the same subject of dating men that are significantly older (or younger) than you:
http://www.savvymiss.com/love-advice/love-relationship-advice/love-and-relationships-archive/article/what-his-age-means-for-your-relationship-2870.html
It’s also a list, but also included the pros/cons of dating younger men, which I prefer. I don’t think I could get used to eating dinner at 4pm.
July 17th, 2007 at 1:33 pm
wow, this topic is so cool. im 22 the nxt person il want to date has to be from 45 onwards, im tired of small frustrating boys,
anyone there?
holla: mourinew@gmail.com
July 18th, 2007 at 1:29 am
I love the younger gals myself, because they are just fun to hang out with. In Tahiti, it’s fully acceptable for a man to go out with a woman who is much younger than he is. We’re just too hung up on age in this country.
July 19th, 2007 at 7:11 pm
It’s always been older guys for me. When I was 18 I went out with a 32-year-old. When I was 24 I went out with a 40-year-old. And now that I’m 35, my man is 60.
I know what I like and I like older doods!
July 21st, 2007 at 6:09 am
I’m 24 and with a 45 year old and I’m SICK of everyone making such a big deal out of it and reducing our relationship into its age component. When I fell for him I didn’t realize he was 45, I just really really really really really really really liked him A LOT.
July 23rd, 2007 at 3:38 am
I should have hooked up with you in college when I had a chance, Ed. Instead I married some doctor and got divorced. Great article. I always knew you’d be a great writer.
July 26th, 2007 at 1:50 pm
Younger women don’t stimulate me mentally or socially. Sure, they have nice bodies, but I’m the kind of person who loves a good brain and a great conversation more than I do a hot little bod.
July 27th, 2007 at 2:28 pm
TO KYLE RAPTON:
First of all, I am tired of christians judging others. You of all people should know that the only one allowed to judge is God. 2nd. Maybe you should be using forums like this to witness, not turn people off to God and christianity. 3rd My boyfriend is 14 years older than me, we attend church every sunday, pray together and have not had premarital sex. I am happy and things are perfectly normal.
July 27th, 2007 at 5:59 pm
Psst, money2145: France’s entry into the revolutionary war saved our butts. If it wasn’t for the French, we’d all be speaking with British accents.
This May-December thing smacks of a double standard. To judge from some of the comments, wealth and sophistication automatically entitle a man to serially date nubile twentysomethings for the rest of his life. Meanwhile women get thrown on the ash heap the moment they turn 35 and derided as pruny, wrinkly, bitter old hags.
And this arrangement benefits women how?
Reducing romantic relationships to the level of economic transactions (woman’s hot body in exchange for man’s experience and $$$) isn’t really the best foundation for a healthy, long-lasting partnership. Fall in love with a person, not a set of attributes.
July 28th, 2007 at 11:27 pm
I cannot believe the dialog that this article has created. 70 comments? Unbelievable. I especially like the latest comment, submitted by Jessica Myers. I think you stated it perfectly, Jessica.
July 29th, 2007 at 5:47 pm
I like older fellas. I’m 22 and I’m dating a 23 year old.
July 29th, 2007 at 8:34 pm
One of the comments here talks about all of the STD’s that young people carry. I am a victim of it, so I know. I’m 44, and I went out with a 20-something gal for about a year. She was tramping around, and within six months gave me body mites, the herps and something else the doctors haven’t been able to ID yet. If you are going to sleep with younger ladies, BEWARE men. These babes are out there having one nighters and picking up diseases!
August 1st, 2007 at 7:12 pm
Man, I love these kind of diatribes and they resonate with me on so many different levels. Young b’s do it for me and always will, because they are vivacious, loquaicoius and when they do me right — they so, so very d-licious! It’s a quandry that I’ve injected myself into and I love every single minute of it. If there are any younsters out there (you must be at least 22) I’d love to hear from you. I am 51, but I possess the energy of a 25-year-old!
August 2nd, 2007 at 1:35 pm
i would love to date An older woman,because they are more matured and caring than the younger one and Good in Bed aswell.while as a young Guy i make them happen in terms of love making and other things they want from me.
Murphy
Positive_black@yahoo.co.uk
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:33 pm
I have known my friend, an older man for now 18 years, and we have always had a spouse. Well, one day we were finding ourselves single, and he called me up. Mind you, we have been teasing each other for all those years.. and well when we got together.. hence his call, WOW, better than I expected. we love to do all sorts of things we used to like to do.. but now we can go the step further….. what a total blast! He is 18 years older than me. I am 40.
August 2nd, 2007 at 3:53 pm
I’m a 28 year old female who is dating a 51 year old man (he’s older than my mother), dating now 1 1/2 years. I’ve had a crush on him for going on 4 yrs now. I pursued him finally when i gotten enough courage. He doesn’t have money or anything fancy and we just hang out at home, fishing and etc. He tries to give me money for things but I don’t accept it because it is not why I am with him. We go out and I pay because I never want him to think that is why I am with him. I fell so hard in love with him. Watching him work, being around him, talking to him, he is so hot!! There isn’t anything i wouldn’t do for him. If he were to ask me to marry him, I would in a heartbeat. I envision being his wife, making love to him everynight. Circumstances don’t allow that to happen. He leaves so much happiness in my heart, I don’t even see old or gray when I look at him. We laugh and have a great time just being together sitting on the porch or anything that doesn’t require money. I get younger guys trying to pursue me all the time. I’m told I could be a model if i wanted. And I’ve never had trouble getting a guy. I have guys hitting on me all the time young and old wherever I go but I am not conseded. This is the first older man I have been with and even he doesn’t understand why I want to be with him because he thinks I am too beautiful and could have any man I wanted. People look at him and look at me and think it has to be for money but he has nothing. I grew close to this man and it is possible to love an older man not for money but for love. When I was younger, I wouldn’t give older men (40’s or older) a second glance. (My sister married a man 22 years older than her age and I found that sickening and thought too it couldn’t be for love. They have 2 children and been married over 10yrs.) I was just like everyone else and couldn’t see until it happened to me, age is really just a number. And you can’t change with or without money who your heart falls in love with. But now I would never go back to younger guys after being with an older man. They have to be 50 or plus. Older men (50 plus) Rock!!!
August 2nd, 2007 at 11:32 pm
You guys are making me believe in soulmates. Just when I though falling in love was hard enough, you people are changing the rules by showing there are no rules. Decency, respect, understanding, compassion, attraction, compatablity all count for the ‘real’ things in life. Age has no boundaries within healthy decency and all else just ‘happens’.
You guys are going to have people watching the ‘Lifetime’ channel or ‘WE’ if you keep it up. Next thing you know people will start having open minds and embracing social acceptance…and then you know what will have? Peace and a sense of community. Next thing you know people will start caring about one another and going the extra mile and then where will we be? Next thing you know we will start loving our neighbors and really caring about our fellow man. Be careful….this thinking can snowball.
August 8th, 2007 at 2:59 pm
I would like to meet some older, muy experienced ladies. They could teach me the things I need to learn, like how to make old school love. I am anxious to learn about many of your American traditions, likwe the Cincinnatti Bow Tie and, of course, the Cleveland Steamer.
August 9th, 2007 at 6:22 pm
hi my names sophie and im 17 and im deting a 48 year old man and im very happy with him but other people will critisize that which i cant understand because the main thing in your life is to be happy and if that is by dating an older person so be it, i totally respect anyone who is in the same situation as me and good luck to you .
August 9th, 2007 at 7:37 pm
I have dated the older men and yes they have the money and things that go along with that, but I have to say I choose the younger man, as they are just as eager to please and who wants to sleep with an out of shape old man…its not just men that want someting good to look at…lol
very fit 41 yr old
August 9th, 2007 at 7:52 pm
Wow! I recently turned 40 and thought it was all over as I felt I was starting my journey down the hill. Few women don’t even know I’m 40 as I look at least 10 years younger. I’m a Christian male whose never found my better half, which makes me the butt of 40-year-old-virgin jokes. Many people in North American society don’t think it’s normal for a male to go without sex for this long. Would you believe I’m probably the only virgin in the military? For me the emphasis was never on sex. I enjoy romance and would really be into foreplay should the opportunity arise. The slow lane is where it’s at since there’s more time to appreciate what really matters. This blog has been a breath of fresh air for me. Keep the comments coming everyone!
August 10th, 2007 at 12:13 am
I see that this subject is still a hot one and the comments just keep coming. Thanks for your responses. They’re very interesting to say the least. To some of you I would say the following: youngjealousy: Good for you. It sounds like you really love your older man. Raoul Garzita: Do you really want to do a Cleveland Steamer? I have a feeling you don’t know what it actually is, because it’s not pleasant (I’ve never tried it!). Sophie: Hats off to you for dating an older man, but I would keep the fact that you’re only 17 to yourself. In most states, your boyfriend could be in a whole lot of trouble for being with a girl who’s under 18.
And finally, to Dawn: Hey, if you like the younger guys, more power to you. I’m sure you can teach them some things that they’ll find useful in the future!
August 10th, 2007 at 7:19 pm
I like the old babes. They rock my world and give me wood!
August 10th, 2007 at 8:26 pm
ALL the younger women dating older guys are completely blinded by love. They ALL think it’s going to be perfect FOREVER, but long term, it’s doomed 85-95% of the time.
You cannot escape Father Time’s clutches. Trust me.
August 10th, 2007 at 8:27 pm
I mean 10-15 years diff, it’s nothing. But 20+, problems will rise SOON.
August 12th, 2007 at 12:26 am
it’s so good knowing there are people like me out there…. I’m in love with a 15 yrs older man and I don’t care about his look, or his money because we just click so easy. It’s all about love, security, romance, and communication. But like everyone else, I’m having to go through the issue of people saying things, worse is that I’m 24 looking 18 and he’s 39 looking 40 and somewhat above, and another case of “40 yr old virgin”. However, that’s not what i see when i look at him… I guess love is blind. I really don’t care what strangers think, but i’m having a hard time with my family. It’s hard.
August 12th, 2007 at 5:44 pm
Il Multino finds older women tiresome and boring. They are always yacking, yacking, yacking — trying to impress you with what they know. Younger women talk less and do more. They are better by far!
August 12th, 2007 at 6:47 pm
i know many relationships with age difference..man older ..all the woman are unhappy eventually ..and if older man love them so much why would they want to subject a relatively young woman to take care of an elderly man..usually these old farts leave their respective wifes and children and find a selfish hussie to get their money ..and after a while the hussie turns into what she was all along a whore ..that wanted to escape work ..and he will be an old fool that gets help from other man ….a 50 year old man looses testosterone just like a 50 year old woman is about to go into menopause god new what he did….most older man that go there are either sociopathic or otherwise with a character disorder ……
August 12th, 2007 at 11:26 pm
I had to read this one after I read the other one by Ed. I found this one jusrt as entertaining and engaging. You should have your own dating site, Ed. Your insights are hilrious. I agree that young babes satsify a need that I can’t find anywhere else. They are fresh and clean with a lot less baggage than the older ladies. It’s a force of nature — we have no control over it.
August 13th, 2007 at 10:46 pm
This makes me laugh but somehow there are some truth in it. I won’t 100% agree on the financial bit, but surely ladies are attracted to mature, torlerant, and giving characteristics.
Please make sure he does not have too much baggage (ex and kids), otherwise, it can be really hard to handle if you are not after his money.
August 14th, 2007 at 3:59 am
well i can honestly say that even at my young age (23) i still fancy younger girls. Its look and good bodies that really count for me. I dont do older women as i feel old around tem plus a lot of them are just too bossy and selfish. Besides not all younger girls are gold diggers. Some of them date men with less money then men much younger then them and when im older ill be going out with girls much younger then me even if they are young enough to be me daughter.
August 15th, 2007 at 6:06 am
I’m a 41-year-old beautiful woman married to a 62-year-old distinguished man; 6 years now. This posting is TOTALLY true! He loves me and dotes over my daily needs. He’s the BEST lover! I do have an AARP card! I do dine at Morton’s weekly. We vacation well and I’ve never been happier! Older men is where it’s at!
August 18th, 2007 at 8:38 pm
This is totally TRUE that: - I divoced my ex last year. I got married when I was 23 and he was 48, hence, 25 years of difference. The relationship lasted 7 years. He was a nice guy, very caring and loved me a lot. It ended because I could not handle his baggages: his 3 ex wives, and 6 children. It was too much for me ( in my 20s) to go through all these and a grandma in my early 30s… well, he is married the 5th time to someone younger (none of my business). But I have to say, my view of young women and old men is a very mixed one…. It has many ‘plus’ if the chemistry is right, but, if the baggage is too much and you do not have supports from you friends and families –it’s difficult. all in all, do not go against the norms.
The article is witty, and might be true to some extent, but not all young women are there for money. Some older guys are a lot more mature, polite and nicer.
August 21st, 2007 at 12:17 am
The younger the better I always say. I’d rather have three 20-year olds than one 60-year old any day!
August 21st, 2007 at 11:53 am
I married a man 14 years older than I was when I was twenty. At the time the age difference didn’t seem to matter. Time wore on though and we seemed to have less in common. I remember receiving a pant suit (!) in a gawdy color and didn’t want to hurt his feelings by telling him I wore jeans not middle aged stretch pant things. Problem was, he couldn’t see me! (After all, I lived in jeans and t-shirts everyday. Shouldn’t have been too hard to figure out!) He simply was trying to turn me into a woman his age. I wanted to play tennis and go bike riding. He wanted to go fishing with the guys and leave me home, waiting to cook the fish. He thought I was crazy when I said I wanted to go fishing too.
Now the odd part here is that after our divorce, he later told me that he’d been most attracted to my youthfulness and the way I was so naive. It has bothered me every since, because upon turning fifty I did a lot of thinking about my relationship with him and as well as dating relationships. I was a typical cheerleader type in appearance, and well, due to middle age and refusal to live on yogurt, apples, and water for the rest of my life, I’ve added a few pounds and…I look my age(!) for the first time in my life!
Is it possible that men never were attracted to me for my personality and values and interests? Or was it just the physical thing? Sad, if this is the case. I truly am procrasting in even thinking about another relationship, since I figure there will be a million younger women constantly catching the attention of the man I’m with, and sorry, but that would just seem odd playing 2nd fiddle to some imaginary love of his life.
Maybe I’d do better to follow the lead of the older men, and in my case, play mother to a younger man. lol I could deal with that!
August 21st, 2007 at 5:32 pm
I’ll let you go fishing with us, Riley. And I promise to never buy you stretch pants. I don’t even care that you’ve put on a few lbs!
August 22nd, 2007 at 11:03 am
Well, thank you, Steve! It’d be a pleasure. I actually do wear stretch pants (jogging pants) these days sometimes, but it isn’t all about glamour and fashion anymore. Good grooming, yes, but it sure is nice to finally be okay with who I really am!
August 25th, 2007 at 9:40 pm
Bears don’t go through the young-old trip, because we love our boyfriends for all of the right reasons. The gay community doesn’t okay these games that you hetero’s thrive on!
August 28th, 2007 at 12:44 am
Young people with old souls are the perfect combination.
August 28th, 2007 at 6:11 pm
Why do people insist on forcing stereotypes based on age? Comments up here range from older women being bitter and over-the-hill to younger women carrying diseases and only dating older men for money and/or experience. Is it such a long shot to consider that a person might have a certain sort of personality or motivation not based on how old they are but rather because that’s the sort of person they are? I’m 23 and in a year-long relationship with a 53 year old. We’re very happy and extremely compatible in both personal philosophies as well as interests, and while we do have some minor differences (ie. I enjoy my video games, he enjoys his Formula One) at the end of the day it’s nice to learn new things from each other.
Many people assume that a younger woman will get with an older man purely for the money, the car, the free rent, and what not. The thing is, there are older woman who do the same thing. I’ve known people in High School (male and female) that dated for the same reasons, just as I’ve known people of all ages who were with their partners out of love and because they genuinely enjoyed being together. I’m young, but I don’t enjoy going to night clubs, or drinking, or any of the other stereotypes you could class a young woman with. I like old movies and old (read: good) bands like Led Zeppelin. My point is, try to look beyond a person’s age and look at what KIND of person they are. Don’t blindly assume you know everything about a person from a quick look when you see them walking down the street.
August 28th, 2007 at 8:07 pm
I think you’ve capsulized it perfectly, Maggie. Well put. People should not be categorized, because everyone is different. The fact that you like Led Zeppelin shows you’re an eclectic gal. I remember one time when a young lady was in my room a few years back. She saw a poster of The Beatles on my wall and asked me, “Who are those 3 other guys with Paul McCartney?”
August 30th, 2007 at 12:14 am
Personally I have always been attracted to women my own age. I have dated younger women back in the day but found other than their looks we had little in common. I have been married twice, both wives were within 1 year in age of me. My second wife is half a year younger than me. We are both 54 and have been married for 20 years this spring. Sexually, most older women know what to do and make good lovers. Young gals tend to be gold diggers who get bored easy. I value the maturity of an older woman and the companionship they offer. The young stuff heard of Beatlemania, I lived through it, as well as the assassination of JFK. Admittedly I was young at the time, but at least I remember them and not read them in a history book.
If for some reason my wife passes before me, I will be looking for one of those old gals, with a bit of millage on her. The sex is superior, and they can carry a conversation when we are done.
August 30th, 2007 at 10:53 am
I am a 23 year old woman and I wish to date a guy from the ages of 26 to 32 maximum!! In a bed with an old prune who grunts and groans with bad hair, sweat and pot belly’s? No way! And most oldies I see or even speak to, rarely, are perveted and I know from one experience with a 34 year-old and friend’s that they look at you with amazemnet that they are so lucky to be with a young body, which means the sex is awkward and disgusting.
Apparently it is our natural instinct for women to look for certain qualities in a man as it means that they would be strong and fertile… and old men aren’t. It goes against nature and choosing a young healthy father that would actually produce offspring. Perveted old men? No, men like Brad Pitt, which I know I can get and the way other women and men look at me, is a good thing!
August 30th, 2007 at 3:04 pm
Wow, Melissa, That really hurts. As a 48-year-old (49 tomorrow!) male, I don’t think of myself as perverted and to imagine that sex with me would be “awkward and disgusting” is a really hard thing to think about. Sounds like you’re way into looks, which is nto a criticism, but maybe you should try to look beyond the “bad hair, sweat and pot bellies” and think about a person’s personality a little bit more than what’s on the surface. If you like guys more your age that’s totally understandable, but I’m just saying maybe you should try and think about what old prunes have to offer you once in a while.
August 30th, 2007 at 11:44 pm
I’m 30 dating a man of 49. I love it! He’s wiser, more inclined to a deeper level of communication, and the maturity he offers to our relationship is unsurpassed! I won’t waste my time on men my age. Let the high maintenance women have them. I want a man who can meet my mind and there’s no question about it. Our relationship is built on the things that last beyond years. Isn’t that what women really want anyway? Dating an older man - it’s not just a fling. It’s the real thing!
August 31st, 2007 at 5:19 am
im 26 year old male dating a 17 girl i have know her for about 5 years , friends girlfreinds sister. It has always felt like there was something more beetwen us to me anyways but just recently started dating.Her parents are fine with it but some of my friends are taking it differently, i was just wondering some outside opinions thanks Jw
August 31st, 2007 at 2:44 pm
I like the older bitches.
Sometimes they can be real witches.
But, they got the riches.
And keep me all up in stitches.
(From my newest rap song, “I like dem older ho’s”)
September 2nd, 2007 at 6:14 am
This is so true and sooooo funny!!!! I have always thought that many things get BETTER with age. (i.e., wine, antiques, and men-of course)
Older men tend to be more respectful and hold traditional values, which is a major plus side. They become especially more appealing when compared to the gun toteing, rapping, swearing younger generations.
I will debate with anyone who believes that younger women (like myself-age 29) date older men b/c of “daddy” issues. Have heard of older men being called “sugar daddies.” What is very interesting about this is, the last man that I dated was approx. 30 yrs. older than myself. And…I made more money that he did…lol!!! So, maybe I was his “sugar girl.”
It is my belief that nobody should be judged or put into a boxed category. So, please…the next time you see a younger woman with a mature man, don’t jump to conclusions. It is probably not because she is after his money. She most likely just wants a good conversation with a well-mannered man. Plain and simple facts.
September 2nd, 2007 at 9:08 pm
I’m 46 and dating a 66 year old man. I’m fortunate in that he really does not have any of the negative traits listed in the 50 reasons. So far, I love the age difference—-and, for the record, it has not affected our sex life!
September 3rd, 2007 at 7:44 am
I’m 45 but look early 30’s and its kind of a curse. I feel left behind in some ways. I have also found that woman around my age are generally cold and bitter or as some would say in a hurry for you to make a commitment. I’ve been thru one marriage to a manic depressant 10 years younger than me and of course that didn’t go so well. I loved her energy though. I just met a 22 year old and she is great. We do have a lot in common. She likes a lot of the 80’s metal bands as I do and she doesn’t believe all the BS the government has been feeding us recently. I am so comfortable around her and I can just be myself. I have nothing to prove. Older woman are always looking for something that you did that reminds them of their ex husbands. Then they get all psycho. I left my baggage somewhere in the past and moved on. If anything I have a good friend with the younger girl and yes she is beautiful but not a knock out. I noticed her inner beauty first though. Man I really like this girl and that is so hard to find these days.
September 3rd, 2007 at 11:48 am
Most women nowadays are dating old men to bring success to their life and acquire a beneficial experience .They know that there is a great fortune waiting for them when their dating old men die Thanks for the 50 tips .
Armand Rousso
September 3rd, 2007 at 6:24 pm
I happen to be dating a man 24 years my senior, and we have been together for quite a while now. While these 50 tips were amusing, there are still many barriers to overcome for couples in our situation. I am used to the looks and questions by now, but I want people to know that there are true couples in this situation that want nothing more than to really make their relationship work. I find my boyfriend to be ambitious, charming, intelligent, and very attractive (which are all qualities I happen to posess). I do not want to be with someone because of what they can offer me, rather I chose to be with him because we both want to same things in life. I can take care of myself, but I want someone with the same interests I have to share my life with. In my experience, it is usually the women his age that give us (mainly myself) the most grief. They try to rationalize to themselves why he is with me, and not with them. They think things like that it must be because I am half his age, or just because I am “hot” that he is with me. This is not the case at all. It is comical at times because it is almost like they do not feel as though I deserve a man like him due to my age. When in reality, we make each other equally happy, and have a true relationship with one another. My advice to those women in particular is to go out and find the same amount of happiness in a relationship that I have with him with, and stop being so judgemental about our situation. I just wanted people to know that these relationships do work, and are not as superficial as some may think.
September 3rd, 2007 at 10:38 pm
The comments on this page are just out of this world!! There are some really negative comments, and then of course the positive ones too. I quite enjoyed reading the bitter “older lady” comments as well…
Well, this is my take on this subject….
I have always been with women, yes, thats right, I was a lesbian.. and just recently I have discovered that I want to ‘jump the fence’ and experience a man.. and not just any man, I want an older man. A lot of you are probably asking yourself why, and keep in mind that I am only 24yrs old…. well here is why:
- older men know what they are doing(or atleast they should)
- a lot of the younger men around here are soo judgemental that all they care about is who they bed and the stories they can tell their mates the next day
-I’m at that stage in my life where, I’m not a fan of clubs and bars and I don’t want to get dragged around them and have to sit there and listen to the younger men,whom are my age, make crude comments about wanting to take my friends home and include them
- I want two older guys to have fun with, per say…
- I want a man who can please me and fulfill my inner desires, not fumble around like it’s his first time and he has no idea what he’s doing.
Older men are attractive to me… I could care less if they have a ‘pot belly’ as what someone else had recently mentioned.. if they are groaning and making noises, great!! All the better!!! Atleast it means they are having a good time.. I want someone with stability and security, not someone who is bouncing from job to job living in mommy and daddy’s basement!
September 5th, 2007 at 7:20 am
50 Reasons Why Young Women Should Date Older Men, so why not give 50 Reasons Why Young Men Should Date Older Women? LOL. I have met a wonderful woman at online site Agematch.com. She is 51 now and I am 32, I was always attracted to her, and way back then, let her know I was interested, however, it seems the age is the factor, need your suggestions.
September 6th, 2007 at 5:47 am
Well…. i am one of those early twenties girls and my boyfriend is in his late 30’s. I have to say that what caught my attention was how he opened doors for me and pulled out chairs. Of course men now a days have no manners. He treats me wonderfully and teaches me things, of course i am a willing learner as well. Our conversations last for hours and i have never had such a loving relationship in my life. I have quit younger men. I don’t care if men have money or not, I just want them to treat me kindly and i’ll do the same. He grew up in the 80’s and i was born in the 80’s … but it doesn’t bother me, it has been a year and it still doesn’t bother me
So… older men are welcome…..Just treat us good.
September 7th, 2007 at 12:05 am
Vicky, yo sound all the way live, girl. Duz yo belief in luv at foist site, ight?
September 13th, 2007 at 7:20 pm
i am 58 and have been dating younger women since i was 36(she was 18) i am now dating a woman tha tis 32 and i must say i have never in my life been so sexulally satisfied as i am now
September 16th, 2007 at 4:57 am
I’m 28, and still an ultra virgin, which sucks, but I love older men, and this was hilarious. I really fit most of those. e-mail me. if u don’t mind fat and bipolar. thanx
September 19th, 2007 at 9:19 pm
I am currently dating an older man. I am 26 and he is 61. I like that I can have an intelligent conversation with him. He doesn’t fart in front of me, he opens doors, pulls out chairs, listens to me etc. We laugh a lot and I just enjoy being with him. I am a realst and know we will never marry and that this will not be a super long term thing. But right now I am very happy. And the sex is mindblowing!!
Still some of this stuff IS really funny. I never pay for anything when I am with him. And he drives an Infiniti, lives in a nice house etc. I love the stuff about text messaging. bahahaha People sometimes stare at us when we are out in public though…which can be annoying. And I think my father would drop dead if he knew I was dating someone older than him!
September 23rd, 2007 at 2:32 pm
All the ladies here sound fine. Except for that Kitty. She sound angry..mostly at men. Why yo so bitter, little Kitty? You need a big black man like TBL to make you feel better? I’ll starighten yo shit rite up, my sweet lil feline!
September 25th, 2007 at 8:50 pm
I am 44 years old and dating a older man(he’s 71!) He is sweet,loving,thoughful,etc. Most older men I know of are more accepting of a woman’s fault(weight,looks,etc.) They tend to realize that true beauty comes from within and not how you look! Most young guys want a woman who looks like a super model and have the IQ of a house plant! I’m not interested in a sugar daddy because I do have my own money. I love my older fellow because of what is in his heart! Yes,I’ve been hurt in the past too,but, who hasn’t? Being bitter and angry over the past will just eat at you like a cancer!
September 28th, 2007 at 1:28 am
young women are fresher ,-smell better are more easy to get wet skin is more like velvet they are more innocent meaning havent become bitter frustrated yet like most older women of course that youth thing makes one feel good all of us want to be immortal and younger women give you that boost what can I Say to older women-well not much just accept that you are old and stop chasing after younger men but maybe look at dating someone who is financially and emotionally stranded
October 2nd, 2007 at 6:02 am
Shit I am so frustrated. I am a 21 year old female attracted to men in their mid 30s . I don’t like men my age. I don’t know if it’s an issue I have to work out, but I don’t feel like it will ever change…I can’t help it. Older men are sexy , funny, and intelligent. What should I do?
October 2nd, 2007 at 6:17 am
I don’t know what to do? Should I avoid my feelings and wait until I meet someone my own age. I hella want this man who is 35. What should I do? Is he just in it for sex? Does he have “issues” for being attracted to someone of my age?
October 6th, 2007 at 7:09 am
LOL! “Look at me! I’m a dried up old asshat who can’t hold his own with an accomplished woman my own age, so I’m gonna run around with clueless twits and delude myself into thinking that I’m ‘cool’ and ‘hip’ because they like my money!”
Puh-leeze.
Bitter and angry? Hell, yes…because half of our society is a bunch of emotionally retarded idiots.
It gets tiring.
October 6th, 2007 at 6:55 pm
this was geat and supper fun!! but i see it was mainly about wn and money and that is not all women but i am one of those women who date older men because there to stupid to argue and they lay down and just take it because they been married but as for women being bitter im inmy 30 and i am bitter forthe fact that evry man has taught me a lesson you r all the same and only few men are real wish i knew where they lived but there needs to be a book for guys on how to be a man father and husband because you all suck at it. but i love getting a laff and if i could hide a mans teeth i surely would ha ha keep on laughing cuzwome remeber if we dont need a man but a manneeds ushow stupids that.
October 7th, 2007 at 9:23 am
Yo ladies is ruff. I am a sensitive guy who noz how 2 b caring and cool with all you maneaters. But, whoa now lil filly, I can see yo hate us all by yo harsh words, Wonda.
October 9th, 2007 at 5:19 am
Being a 26 yo woman married to a 49 yo man, I found this article to be particularly entertaining! It’s great when you can laugh at yourself. A lot of these “reasons” seem to be jokes more than anything, but there is certainly truth in there. I love being with an older man because he is a gentleman, is intelligent and sophisticated, and never pretends he is something he isn’t, because he is so confident and easygoing. He also doesn’t play video games or drool at every girl that walks by in a short skirt, big plus!
I have no interest in men close to my age because they don’t seem any more mature than they were at age 15, and guys in my generation just don’t know how to treat a woman with respect. I know there are exceptions out there, but those are few and far between (sadly), and usually already taken. I spent a few years in a relationship with someone my age, only because we had a child together, and couldn’t stand the way I had to dumb myself down to speak to him because of his seemingly limited vocabulary, nor could I stand his obsession with video games and porn, inability to control how much alcohol he consumed in one outing, or his outward macho persona to try and cover up his extreme lack of self confidence. What a loser! Might I add that I originally dated him as a teen and accidentally got pregnant before I realized what a moron he was. Having a child made me grow up and mature and realize what really mattered in life, but didn’t seem to have the same effect on him. Luckily I was never dumb enough to marry him. I learned my life lessons and moved forward, beyond any point where he was willing (or capable?) to go.
When I met my husband I fell in love within 10 minutes of speaking with him and didn’t even realize his age, but when I found out it still made not a lick of difference to me! We wasted no time getting married, and two years later and we are still very happy and in love with a beautiful baby boy. I can take comfort in the fact that my daughter now has a father figure in her life that shows her how a man should be treating a woman so she will find someone as wonderful, and my son has a real man, and a gentleman, of a father to look up to for him to grow up to be like. Age doesn’t matter in the face of love. My husband and I have so much in common and love the time we spend together, the family we have created, and we can talk about anything and everything. We compliment each other so well. Were one has a weakness the other has the strength, and we are always there to catch one another.
Oh, and my husband was married before with two children from that marriage, and his ex is quite nice and they get along just fine. So, things didn’t work out for them. They both got over it and moved on, and neither are bitter about it. Just because someone has been divorced doesn’t mean they are damaged or that there is anything “wrong” with them.
I don’t understand why May/December relationships would make anyone angry. Just do what makes you happy and let others do the same. Live and let live.
October 10th, 2007 at 3:14 pm
Excellent post, Zenmomma. Your points are well taken! What works for one couple may not work for another, but why should people fall prey to stereotypes when everyone is different? Sounds like you found your soul mate, and that is what makes it work so well. I have heard the same thing from so many women — that young men today don’t know how to treat women, and I have also seen it for myself here in San Francisco. Is this the way their parents taught them to behave or did they learn it from their peers?
October 12th, 2007 at 7:40 pm
i am italian, french, and irish 6′4 223lbs built. i am from south jersey, single, with my own place. walter_borton@hotmail.com
October 16th, 2007 at 9:55 pm
Yo rockin’ it bro. You in the know. Who knew where this story will go? I have lived a lot of this stuff. My buddy told me about this article and said it was the kind, and he was right! I dug it, man! Just like I dig the yunger hunger!
October 18th, 2007 at 11:54 am
Thanks for the tips. I just met my guy who is much older than me at Agelessmatch.com. Everything goes well between us. I like the older men, they are more mature and responsible, they know what they want and how to get.
October 21st, 2007 at 8:48 am
To the Frenchman (Cote) Do not let the American take credit for much–as he claims for saving you in WWII–nice to sit on the sidelines until the fight is almost over then decide to join in and try take credit.
As far as the age of a man and women whatever works individually, go for it. Please do not judge anyone else for the choice they make!!
October 24th, 2007 at 12:52 am
Live and let live. I am 55 years old and married and whenever you can find happiness or pleasure, go for it!
October 24th, 2007 at 12:28 pm
Hey, stumbled across this and had to throw in my two cents.
I’m 20 and most men I’m attracted to are older than me. I like maturity and conversation. The ‘but you’ll have nothing in common’ argument gets me; I don’t drink much and I’m not into partying - that rules out 90% of guys my age. And I hate rap/hip-hop. I’ll take Bowie over Kanye West, no contest. Forget watching your wallet - you better keep an eye on your record collection. And your bookshelves.
But that said, I’m in my second year of university and I’ve met guys my age who I’m attracted to for the same reasons. Age shouldn’t matter, to either of you.
October 26th, 2007 at 11:34 pm
When a man dates a woman half his age who is the same age as his daughters, I wish he would think about how this makes them feel. It often seems to be the case that the younger woman cares nothing about the feelings of the family, but only what she is getting out of the relationship. Marriage is meant to be a lifelong commitment…a commitment to loving another person and putting their needs above those of ourselves.
October 30th, 2007 at 12:21 am
lol being one of those 20 something i better get old fast or get a move on because -i want mine too-
that was great
October 30th, 2007 at 8:00 pm
Hey, I’m an older guy, and I like women, period. Younger, older, I don;t care as long as they enjoy having fun, aren’t concerned with labels and are adventurous. The younger ones may have a little more energy, but generally I prefer older women, ’cause they’ve got a more developed mind and I find I have more in common with them. Plus, believe it or not, the sex is usually better! My only complaint about some of the women my age is that many of them are hung up on some of the old-school feminist notions that a liberated woman shouldn’t try to please a man. And that’s a huge mistake. Both people in a relationship should go out of their way to make their partner happy.
October 30th, 2007 at 11:28 pm
I CAN UNDERTAND WHERE YOUR COMING FROM I
I’M 22YRS OLD FEMALE STILL A VIRGIN AND NEVER BEEN IN A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP BUT THE GUYS I’VE DATED ARE USUALLY MY AGE OR A 1-5YRS OLDER, BUT MY OPTIONS ARE NOT GREAT BUT THEN AGAIN IT COULD BECAUSE IM IN VEGAS. I FIND MYSELF BEING MORE COMFORTABLE WITH IDEA OF DATING AN OLDER MAN (NO OLDER THAN 60). I LIKE THE IDEA OF BEING PAMPERED BUT THAT WOULDNT BE THE ONLY REASON FOR DATING SOMEONE THAT WOULD JUST BE A QUALITY I WOULD LOOK FOR. NO MATTER THE AGE WE WOULD STILL HAVE TO BE COMPATIBLE YOUNG MEN ARE MISSING SOMETHING DONT GET ME WRONG THERE NICE TO LOOK AT BUT I WANT MORE. YOUNG GUYS ALL THEY WANT IS SEX, THEY ALL ARE FINDING THEMSELFS. I WANT SOMEONE WHOES FOUND HIMSELF AND READY TO TEACH ME WHAT HE’S LEARNED AND MAYBE WE COULD LEARN SOMETHING TOGETHER…..WITH MY FRINEDS THEY ALL LOOK AT ME FUNNY I LOVE OLD BLACK AND WHITE MOVIES EVEN SOME SILENT FILMS, I LOVE ALL TYPES OF MUSIC. ONE THING PEOPLE MISCONSTRUDE ABOUT YOUNG WOMEN JUST BECAUSE WE NEVER HEARD OF A SONG DOESNT MEAN WE WONT LIKE IT OR UNDERSTAND IT THE SAME GOES FOR OLDER MEN WANTING TO DATE YOUNGER WOMEN. THE IDEA IS TO GROW FROM EACH OTHER. AND JUST BECAUSE I HAVE A PREFERENCE (WEALTHY, WILLING TO PAMPER) DOESNT MEAN IT CANCELS OUT THE OHTER PRREFERNCES I HAVE LIKE(HONESTY,CARING,COMPASSIONATE, FUNNY,SPONTANEOUS,INTELLIGENT etc.) ALL THESE ARE GUIDELINES CLIFFNOTES OF A SORT NOTHING CARVED IN STONE WHAT EVER HAPPENS HAPPENS WHO EVER YOU MEET YOU MEET
October 31st, 2007 at 12:36 pm
Hi, I’ve been living with a woman 20 years younger than me for ten years, I’m 50 now, been with her since she was 20, Left her initially after 3 years as I don’t want any more kids, (I’ve had 4 kids with 3 partners before I met her) Thought it was unfair that I was not letting her settle down and have kids etc. but she still wanted to get back with me although I moved cities for 3 years and had no contact with her so she contacted me through friends. She is great and a looker as well with a great body. We get on really well and have just built a house together. Her girlfriends all 30’s are boyfriendless and jealous and always giving me the eye which I do not return as I am not interested in them. I may stay with her and I may leave her because at this stage of my life I know what relationships are about. If they are not good then they are not working so get out. The only time in my life I have been with women older than 30 was in my teenage years and it was great then. I will always be with young women. It works……
November 1st, 2007 at 3:12 am
TO THE FRENCHMAN……….MAY THE FLEAS OF A THOUSAND CAMELS INFEST YOUR ARM PITS………………………..
November 1st, 2007 at 11:16 pm
Huahahahhaa, this is so funny, but i do believe that young girls should date young guys too, n older guys should stop thinking about getting laid, ur time is near man, u guys should think more about the after life..leave all the young girls to US!
November 1st, 2007 at 11:28 pm
Well Ive been dating an older girl for the past 3 years of my life and I’m 22. Well the thing here is that, it doenst matter how old that person is what really matters is whether he or she is mature enough to commit in a relationship. Not all younger guys are immature, stupid and ignorant. My gf is 3 years older than me and sometimes I feel like I am way more mature than she is, we even talked abuot our future, plans and marriage. And we seem to be in the same channel.
So i hope girls out there wont think that all young guys are immature and stupid and they all should go for older guys. There’s still a lot of mature, handsome, caring, loving young guys out there for you girls.
November 3rd, 2007 at 12:31 am
Youse said it like it was McGraw. You hit it right out of the park. These younger babes need to gravitate toward us older playahs because we can provide and keep them mentally engaged. Young punks don’t know their a– from a hole in the ground, so what can they really offer a young hottie?
November 6th, 2007 at 4:49 pm
older men dont want someone their own age because we can actualy think for ourselves. we can take care of ourselves, we make our own money we raised the kids we know what is going on we fullfill our responsibilities.News flash gentlemen the younger women get older too they lose their shape they become less fun as time goes on and eventually they will want an emotional commitment. Thank Goodness I have a brain!!!!!!!
November 6th, 2007 at 4:51 pm
by the way I am 43 years old I am an athlete with a killer body who husband left for a 25 year old girl hope she has fun with him…i have all his money.
November 13th, 2007 at 10:19 pm
Julie:
You sound tight. Wanna hook up?
November 15th, 2007 at 6:19 am
I think this is very funny stuff, on the other i dont agree with anything said i am one of those that believe that a young women can fall in love with a older man and not have any economical desires behind such relationship. i’m 20 yrs old and currently have a relationship with an awesome man that 43 yrs old. His not rich , has 101 complication in his life and i wouldnt changed a thing about him , i’m truly in love and thank god his a part of my life. And to respond to a lot of this older women commenting about their intelligence , i’m also a single mom, which supports herself does not depend on her 43 yrs old b/f 4 anything economical and i think its unfair to stereo type all of us as golddigging hotties because were younger.
November 15th, 2007 at 6:28 am
So julie: news flash at the age of 20 i live on my own in beautiful home in miami beach fl. i support myself take care of myself raise my 2yr old child alone as a single parent have a fullfling carrer as a family attorney and though i realize experience in life comes with time with my 20 yrs ive probally accomplished things that most 30 or 40 yrs old women have not .
so younger women definetly can fall in love with an older man and be a pure honest love i couldnt be more in love.
November 16th, 2007 at 6:37 pm
You sound fine too, Leslie. Wanna hook up?
November 20th, 2007 at 3:49 am
LMAO. i can’t help but smirk at this entry.
young women are portrayed as selfish, self-absorbed, gold-digging objects,
and young men are portrayed as a-holes with no brains, money and/or confidence.
as for the comments, i ‘laughed’ even harder…
some claim that old women are ‘hags’ that are ‘45 to 70,nothing but overweight,almost obese,uncaring witches’. even worse, ‘older single women in this country to be bitter, over-opinionated, pushy and selfish’.
what is MOST amusing is that, a guy says he likes ‘eye candy’, and that women ONLY look at the inner stuff.
pardon moi for wondering, but doesn’t EVERYONE like eye candies? the difference is, everyone’s definitions and ‘tastes’ in eye candies are not the same, and not everyone actually pursues them.
it’s funny that this entry and some comments just goes to prove that some men view women solely as marionettes, where they have minimal say and only act ‘when they’re needed to’. and that makes them feel better because they are insecure, and despite their flaws, they still manage to have someone to control. they would feel they have and would feel superior to their women. how… pathetic.
i’m not trying to backlash everyone here who likes way older/younger people, just the ones who are condemning certain age groups. it’s perfectly natural for people to be attracted certain groups of age/height/race/whatever, i agree, but to actually ‘generalisingly’ say that those from the other groups are undesirable groups of society - that’s just severe and uncalled for.
my two cents.
November 22nd, 2007 at 7:02 pm
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November 25th, 2007 at 6:51 pm
I loved all the postings here…but as a 59 year old man who just lost his beloved 41 year old woman(she moved out) it brings on the test of baggage(her daughter)and what could be done to change the way of thinking. My problem is that I can’t go along with the daughters ways of scheming out welfare and losing a lot of jobs. OK, I said tuff love was noted here, and the reply I got was I will never forsake my family. OK, the old meet the young….with that said the older generations feel a little different about the way IT SHOULD BE, as opposed to the way IT IS! That’s why I’m single and after a beautiful 5 years(never married,thank gawd) as long as the kid was not part of us it was great. But the hangups and the name calling back and forth between them was horrendous to say the least. A kid that was on welfare and subsistence…..it got to where it was more than I could take. I don’t disrespect people and won’t tolerate it from anyone much less than my OWN kids. I love her and we told each other everyday and we kissed as we left for work everyday…I will miss her and I have learned that if a woman has kids ..see what kind of a boomerang she might have raised. (throw`em out they come right back). I don’t need pity just something to think about with your kids raised and gone and depended on themselves and hers with a different generation that sees family values that weighs in more about the word “HELP ME”. She’ll be missed!
November 28th, 2007 at 6:07 am
Wow Roger. Sounds like a ruff situation yo. Is this 41-year-old dating and is her daughter hot or wot? And chance you could hook me up with them for a 3-sum?
November 30th, 2007 at 6:01 am
More proof heterosexual relationships are based in prostitution.
And these men have the temerity to look surprised when taut young Miss Walletsnatch decides to close escrow, nab the dough, ditch gramps and move on to the next ageing wallet. “But I thought she loved me for ME…” lol…
Older men, here’s a tip from a lesbian: you can always pick the twentysomething sluts among the herd: check for the belly ring in navel, empty look in eyes, spiral tattoo on small of back. If she has a shot glass in her hand, so much the dumber and easier.
December 1st, 2007 at 12:43 am
I am 26 years old and am dating a man who is 43. We have been together for two years and everything is going awesome. We compliment eachother wonderully and get along great. He is who he is and he is never going to change. He has drive and motivation and wants me to be happy in anything I choose to do. THe sex is amazing. Amazing. We always have something to talk about and are 99% of the time drama free. I think older men are much more caring and loving then men my age. He cares about how I feel and loves taking care of me. People think it is so strange I would go for a guy in his forties but age doesnt matter when two people make eahother happy.
December 6th, 2007 at 9:46 pm
I must admit that time has ben good to me I still have all my hair and teeth at 47 and am in better shape now emotionally physycally and spiritually than Ive ever been in my life..
I was divorced by my ex two years ago because after getting married @ thirty seven because of the “Hey your getting older and got too settle down syndrome ”
I settled and sold my soul to a subserviante suburburban living dead mentallity
The first three years were fun but then I lost my partner to the corporite world of more..
Sex became a distant dream intimacy a distant dream it became all about stuff and enabling and pleaseing her ever present all consuming family…
In four years we had Sex forty times out of the forty twenty were dismal failures ten were going through the motions and the finall ten were shall we say less than average
you know what happened right I had a fling and got caught but…you know what In retospect I was glad I got caught
I got me back and guess what…
I have younger woman now hitting on me all the time I mean I thought at first it was a fluke but no no I mean its been consistant and to be honest a little bit un believable I have no problem getting dates and even having Sex I mean after seven plus years of being miserable now im happy beyond whatever I thought I could be
Im not saying this to stroke my ego im saying this to give younger guys thirty to forty hope hang in there man..if youre maried to a troll…escape its worth it..
Some one else wrote on this forum : They become Obese and bitter ….
I agree its a shame so many woman let themselves go all to hell after they get a man we become a debit sheet or someone to put out the trash
Well I put out my trash.
Now I ride my Harley go out on my boat and never have a problem in the spooning dept..
I am free and dont really sweat the relationship crap anymore Im probably one of those types THAT WILL NEVER SETTLE DOWN..
as a by note I met a 23 year old last night and she gave me her number and you know what she could be a model but I dont think I want to have sex with her or go out with her because….
Im not easy and im kinda tired……:}
December 7th, 2007 at 5:24 am
Funny entry.
Who knew whores had such a sense of humor?
December 7th, 2007 at 3:40 pm
Hey,
A difficult discussion here. The heart of the discussion is that men never grow up. They mature at a snail’s pace and will always require visual stimulation in the form of women who are younger. Regardless of how an older women behaves she will never be treated the same way as a younger women. I find this to be sad as older women are loving, caring and enjoy men for who they are and not for how much money they have. Older men are sometimes harsh in their opinions of women’s looks as they age and trust me women do their best to look as well as they can. I think respect for all persons young or old is what is missing from this discussion.
December 9th, 2007 at 6:02 am
Ya know, here’s the thing. We are all who we are and can’t help who we fall in love with! When you judge someone based on a number rather than the person they are you are ignorant and just upset it didn’t work for you! I am 23 and just met a man who is 41 and aboslutely think that he is one of the most incredible persons I have ever met! I am excited about sharing more things emotionally as well as getting to know him physically! You are only as old as you feel, some of us can’t help that we are older than our age and for the women who think it’s absurd, it’s obvious in your tone that you are just jealous! Clearly you have learned nothing in your growing age and still have much to discover. Once you realize there are actually men out there who are after the person not the age you yourself may actually be successful in dating, but until then happy hunting! Love who you love it may be the only life you get so live it well! And to you older men you are wonderful and so attractive and might I add sexy so stay confident, young or older she is out there!
December 10th, 2007 at 12:30 am
Dating is fine but babies are much better off from healthy younger father’s sperm.
What everyone should know about sperm as a man ages.
Male Health: The Long Shot
From puberty on, reproductive health and the viability of sperm continue to evolve.
By:Mark Teich
Teens
Until age 13 or 14, sperm is not fully formed, increasing the risk of infertility or birth defects. Sperm may be extremely healthy in older teens, who are famous for their potency. But risky teen behavior may put sperm at risk.
20s
These are prime years for male reproduction. Men have the maximum amount of mature sperm cells and the least DNA damage. The risk of producing birth defects or causing other problems in offspring is as low as it ever will be.
30s
Testosterone levels start to decline at age 30, bringing a decrease in potency. By 32-34, fertility begins to fall. Men who are 35 or older are twice as likely to be infertile as men under age 25. The mid-thirties also bring a significant increase in sperm DNA damage and thus an increased risk of producing birth defects. One in 99 fathers ages 30-35 sire children with schizophrenia versus one in 141 for fathers under age 25.
40s
Type 2 diabetes and metabolic syndrome, involving pre-diabetes symptoms and cardiovascular risk factors, start to occur more often in men. Both disorders are strongly associated with below-normal levels of testosterone, lowering potency. Erectile dysfunction (ED) starts to be a problem in a number of men. The risk of schizophrenia doubles in children of fathers in their late forties compared with children of fathers under age 25. Men 40 and older are nearly six times more likely to have offspring with autism than men younger than 30.
50s
Erectile dysfunction increases for many men. By age 50, the DNA cells that create sperm have gone through more than 800 rounds of division and replication, vastly decreasing the quality of sperm and increasing the chances of mutation and birth defects. The risk of schizophrenia almost triples for children of fathers 50 and older; one in 47 fathers sires a child with the condition.
60s
At the age of 60, 85 percent of sperm is clinically abnormal, something researchers attribute to normal aging.
December 10th, 2007 at 7:05 am
She is twentyseven and the body is to die for and i also love her im fortythree women older than myself are not for me young women keep it light and fun al men should have a younger woman by there side.
December 14th, 2007 at 3:10 pm
@Johnny Weed Elliser:
sorry, i’m single but not looking. we can be friends =)
nice to know you like my blog tho.
December 16th, 2007 at 8:54 pm
Sure Zaty we can be friends. But, what took yo so long to get back wif me, baby? I haf already bin wif fo diffrent ladies since I put a shout out to yo, girl.
And hey Ed — when are we gonna see another postin from you, yo? Yur stuff is da best, but yo don’t write enuff. You been doing the 420, yo? Put down the blunt and write for yur fans!
December 20th, 2007 at 2:30 am
I’m a female who loves men!! I’m in great shape, 49 years old and look like I’m 35. I have a wonderful relationship, both emotionally and sexually, with my 50 year old boyfriend. I don’t have a problem with age differences but I am curious about something. Doesn’t it bother anyone of any age of either sex that someone only wants to be with them for they’re money? I think I would feel very insecure if I could only get a date by providing financial support for someone. I’m not putting anyone else down, but this is how I would feel. Even if you look good for your age, if you have to provide some sort of financial support to get someone to go out with you, I think I’d feel bad about that. Perhaps you should try not doing anything financial for the person, with the exception of paying for most of the dates, and if they still want to go out with you, you’ll know it’s for you and not your money.
December 22nd, 2007 at 5:54 am
Back again, after reading through some further comments. While I’m happy to see that the majority of comments here are positive, it’s rather sad to see how many people (men and women alike) choose to consider dating an older partner “disgusting” as one poster put it, because of how they might look, or dating a younger partner as silly or shallow, because of how they look. All it really does is re-enforce further stereotypes, that older women who look criticize younger women for dating older men are bitter and jaded and that younger women who date purely on looks are shallow and vapid. All this does is hurt everyone in the long run.
I understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but does it really have to include putting down other people for the choices they make in partners? Particularly if you might not know the first reason as to why a couple is together and you would rather jump on a hateful bandwagon than consider they might just actually be in love? Or have people truly become so sad that nobody believes in real love anymore? Love isn’t something that should be based purely on how someone looks on your arm, but rather how long you can stand to be around someone before you run out of things to talk about and start getting on each others nerves. It should be about enjoying your time together, not thinking about the best way to use the person your with, be it for looks, car, money, or otherwise.
If you are one of the people who insist on dating men or women only for their looks, well, more power to you. But please don’t make fun of or criticize someone else just because they don’t choose their partners according to your standards. Likewise, if you are an older woman who considers younger ones in a relationship with an older man as ditsy or stupid with nothing to offer him, rather than expending your energies on hating someone you know absolutely nothing about, try to open your mind to the possibility that perhaps she is with him because she actually loves him.
December 27th, 2007 at 1:09 am
Good points. Maggie. R U single and do U mingle? (wink! wink!) I like yur writting and I bet yur supah HOT!
December 27th, 2007 at 6:04 am
Heh heh, thanks Johnny. Nope, I’m not single and quite happily involved with an older man
December 27th, 2007 at 11:42 am
Wow people have been commenting on this for a while. Im a 22 year old woman and always have dated guys my age. Tonight I met a guy (online, oddly and statistically its much more likely for a younger woman and older man to date after meeting online..) and we spoke on the phone. I thought I would just make it a quick 5 minute conversation because he really wanted to talk, but we ended up talking for over an hour. He actually intrigued me, and used words that I didn’t know, rather than ME having to explain to my boyfriend the meaning of “to exasperate”. Plus he brought out a side of me that I like. He complimented me on my eloquent speech, which NO guy my age has ever said. If anything, they’d laugh if I used an intelligent word or poetic phrase. Perhaps I will meet him in person. Its all still new, but this article and all these comments have been intriguing to read and actually helped me figure out what I am experiencing.
December 28th, 2007 at 11:43 pm
Holy catfish! I am a 44 year old, in good shape and looking for a women 35-40.
Where in the heck can I find me one?
I am tired of all the old ladies in my condo association hitting on me.
January 1st, 2008 at 3:03 pm
I found this site due I wanted to understand how the older men younger women scenario has been in peoples life. I have always been attracted to men older than me, but the man I am interested in now is over 50 and I am 36. I like the fact that he is secure and very interested in me and know what to do and say and is not playing games. I just mention my current situation and he wants to help me. I have a lot of things on my plate and he wants me to succeed and understand I need security to accomplish my goals with a piece of mind. Not someone still wanting to sew thier oats. But I just have to say that this is just how this older man is. And a man treats a woman accordingly, it does not matter about the age difference, if you are bitter, evil young or old you will be lonely. But if you are happy honest loving caring respectful and love the Lord you will attract people like you most of the time.
I feel sorry for the older lady slandering the older men, I do agree that you speak who you are. A younger guy might not put up with you, look at the words you speak. Don’t put everyone in the same category, Elizabeth Taylor, and other women young younger guys, they can afford them. On the same note I believe if you had 3 failed marriages you should look at yourself. Old and young men I have been with adored me and respected me even if they were dogs, due I walked away graciously and they respect that quality and would help me due to the woman I was…a young lady aging wonderfully and will always have a wise man. Look at youself….And love my older man!
January 2nd, 2008 at 4:35 pm
im 21 and found myself attracted to a 59 year old. how weird is that hes noteven rich and not sure what he could do for me..but hes good to talk to and had a very exciting life…hes done things…which is more than i can say for most guys my age. he has kids older than me and is older than my mum….he could date her…AHHH how weird . i never used to think like this but age is just a number and a look…get past that and you might meet someone you never dreamed of finding..
January 2nd, 2008 at 7:26 pm
Great comment, Lilly. I cannot belive the response this article has received. I wrote it this summer and it’s still the #1 article on this site. I guess it’s just really a hot topic that lots of people have opinions on.
Thanks for your comments!
January 6th, 2008 at 2:37 am
I’m sixteen, and I know for sure I don’t want to be with older man. It’s just weird. Five years don’t matter much to me. But more than ten years, now that’s strange. I don’t understand why girls are attracted to older guys besides money?
This article is simply for humor, but in reality it’s been happening nowadays.
January 7th, 2008 at 6:20 pm
Haruka: Read my last post, that about sums up my opinion as to why.
January 9th, 2008 at 3:54 am
Hi Ed,
Quite a funny story you have there. Although i think that there is an element of truth to what you are saying. But i think one of the main reasons why younger girls would like to go out with older guys is because usually the older men are the ones that are in control. I guess it puts a whole new meaning to the term sugar daddy. I mean look at all the areas in which he has control over her.
He probably has more money than her.
He has more life and dating experience
He has beaten her in the age game
He is distinguished from all the usual “boys” that she usually dates
His age gives him more authority
He much more independent, not as wussy and therefore is much more attractive
The thing that most guys don’t realize though, is that you don’t have to just be an older guy to have evoke this powerful level of attraction. Any guy can create that amount of attraction by acting a certain way. N girls need to be able to understand how this whole thing works so they dont discount some high potential guys.
January 11th, 2008 at 6:12 am
I am 52 now, but I will still try to look for my young partner.
January 12th, 2008 at 3:34 pm
The trend towards younger women dating older men is growing at an exciting clip. Younger men tend to take the women in thei age group for granted. Furthermore, they have zero money, zero life experience and zero interest in things that many educated young women find interesting…like the arts, literature, travel, and a man with a least a modicum of sophistication. Today’s culture has turned young women into objects [a reaction to - and result of - feminism] and these women are now revolting against this tide of cultural biggotry by dating men who see them as three-dimensionl human beings with qualities worth appreciating. This is a no-brainer if you ask me. I’m 52, very fit, educated and affluent, and dating young women isn’t even something I have to pursue, because they’re the ones pursuing me. As for older women, I suggest dating younger guys and be done with it. You’re not for everyone…and neither are we. It’s a new world. Ge used to it.
January 16th, 2008 at 2:17 am
Everything has two sides. I don’t know if you are right but I know lots of young ladies are attracted by older attractive guys. Like you said, old mature guys are like their father or brother, give them lots of things that younger guys cannot offer.
January 16th, 2008 at 7:35 am
What happens if the girl is physically a pretty 21 year old, but mentally middle-aged? It seems like no one is appropriate in this case, since the younger men are intimidated/confused, and the older men do not want to date someone who does not seem to be needy and idealistic about love.
January 22nd, 2008 at 2:51 am
I am 20 years old and my fiance is 43. I love older men and always have. when i was 16 i was with a 23 year old. i have only once in my life dated someone younger than me and it was only by 3 months. but anyhow. You make it sound in your 50 reasons that young girls only date older men for their money. That is so not true. I am with my older man because i love him not because i want his money. money is the last thing on my mind.
January 22nd, 2008 at 8:35 pm
When I was 14 I entered into a romance with a 32-year-old. It was a wonderful experience that I will never forget. I love him long time.
January 26th, 2008 at 5:54 pm
I can’t believe all of the comments on this one. Man, people really feel strongly about this subject. This thing has a life all its own!
January 29th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
Have been divorced for 4.5 years…met, dated, about 30 women;
the commentary is right on the mark…the older babes are certainly sophisticated–
at getting enough data (where i live, # of kids, my job)..to make a financial decision,,
or the probability I will be a pushover and they can retire early..lol
I love women under 30,
fun, unspoiled, sexy; I am fit, fun, 56; would never marry another
American woman-period, regardless of age…sooner or later they
want your pocketbook;
January 31st, 2008 at 10:41 pm
I love my 43 years man. Is the first time I date an older man but I’m enjoying it. By the way his not rich!!!! his normal…
February 4th, 2008 at 12:06 am
MY UNCLE WHO JUST TURNED 60 A COUPLE OF DAYS AGO JUST RAN OFF AND MARRIED THIS 27 YERAR OLD GIRL I JUST THINK ITS SICKENING
February 4th, 2008 at 5:29 pm
The reason that older men prefer younger women is because when it comes to women, it is the aspect of her sexual vitality that is THE SINGLE MOST important factor (other than, is she not “crazy”, and can I control her). The restorative powers of female sexual energy are valuable. Younger women have more of it to give than older women. It is because they need this energy that pedophelia has made a big comeback. I was an a flight to Paris, and after the “how to use the seatbelt” video, was an in-flight commercial put together by the airline that said basically: Please don’t go to Southeast Asia for child sex tours. I guess the problem is so big that the airline felt compelled to produce an inflight commercial.
The way we treat the planet is how women are treated too. The earth is bought and sold, women are bought and sold. The object is how much can you suck out of it to keep yourself going. If the earth or women can no longer handle giving without getting anything in return, there are always chemicals to make it conform to the dominant party’s wishes. We can dump chemichals on soil to force it to grow, and dump anti depressants down the throats of sexually exploited individuals so they can conform to their plight.
We are all on this planet to serve the dominant male who was created in the image of God. Ugly women with viable eggs who can no longer channel the restorative powers of female sexual energy are of little use to men. Someday, they will be housed in darkened rooms and artificially insemnated so they can bring forth young who can serve the sexual needs of the dominant male.
February 4th, 2008 at 5:33 pm
Older guys who chase young chicks are pathetic and need to grow up. They are leeches on the backside of society and should be treated with disdain and ridicule rarther than being diefied and praised like they are royalty or something.
February 7th, 2008 at 1:20 am
WOW! Lots of angry folks out there. What happened to “all you need is love”?
I am 36 y.o. woman and in the past I dated guys my age, guys 10 years younger than me and men 15 - 25 years older. Here is what I have to say. If I meet a guy my age who has the MATURITY of a grown up, I’d be happy to date him. Until then, if I want to date someone who is smart, accomplished, traveled the world, reads, watches euro movies, knows how to treat a Lady … I am dating older guys. Oh, and sex is usually fantastic. I’ve never been as sleep deprived as when I had BF who was 20 years older LOL
February 8th, 2008 at 3:55 am
My husband left his family and marriage after 25 years for a women 21 years younger. We were married before she was born. The hardest part about this is the fact that she could be our child and our children will never understand why. This age difference seems grossly inappropriate and has made me feel older than ever before. When I see her I have to laugh because it is not the plan God had for her life and was never the dream her parents had for her. He is old and wants to be young. Everyone can see this, but him. She will cost him a lot of money and is already costing him his relationship with friends and his children. He is not proud of this relationship but is trapped by her youth. This is a sad story and unfortunately not uncommon. It is a case of the dog catching the car and then not knowing what the hell to do with it. Good luck to those men who choose to give up the true gifts and blessings in life for a chance to feel young again. God bless those who love and believe in the wife of their youth.
February 9th, 2008 at 4:24 pm
My 73 years old teacher married with 19 years old girl, i am thinking that what she will do at night.
February 16th, 2008 at 4:35 am
The younger gals seem to enjoy checking out me enormous package, which I must admit I like!
February 16th, 2008 at 3:39 pm
Quite interesting.That creates a social problem.What about the older women?Who takes care of them?They are desperate to marry.This kind of descrimination …
February 21st, 2008 at 10:52 am
IF TWO PEOPLE ARE HAPPY AND ARE AT A LEGAL AGE AND ARE IN AN RELATIONSHIP BY CHOICE IT’S NOT ANYONE’S JUDGEMENT TO SAY IF IT’S WRONG OR NOT. PERSONALLY I LIKE OLDER MEN BECAUSE THAT’S WHAT I’M ATTRACTED TO. IF YOU THINK THIS IS SICK BECAUSE YOUR HUSBAND OR WIFE LEFT YOU FOR A YOUNGER PERSON 9 TIMES OUT OF 10 YOUR PROBABLY STILL BITTER. I’M A YOUNG WOMAN WHO IS SUCCESSFUL IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT MONEY.
February 21st, 2008 at 4:40 pm
The young semoritas are special because they are much more adventurous in the bedroom,. The older ladies are not as fun to be in bed with!
February 23rd, 2008 at 2:54 pm
Do as you wilt but harm none. I am 29 years old man and I would never, never date a woman under 35. In my area, younger women are ignorant and dumb. They are boring in bed, boring in conversation and tend to think that just being young is all thats necessary… also, it would be interesting to know which one of all the posts are from north americans vs europeans, because from personal experience, american women don’t hold a candle to the much finer european women.
February 24th, 2008 at 3:43 am
Haha wow I enjoyed reading that. ;D
I am a 16 year old female, and have always been interested in older men. I’d love to be with one someday. :] If any older guys (or anyone, really) want to chat with me, please e-mail me at lol_whatever@live.com.
If you’re some pervert, and plan on only flirting, and acting perverted, please don’t even bother mailing me, I won’t reply.
February 24th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
I am 30 and my soon to be Husband is 55. I have always dated older guys because we can talk about important things as opposed to discussing Hip Hop Music and the coolest new titty bars. Interracial and same sex relationships were once attacked as are older men and younger women. Notwithstanding who cares as long as you are happy! We came into our relationship both with houses, dogs, and good paying jobs. He’s not my “Sugar Daddy” and I already have a “Father”.
I thank his bitter old ex-wife for making him the caring appriciative gentlemen he is today.
February 24th, 2008 at 9:12 pm
All of the critics can go to Perdition for all I care. We are on this earth one time and we don’t get to choose the time of departure. I am about to marry the woman of my dreams and she is much younger than me and for the sickos out there she is over 21! We love and take care of each other and each others needs. If that gives pause or some sort of illness to others then I say again go to blazes. She is not out for my money cause I don’t have any and as for the ego thing for the old guy well that stuff loses its luster after about five minutes. To all who have a problem with it get a life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
February 28th, 2008 at 10:22 am
It is a funny article, but it still begs the question, “Why do Younger Women date Older Men”. I’m in my forties and I am having very sexy women 20 to 35 years old just walk up and give me their phone numbers. Some will even “hound” be to take them out. I don’t know why it didn’t happen when I was their age, but I like it.
I think an older man on a talk show explained it best; When asked by a “Shrink” why does he date younger women, he replied, “Because I can.” It shows that older men have a certin confidence which women like. Yet older women seem to shy away from dating younger women…..well, except for Demi Moore. I say good for her and all “Cougars” out there, go on and date younger men. One of my sweetest memories is when I was 23 and a 36 year old woman dated me. I learned so much from her and even though I was in great shape, she would wear me out; So you Cougars out there use your prowess with care.
In the end who cares, go have a good time, enjoy life and treat each other with respect.
March 1st, 2008 at 5:21 pm
@ Molly: Your post in particular caught my eye. I think it’s incredibly sad that you blame so much of your bitterness on the fact that your husband (cheated on you? left you? not too clear on that part…) for a younger woman, and somehow for that reason, said woman should be looked at like some leper. It’s sad that you base your happiness (or rather lack of) on the fact your partner has a YOUNGER woman, just because you might be getting on in years (by the sound of it, you’re certainly younger than she is). Sorry, but if your husband cheated on you, either a) it was your fault. or b) it was his fault. Or possibly you were just not meant for one another. Blaming the “other woman” is such a trite, cliche thing for the ex to do, it just makes you sound bitter and jaded. Get over it and start living your life.
March 5th, 2008 at 6:47 am
Yes, it’s true that older men prefer younger women. That’s nothing new! They prefer them for the sex, for having a trophy thing on their arm, ego syndrom, and want to return to their youth. One of you mentioned that you divorced a shrivelled older woman of 50. Well what about you? how do you look? Don’t you have any wrinkles? As for sex, I suppose you can get your boost from Viagra, but it’s artificial. And do you really think it’s fair on offspring to father them at YOUR age? How much of their ”growing up” are you going to be around for? Have you ever thought how pathetic you look next to a much younger woman. But WATCH OUT. Your ”younger” ladies will take you for every last cent you have (and then some), plus have satisfying sex with younger men on the side.
Looks like the REAL losers are you!!!!!
March 5th, 2008 at 6:55 am
I somehow stumbled on this website because I wanted to get a general idea of how people view older men/younger women. I didn’t know what to expect from these responses. The list of 50 reasons was retarded, but somehow, I am sure the majority of women who seek older men engage in these 50 reasons.
I am currently in a relationship with a 37yo man, and I am a 25yo female. I am in love with him and we both have no real money to speak of. I am heading to graduate school and he restores old homes. We ideally want to open a bbq joint and just hang out and make money together. He has never been married and nor have I. The only real problem we seem to have is that he expects me to screw him over as his previous girlfriends did, and I get caught in the middle of his emotional whiplash. We are pretty good communicators and are working through it.
All in all, we both did not know how old we were when we met. We had a common friend who was 30 and so we both assumed that our possible age differences at the time could only be 3 or 4 years. When he found out I was in my early 20s, we tried to refrain from the relationship. However, we couldn’t resist.
Unfortunately, he is a smoker and needs to quit because his libido is lower than mine. I just recently moved in to his house—like yesterday, so I have pretty much factored out that he is not interested anymore….i hope…. but really this is the one drawback to our age difference…. I hope we can resolve it.
March 6th, 2008 at 10:58 pm
I am glad this is going on, so that all the shallow dumb bitches who do look at love like it is an account balance get weeded out, and go off with the loser baby-boomers who traded in world-peace for personal-gain.
This article not only completely attacks women, it is offensive to me as a guy as well.
I have no problem with relationships that have an age difference, but being a gold digging cum dumpster is nothing to be proud of, and it sets a whole gender back over 100 years.
What a bunch of fucking losers!
March 9th, 2008 at 7:32 pm
I think it’s written as a joke, PeterPan. U R a loser if you don’t see that. You sound like a little bitch yourself.
March 10th, 2008 at 5:58 am
i feel people should do what makes them happy..plain and simple..im 28 and i still like to goof around and have fun..ive found women change as they go through life..most of us men stay the same from 18-80 lol..i just hate when women try to make men feel like pedophiles for looking at a beautiful young women..is it jealousy?but no one seems to bitch when its a 40yr old women with a 20 yr old guy.
it must be hard for theses nasty,cruel manipulative women when there man decides to move on to a women who makes him happy..because the girl he once knew has turned into a controlling snob..i havnt gone through it “thank god” but i see it all the time..men in america are being controlled by women..if thats what you like,have fun..when i eventually settle down,i can see myself ending up with a girl 10-15 years younger than me..they are more energetic amd fun loving..and looks dont hurt either..but most important there not set in there ways like alot of the older ones..i know of a couple who hve 13 years between them..now he’s 45 and shes 32..they grew on eachother they just love doing things together,they have the same interest..now shes 32 and not as wild and energetic as she was..but at the same time he is not as active either..so it seems like a perfect situation..
now people can hate on them,but its not any of there business..those two are happy..and people who judge them and say its wrong..are either jealous or psycho.
live and let live people..let people be happy..even if your not..if your an older women go get that younger guy if you want..most men arent gonna judge you..
the same cant be said for most women who have serious insecurities..
i dont listen to these old hags who try to make us men feel bad or giulty for being human..”people who judge dont matter”live your life in whatever way you like as long as nobody is getting hurt,and your both happy its all good..im 28 and maybe ill meet a 60 yr old women who makes me happy..that would be ok..but god forbid the shoe is on the other foot,lol…i would be called every discusting name in the book..but i understand why women judge..there insecure in there ability to keep the man who is inlove with them..so they ridicule them for even looking at a younger girl..its very sad and pathetic that they cant just live and let live…
god bless
March 12th, 2008 at 6:37 am
“Cruel, manipulative, and nasty women”. Are you trying to say that if a woman reaches menopause she’s automatically in the ”cruel and manipulative” category? Wow, that’s certainly a new take on things. So why do you men even bother to get married at all, if that’s the case? I mean to say - the minute a woman ages (God forbid), and loses some of her energy, then her man should automatically move ”onwards and upwards”? GIVE ME A BREAK. Anyway, maybe ‘’some” women SHOULD have the right to feel pissed. Perhaps they helped put their husbands through college (thereby giving up some career prospects for themselves). Then they stayed at home after the kids came along to to care for the family (or perhaps caring for her family and working outside the home, too).
Then the years pass. The two of you age, but it’s the woman who goes through ”menopause”. Then what? all of a sudden she’s somehow ”worthless”, because she’s no longer fertile, no longer energetic. Actually that’s probably not quite true, I know many extremely energetic women who are post-menopausal. And, of course, many men (not all), when that happens, tend to look elsewhere (or fantasize) about other women.
I would hardly call that ”cruel and manipulative”. That’s just the same ‘ol, same ‘ol excuse you men use to philander, separate or divorce.
But let’s be perfectly honest. Why would a 22-25 year old woman hitch up with a man 25 to 30 yrs older than her? Well, to begin with, it most probably wouldn’t be for ”great sex” lol. Money, and a comfortable lifestyle? - probably. And ”love”? Yeah, right ……
Same ‘ol, same ‘ol ……….
March 12th, 2008 at 9:32 am
Why do so many who post on the internet mispell so many words? (I can recognize a typo). Are they just dumb as shit? The content of their postings also indicate they are intellectually challenged.
March 13th, 2008 at 2:57 pm
I am a 25 year old woman dating a 45 year old man on the up side of 4 years. He is the most gorgeous man I’ve ever seen an incredible lover and a kind soul among others. The reality is he’s still human he snores sometimes all night long and is consistantly never on time. He underestimates me more then he knows.
I have day dreamed about marrying him on more then one occassion. However after this long and very few ideas from him coming my way on the subject I will be moving on sooner than later.
One thing is for sure no matter who I end up with they have to be at least 15 years older then me. Older men are just sexy and generous to boot. I encourage all young women to take one on you won’t regret it.
March 15th, 2008 at 9:05 pm
Herman King: You are an idiot. You were commenting about misspellings, and you yourself misspelled a word in your comment. (Guess what word it was, you miscreant.) Can you spell the phrase “pompous hypocrite?” Learn to spell and then comment, so that you don’t appear to be an a-hole, like you do right now.
March 17th, 2008 at 9:37 am
Hello lisa, Are you are reading this? It looks like a thumbs up for what we are doing. I’m scared, but more happy. Keep a close eye on me though - I may go for some feisty older woman. I luv ya sweetie. I got no money but why would you need a holiday to Australia, we already live in this heaven.
“I want to do with you what Spring does with the cherry trees”
-Pablo Neruda.
March 27th, 2008 at 6:29 pm
YES! I am a bit dissapointed by the last post however. I am a 21 year old woman. Ive been attracted to older men since the age of about 14. Ive been in a serious relationship with one before, but then he got a bit possessive and on one occasion, he hit me. Im currently in a relationship with a young man my age, but Ive known his father long before I met him and I cant help but to have feelings for his dad…And the worse part is, here in my town in Boston where I both live and attend school, I am forced to see him ALL the time– YIKES
March 27th, 2008 at 7:06 pm
Sry Bernard, when I said last post I meant the last reason listed above
March 28th, 2008 at 12:58 am
Well I’ve read this whole article from beginning to end, and i must say…. lol WOW!!
I’m 20 years old and I really like this guy who is 30 years my senior. I’ve dated younger, I’ve dated different race, but this guy is all around different. To Irene: Your really sad. Not to put you on the spot, but the things people say can really determine what kind of person they are. To all that have posted their opinions and thoughts, i really do appreciate them, now i know that i really want to get to know this guy better. To all that oppose of the thought of a younger woman with an older man, Do what makes you happy. My saying is: If You Can Accept Your Decision Then Forget What Others Have To Say, They Aren’t Living Your Life.
March 28th, 2008 at 3:02 am
Yulonda: Well, I’m just a plain old human being. I have my good days, and my bad (don’t we all?) - lol - . And don’t worry, I don’t feel like you’ve put me on the spot. This is, after all, a public blog, isn’t it? I, like you, just say what I think, and what I believe. Also, since I’ve seen many situtions where men leave their wives (usually when their wives are just a few years younger, or the same age, as them), and usually when their wives reach their early fifties, or thereabout (menopausal) - or sometimes, even earlier - that’s when many (but not all), men seem to have the urge to be with a younger woman. And yes, it does anger me when many of these ”wives” have in many ways supported their husbands, both financially, and emotionally, during their marriages, in many cases at the cost of their own careers, and well being, just to be thrown out for a far younger woman.
Hopefully, the women in their early twenties, thirties, (or thereabouts), who DO decide to hook up with a man who’s 30 or so years older than them, will be prepared, at some point down the line, to play the part of ”caregiver”, when their hubbies become ill. That’s just a plain old fact of life! Also, if these women plan on having families, they should most definitely think very carefully about the situation. While it IS true that men can become fathers late in life, there are still factors to consider. Specifically, that their kid’s father probably won’t be around to see much of the child’s growing up. Another factor, even though men don’t go through ”menopause” as women do, their sperm, in later life, most probably won’t be as healthy or fertile as the sperm of a younger man, and therefore could affect the health of any possible offspring.
Sorry to be so blunt! I’m actually a happily married woman, and I’m 17 years younger than my husband. I’m not sad, and have no reason to be. Here I’m just stating plain old real life facts. Do with them as you may.
March 29th, 2008 at 6:33 pm
Now we’re gettinmg a great dialog going. This is what the 15-minute dating blog is all about. Let’s keep it rolling!!! This is a HOT topic that seems to be important to may people all over the world!
March 29th, 2008 at 6:51 pm
I am currently dating a older guy right now. I am seventeen and he is thirty four so that makes him 17 yrs older than me. I really want to tell my parents about him but I really dont think they will be very accepting to this and I also feel that we both are in love. So if u have any advice for me you can send them to marshmellowcreme@hotmail.com. Thank you
March 30th, 2008 at 4:34 pm
To Irene: Thank You for responding to my blog. What you said is indeed important and alot of younger women and men need to ask themselves about these important questions. Yes; i would hate the thought or having a child by my guy and finding myself a widow before my child hits the age of 18. But this is where everyone’s relationship differs. Relationships are just compromises amongst both parties. If they decide to have children, then fine. If not, fine too… Whatever Floats Their Boat.
March 31st, 2008 at 7:36 pm
Interesting and such a funny post - I’m not even certain how I came about it. Even the replys are interesting and often revealing of the person writing it.
Most important is finding the humor in what is being said, and not taking it personally in any way, for any reason. People are what they are. If two people enjoy being with each other, regardless of age, regardless of physical appearances, regardless of the reasons - so be it. The reasons and the outcomes are theirs, and no one has a right, nor an ability to judge. Just love life and what comes of it.
March 31st, 2008 at 8:00 pm
Hey Ed,
that was grt thoI stumbled on the piece. It’s no doubt mind blowing. Dating older men has its several advantages, so those it have its disadvantages. For all that fancy dating older men, I wish them all luck (maybe I might end up dating one myself).
Well, for those who have negative attitude about men, like the woman who declared that men are jerks, I will say they they are shortsighted when it come to living a good life. The point here is that you attract who you are. If all men are jerks, the probablity is that you, the woman is a jerk.
Granted, there are some decidedly misguided ones, then, all men (women inclusive) have flaws. No woman is perfect and no man is perfect. Besides, we come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly. What that woman needs to do right now (if it’s not too late already) is to look into her life and let go of all those baggage that is weighing her down. I believe such baggage include anger, bitterness, self-righteousness and capital opinionation (if there is any expression like that).
I really believe in one thing though, she can’t wprk out all those stuff by herself. She sure needs help. That of Jesus Christ, therapists, friends, good and committed pastors and herself. Jesus is the solution to all problems. Try him.
Ed, thumbs of for you!
Grt job.
March 31st, 2008 at 11:37 pm
That was gay gay man gay
April 5th, 2008 at 1:43 am
I just finished (or was dismissed) froma 2 year relationship with a 35/36 year old woman. Hurt like heck. Was told my…er…male equipment could not be counted on to erect and remain so. At least that’s what I was told.
Now that I can look back somewhat objectively, gal was overweight, but sexy. Very erotic, but only with others. Sex died very early on; mostly we kept company. And the money!!! Oh, the money. I am in debt (will take some months to get everything paid off), and spend like a drunken sailor.
I do have some things to thank her for, tho. 1. Never trust a woman over 30…or less than 30 for that matter. 2) Always go dutch, at least for the first three years, 3) demand all the sex you can get early on; it will disappear quickly 4) Try to find one that is better educated than HS or a GED; conversation is nice every once in awhile, and 5) Keep looking for someone else! Starting over after two years is a royal pain!
April 5th, 2008 at 8:18 pm
Great post - I was laughing!!
My mom and dad are happily married after all these years - both are just a tad over 60. You know why the relationship has lasted so long? Even though my dad was a professor and was probably propositioned a lot by young hot ass, he never took them up on it because my mom is still incredibly sexy at 63. She never “let herself go” and looks fantastic. So to any older women who are offended by this guy’s post - it IS all about how you look. Luckily at age 30 I’ve realized that.
April 5th, 2008 at 8:24 pm
PS…I dated a 43 year old when I was 26 and one word comes to mind: HOT!!
April 10th, 2008 at 11:39 pm
I like the yung shtuff
April 11th, 2008 at 7:47 am
I enjoyed the humor, but all kidding aside, I always date younger women, some have been only 10 or 12 years younger, but many are my daughters age, give or take a year or two, the youngest I’ve dated (hung out with) has been about 36 years younger, I knew even if she didn’t that it would be FUN, lots of FUN, but never go long term. I think it’s a great trade off, wisdom and security, and attentiveness, along with (experienced, patient great sex) for a youthful, adventurous ride thru life, by a carefree, energetic, spontaneous, WILD THANG in bed, who has a big appetite for fun, and isn’t on the ready to hang an anchor around a guys neck, just gaining wisdom that will take her far in life, and teach her to raise the bar, on what to expect from the man she finally marries, if she can find one young BUT mature enough to swallow! It works for the short term, but when you consider how long marriages last, to the younger guys, which way does she walk away with great memories, of good times, travel, gifts, and money honey! I had an old aunt that use to say.. “why be a young man’s slave, when you could be an older man’s princess?” how true…. lol
April 11th, 2008 at 4:39 pm
You got it right, Denny. Love them for a little while, share your experience and wisdom and then send them down the road. Man, you’re doing it right, pal. These young ones need older guys like us to help them through the trials and tribulations of life. It’s not just our duty — it’s our responsibility!
April 11th, 2008 at 7:41 pm
I have a lot of fun with women in general, but I seem to attract younger women more than I do women my own age or older. Lets have some fun. (Open to all) Contact me @ fish_3555@yahoo.com. I’m 53. for more info contact me.
April 11th, 2008 at 11:56 pm
DUTY and RESPONSIBILITY. Yeah, right. ”love them a little, then send them down the road”, huh! now that sounds really DUTIFUL and RESPONSIBLE. YIKES¡¡¡¡!!!!
April 13th, 2008 at 11:52 pm
There was an old geezer called Bertie
he thought he could pass, for bout’ thirty
He went on a date
And you might call it fate
got stuck, with a weirdo called Gertie
April 14th, 2008 at 5:27 am
I have a relationship with an older man.He is 59, I am 27.I love him,I adore him…He looks great,goes to the gym everyday,sex with him is simply amazing…I would never trade him for someone younger…The only problem is that I look very young,so sometimes people look funny at us-they probably think that it is a money thing…I think it is unfair because I have god job and I do not need a sugardaddy…
April 14th, 2008 at 8:59 pm
Irene, you shriveled old gunt. Why do you insist on raining on our parade?
April 15th, 2008 at 1:43 am
Tommy, whoever you are (who cares).
Don’t be so narrow minded. A bozo like you should ”love” being rained on. Might help broaden your mind a bit (that’s if you actually have one). Might actually get some of your shrivelled up old brain cells working for a change too. Like your spelling probs, for instance. ”Shrivelled” is the correct way to spell it.
Never mind, you may improve with time. So happy you enjoyed my little poem. I wrote it with you in mind.
April 15th, 2008 at 4:44 pm
shriveled has one “l”, at least on this planet, you dumb lug. Look it up. Not only are you bitter, but you’re stupid.
April 15th, 2008 at 11:05 pm
What do you all think about a 19 year old dating a 47 year old??
I may be in the situation soon..
April 16th, 2008 at 12:20 am
Not as stupid as you are, you wrinkled old fart.
In England, where I’m originally from, it IS spelt ‘’shrivelled”.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/shrivel
http://www.collinslanguage.com/results.aspx
Last I heard, England WAS on THIS PLANET. Didn’t you know that English words are spelt differently in different countries. Stupid sod.
Come to think of it - ‘’shrivelled” are probably how your ”nether” parts are looking right now, you poor old git.
April 16th, 2008 at 2:11 am
We’re in America now, Ye Olde Prune!
April 16th, 2008 at 4:49 pm
You mean YOU’RE in America. Speak for yourself, not for me - or others, you creaky old toad! There’s more on this planet than America, you moron!
April 16th, 2008 at 9:29 pm
Yeah, we revolted against your country, because you’re boring old coots with no class. And guess what–we won. America is #1 and you’re #2! If you want to spell your words like you’re still in medieval times, that’s your business. Send me a picture–I bet you look like Winston Churchill in drag! Eat your Toad in the Hole and leave me alone!
April 17th, 2008 at 7:05 am
This is a public blog, you NIT-TWIT. Therefore, it’s open to everybody on this planet who has an internet connection. That means ”WORLDWIDE”. Get educated, sounds like you need it! If you don’t like sharing a ”public-blog” with ”non-Americans”, then DON’T BLOG! Yes, the Americans won their War of Independence. But they also inherited our language (their version, that is), our laws, our values, etc. Sorry to disappoint you, but America has it’s roots and beginnings in (and from), England. Like I mentioned before - GET EDUCATED. Looks like medieval writings and spelling is also something you know very little about. Check it out, you might even like it - even appreciate it. Medieval writing, language and music are among the most beautiful in the world!
True, Chruchill was not particularly handsome. And so what. He was truly a great man and great friend of America.
As for how you look, I honestly couldn’t care less!
I don’t grade countries by being ”#1” or ”#2”, as you seem to do. Sounds a rather childish idea to me!
Bugger off, then!
April 17th, 2008 at 12:35 pm
Okay I guess I do have the “father was never around” syndromme. I find older men attractive, and sexually it’s a nice fantasy doing dirty secret stuff with daddy.. Usually I’d prefer a bf my age, but when it hits me, all I want is daddy on top of me.
April 17th, 2008 at 3:37 pm
I don’t have time for you either, Ms. Dench. I would cleanse yourself with some vinegar if I were you and take a short walk on a long pier. You would have defeated us in the Revolutionary War, but your soldiers wore red and stood in straight lines–which made it much easier for our guys to mow you down. How smart was that? I will no longer continue this silly conversation with you. I am too busy having sex 3-4 times a day with my 20-something HOT girlfriend. By the way, have you named your vibrator?
April 17th, 2008 at 9:15 pm
Dearest Tommy,
By the time you’ve finished blowing air into your 20 year old, balloon doll, I can understand how that would leave you feeling hot. Breathless, too. Does Viagra work on balloon dolls? Hahahahaha ………..
As I understand it, one can get these balloon blow-up dolls in all different sizes and shapes. Do they manufacture them for old buffoons as well? Careful you don’t pop the air out of her with your mouldy old prick!
Oh - who’s Ms Dench?
The British forces still wear red when they’re on parade. They look dazzling.
Carry on blowing, then. Your balloon girlfriends, that is. Try some electrodes for your brain cells too. I’ve heard they can work wonders! Don’t give up - you’ll get there eventually …………
April 18th, 2008 at 5:05 pm
She’s not a blow up doll, you miserable old airbag. She’s a living, breathing, intelligent (unlike you), vibrant human being. Most importantly, she’s not some menopausal, dried-up, bitter b–h with baggage and breasts that hang down below her knees and look like old tube socks filled with quarters.
April 19th, 2008 at 8:07 am
Well, what with your viagra popping, prostate issues, pot-belly and male-menopause syndrom, it’s a wonder you can get it up at all! how often do you manage it? couple of times a year, maybe? I suppose that would be average for you. Your poor friend probably has to fake an orgasm by imagining she’s with some young stud, rather than with a dirty old man like you who grunts and gropes. Yukkkkkkkkk!!!!! Reminds me of something out of a Jekyll & Hyde movie!
A suggestion: Get treated for ED (Erectile Disfunction), and mental probs. Sounds like you suffer from some weird sort of mental deficiency.
Careful now, with the ”huffing and puffing”, you might overdo it, and end up as stuffing …….
April 19th, 2008 at 9:07 am
AH!! THE ONLY THING GOOD ABOUT OLD MEN IS… THE MONEY, WHICH IS NOT EVEN WORTH IT. THE SEX SUCKS….. NO MATTER HOW MUCH MONEY YOU GOT, YOUR SEX IS HORRIBLE, MOST OF U CANT GET YOUR DICK UP TO SAVE YOUR LIFE! AHAH! SORRY.
April 19th, 2008 at 9:58 pm
You’re losing momentum, Irene. I used to think that you were a worthy adversary, but now I see that you’re just a clueless, nagging witch with the IQ of an amoeba. Let’s stop this back-and-forth, Irene. You would be lucky to get a man like me. I’d turn your boring, uneventful life into a wild sex romp. You wish you were woman enough to satisfy my insatiable urges. But, alas–you can’t. Sorry, sweetheart. You’ll just have to wait patiently on the sidelines until some old codger throws you a bone.
April 20th, 2008 at 9:29 am
I see absolutely nothing wrong with a older man having sex with a young girl, provided of course she is at least 16 yrs old, the age of consent. I personally enjoy screwing younger girls more than older Women. I am now 53 yrs old and enjoy my best sex when I have a hot to trot 16 yr old in my bed. I dont give a shit waht anyone else thinks. Me and my cock are in love with young Ladies!
April 20th, 2008 at 8:01 pm
Oh dear, you poor, pathetic old creep. Why not face it? You never had any ”momentum” to begin with! Luckily for me, I’m not wanting for anything in my sex-life, so I have no need to worry on that front. Nor do I have a need to boast about it, as you apparently do. Usually, it’s those who are lacking in that area of their lives, who do the boasting. That applies to IQ’s, too. Those who have low ones (as you apparently do), are usually the ones who go around accusing others that THEY have a low IQ, as is the case with you. Sorry about your inferiority complex (among others). Take my advice, as I mentioned earlier on, and go for treatment! As for waiting on the sidelines, wouldn’t you just love that! Unfortunately for you, (and your assumptions), I’m a happily married woman, 17 years younger than my husband (not that that’s necessarily important), and fulfilled sexually, as well as emotionally! So perhaps you’re the one who should be hanging around waiting for a ”bone” to be thrown at him, you clueless asshole!
You’re a stupid old coot,
with a complex, to boot.
You’re pathetic in bed,
And a pain in the head!
You’re sex life is sick,
You’ve a drippy old dick,
You’re gal says ”enough”!
Please, go and get stuffed!
Carry on bone hunting, then! Have you read the latest study on amoebas? Turns out, if it wasn’t for them, none of us would be around today! Sounds like they knew something we didn’t, those amoeba guys! Life’s full of surprises ……..
April 21st, 2008 at 2:46 pm
hi everyone! i’m 20 and my partner is 40. i study and work. i spend my own money and pay half of all the bills.we’re engaged and going to get married in 2 years time. our sex life is fantastic. james is very gentle and horny and the most important- experienced;)none of the young blokes i’ve been with haven’t given me anything like this. havin an older boyfriend is the best thing that i’ve experienced.
April 21st, 2008 at 3:22 pm
Okay–truce Irene? No more bad poetry, please. I give up! I give up! (My girlfriend thought the verse was amusing, even with the spelling (it’s your, not you’re) mistakes)
April 21st, 2008 at 3:25 pm
I am so happy to see so many comments on this article. It’s amazing! But, can’t we refrain from the personal attacks? Can’t we just get along? I don’t know what the clash is between Irene and Tom. I think they’re actually attracted to each other in a strange way. Let’s act like grownups with the comments from now on, okay kids?
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:16 am
It was a pleasure communicating with you, Tommy. I’m sure we brought a smile to many a face.
April 22nd, 2008 at 2:58 am
ha ha ha ,what it boils down to he knows what he wants and theres no head games or drama involved.hes loyal becouse he knows a good thing when he has one.he wont cheet or lie.he wont let you pay the check any where.whyb hes the provider not the free rider.he pays his share and more.and as for sex.he usually knows more unless your one of those girls who knows more then i really wouldnt want too many people knowing that unless your advertiseing.older men are more passionate more careing of there love.well dont take my word for it go out and give it a try.youll probly thank me for it
April 22nd, 2008 at 1:40 pm
Irene and Tommy
This was really entertaining. I have just printed a copy so my friends (all in their 30’s ) can be entertained on our home today.
April 22nd, 2008 at 3:00 pm
I AM TROJANO! The women worship the very ground I walk on and on occasion I let them speak to me. I AM TROJANO! The most sexually appealing man in the world! I AM TROJANO! Women pay thousands of money to be in my presence. I AM TROJANO!!!!
April 26th, 2008 at 4:42 am
I’m pretty sure you’ve never brought a smile to anyones face Irene. Lets face it that name went out with the ark. You must be at least 70 years old to have been called Irene. No wonder you have to write about sex, with a fanny like a shriveled up old prune who the hell would want to root you? I bet even your dildo stays soft.
April 26th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
old men are not hot or sexy …lets face it and i would definetly never date a much older man who just wants me for my body. Ewww wrinkly penis…gross
April 27th, 2008 at 4:08 am
I was left for a younger woman. I thought my world was over and I cried for 2 years,, it was very painful. I find it interesting that the older men say older woman are fat, bitter etc. To begin with no one is perfect or looks 20 when they are 50 including you men. You have gray hair, wrinkles and all the flaws women have. Why do women get plastic surgery? Because of our society. older women are chucked out like an old pair of jeans so sometimes they do despeart things to try to recaputure their youth. With menopause brings great changes to her body, something she has no control over. You do have a tendency to gain weight, I work out daily very hard and hike and climb mountains and still I fight constantly with my weight, when I was 20 or 30 I ate at McDonalds and looked like a model even if I diddnt work out, I can’t believe some of the comments of the older men regarding not wanting women due to these things that they themselves also deal with. There are men out there ladies, who cherish older mature women, who arent so insecure that they need a young goregous women on their arm, they appreciate the lines and realize the wisdom and beauty that goes with it. Most men who do date younger women never end up with them in long term relationships and they usually find out that they really have nothing in common with them. My ex went through that and came back begging me to take him back, I said no,, so now hes dating a 23 year old that post every time they have sex on My Space ,, hahah ,, Tells ya where her head is,, heheeh
I think ladies, we have to just be the wonderful beautiful older but not perfect woman we are.. You can’t compete with young girl, on beauty but why would you want to,, you know you have so much more that she doesn’t but will someday and she too will see how it feels to get wrinkles and no longer turn heads,, its the cycle of life and you have to find other things to make you happy, attention is not going to be one them,,
Maria
April 27th, 2008 at 4:44 am
Did anyone notice the one comment from a 17 year old dating a 48 year old?
I think her name was Sophie.. Isn’t it illegal to have sex with a underage person ? I believe it constitutes jail time and having to register as a sex offender? Where is Sophies parents? Do they know about this?
Hopefully shes had a bday since her last blog and is over 18 .. the guy could still face charges if he engaged in sex with this young woman at the time that she was 17.
Maria
April 28th, 2008 at 8:06 pm
Graham:
I think the name ”Irene” is beautiful. It’s derived from the Greek word meaning ”peace”, or ”pax”, (in Latin). Some names always stay in fashion. An example: the name ”Sophia”, was, and still is today, a beautiful and popular name. It’s like clothing. The classic stuff (like the little black dress), will always be around.
April 28th, 2008 at 10:43 pm
I was involved in a study to see if people were compatible when there were huge age differences involved in the relationship. What we found out was that the very best relationships had at least a 15 year age difference. The real reason many of these relationships don’t last is due to bigotry of society at large (some of which can be seen on this forum).
Btw, it doesn’t matter if the man or the woman is the older one in the relationship.
April 29th, 2008 at 9:08 pm
I’ll do you Irene. But, you must never speak. I will not allow it. Why? Because I AM TORJANO!
April 30th, 2008 at 3:06 am
I love the age difference.
I’m a 20 year old dating a 33 year old man.
He was my boss at work.
Hehe I love it!
April 30th, 2008 at 2:55 pm
You sound quite naughty, Suzanne. Delicously so. What types of things do you and your 33-year-old like to do in the bedroom? Oh, please tell us. Please do. (giggle. giggle.)
May 1st, 2008 at 3:41 pm
oh, suzanne–please spill the beans. what little naughties do you perform with your older man? nasty sanchezes, perhaps. oh, please tell!
May 1st, 2008 at 11:40 pm
Iv had lots of experiences with younger and older men, and too be quite honest I really enjoyed the older mans company more! I would definately prefer a older man as they seem so more more interesting. They are very appreciative of any attention they are getting, they are smart, intelligent, considerate, and very kind, loving and respectful. I enjoy pleasing an older man because 9x’s out of 10 the attention that they are used to is so stale and so infrequent, generally due to the woman not enjoying sex as much as she used too. The sex becomes boring and predictable or not happening at all, and that is generally the cause of why men stray in the first place. YES this is TRUE!! Men are very visual creatures, and love too look at nice things, they generally dont ask for much apart from some regular loving. Lets face it, there are a lot of woman have so many hang ups about sex, being naked, even down to not wanting to recieve or ever preforming oral sex, what the hell is up with that? And if your overweight, do something about it. Because I tell you if you look good you actually feel good. Excuses may give you time off from the “JOB” but sooner or later you got to put out, cause if you dont your man will STRAY. And thats a fact! Like i said I have had younger men too, which I found they dont have much of a personality, not much to contribute to a conversation either, and not alot of life style experiences. They just wanna shag and not too interested in pleasing the woman, then when there done there off out the door like a shot.! then your left feeling like you just being used. Come on guys where are your manners!! You dont have to treat them mean to keep them keen! Oh for the record anyone who would like to post an opinion please do so. Yes it starting to sound like iv had an affair before, so I guess you all wanna hit me up about that too and tell me what a bad, uncaring, home wrecker, selfish person I am. Im not sure I would care about yours’ or anyone else’s opinion. So bloody what! it takes 2 to tango, and every one knows its generally the man who strays, so as I said previously, IF YOU DONT WANT YOUR MAN TO GET IT ELSE WHERE YOU HAD BETTER START TAKING CARE OF HIS NEEDS, NOT WANTS, NEEDS!! there is a difference! And for those woman going through the change of life, get some help, because you can actually create a barrier between you and your partner, and there are ways too over come these problems, before it gets to the stage where some one throws in towel and gets tired of the same crap! So im all for it with younger women dating older men.
May 1st, 2008 at 11:50 pm
And for the record GRAHAM I think you are funny!! Good on you for being so brutally honest!
May 2nd, 2008 at 4:46 am
HEY ED ATTANASIO : Yes siree, you’ve hit a nerve here ~lol~
HOT ALPHA BABE : AHA! Someone gets it! I actually read ALL the entries until I reached yours, wondering if a girl or guy would spot the core issue here: Its all about power, dominance and submission. THAT is what makes this dynamic work so often, and THAT is why so many older women get rattled about this. Many modern women are not comfortable in a traditional balance of power, so they get labels like “selfish” and “demanding.” These older women are really just “dominant” thats all. Knowledge is power, and power is dominance, so on the average, most older women DO tend to become more dominant with age. The younger guys with older women comes from two sources. One is a submissive male (baby) and dominat female (mommy), but thats NOT the only way this works. Some older ladies like to be feminine and choose to be dolls, regardless of their age. In that case, these older women sometimes do hook up with younger guys, and that younger guy isnt neccessarily a boy-toy sissy, he just likes his older babe for who she is. To really stretch this thing, and be open minded, who cares if some fem-dom and he-submissive live hapily ever after? Is that really so big a deal? So its not wrong any way its put together. But again the law of averages? Younger women tend to be swayed by the dominance of older men, and older men tend to be attracted to that submission… on the average. Not that this is right or wrong, but just this is what we are really seeing. Its not just high and tight boobs (although no older guy complains about them) that attract the older male, its simple traditional relationship dynamics that have been in place now for 6000 years to 10 million years, depending on who you believe. Sugar Daddies have been on the throne all these years. Feminism is a fairly new player at the card table. I dont judge the Sugar Mommas to be wrong or evil, they are just playing the game a new way.
ONE LAST WORD TO THE OTHER DADDIES OUT THERE : Brothers, hit the freakin gym! If you think you are amazed how your nice car and 6 figure salary appeal to young babes? You aint seen nothin yet. Upgrade the package deal for the ladies by getting lean and rock hard yourself, and you will DEFINITELY get noticed. True Im only 40, but do whatever you can for your age. I dont have anything against older women at all, but my woman is typically 10-15 years my junior and it just happens naturally without my looking for some young hottie. Its been so long since I approached a disinterested female, I have just about forgotten how to flirt uphill on a cold-call. Daddies, keep all the class and affluence you have now, just add a solid body to the equation gentlemen. Women approach me regularly. Im not Brad Pitt, I just keep a good balance. Younger women DO care if you are fit, because they dont want their older man to die on them and leave them alone about the time they turn 60 and cant get a date anymore. Plus ladies know that abs are essential to dynamic sex and men who run 4-6 times a week can sweat and keep going without a heart attack. OK nuff said.
May 2nd, 2008 at 7:20 am
Wouldn’t surprise me if women get tired of the ‘’same ol’ crap” too, for that matter. Women are visual creatures also (I think most of them have at least 2 eyes in their heads). I’ve seen many poor old guys thrown out with more than just the ”towel” - to put it bluntly - no pun intended ….. HONESTLY¡¡¡¡¡!!!!!
May 4th, 2008 at 4:04 pm
Suzanne. I’m still waiting. Please help me with this annoying morningwood.
May 5th, 2008 at 11:57 pm
Suzanne, you little trolip. Do you tease your older man the same way you’re teasing me? You are so naughty. Tantalizingly so!
May 5th, 2008 at 11:59 pm
It’s none of your business what I do with my boyfriend, Mr. Puffer. Quit bugging me, you old fart. Get a life, you perv! I refuse to let you get off on the very private moments I share exclusively with my older man. Back off!
May 6th, 2008 at 6:58 pm
the one thing to remember is that we are all people. the young will get old and the old were once young. life is what you make of it at any age!
May 7th, 2008 at 6:54 am
Interesting subject. I found myself less interested in the author compared to some of the comments. I must confess, I side with the women’s opinion for the most part. Decent society doesn’t simply toss people away because of age. Well, unless their walking in circles claiming UFO abductions, and brain scans from beyond this galaxy.
Before offering my humble opinion, I think it would be beneficial to mention I’m a 47 year old guy, in great physical shape, and was involved in major athletics in college. This isn’t a pickup line! I believe context is important when dealing with male and female relationships, especially those that may involve an age difference. If I can condense this opinion into only a few paragraphs, it will be a miracle!
My honest opinion; age is so incredibly unimportant if you care or love someone. Within reason that is! Get the underage girls off your mind. I would never condone such a thing!
When I was near the end of my college days I was dating a woman who was 22 years older than myself. I loved her. Professionally we went our different ways about two years after my graduation, but she looked me up ten years later and we had dinner. We also spent a couple of days in my new town seeing the sights. It was great. We talked about everything and reminisced. My phone number had always been unlisted, yet I did figure out how she obtained it. It took some serious work on her part to pull this off, and this was back in the day when a computer filled 100 square feet of office space.
Naturally, as I grew older, I dated women younger, and older. When I was in my mid 30’s I dated a 49 year old woman. She was also great, but I was disappointed one evening after she had a few drinks, when she asked to see my drivers license to prove my age.
In all fairness to her, even at 47 today, most people tend to think I’m in my mid thirties. Well, unless you go somewhere alcohol is served! Then they all seem to think I’m under 21!
My reverse experience in dating was great also, a “young” lady who was 26 when I was in my late 30’s. Like my experience with older women, this was also terrific. I reflect on this relationship with the understanding that I was the one who ended it because I didn’t believe this situation served her well when considering a life with me. She had much more to learn about life than I could have possibly taught. I’m not stupid, and I care about people. More specifically, people who care about me.
I don’t care how old or young you are ladies and men, I’d like someone close I can communicate with. There’s no question in my mind that women mature more quickly then men. If you think about it from an anthropological standpoint, it makes perfect sense. Women must care for the young, and men must care for the women and children, and everything else.
I’m middle aged in my life, and I don’t care! Bring it on, and let’s have some fun along the way. As long as it’s mutual.
I will most likely remain in my age range, but I am open.
Curt B.
May 9th, 2008 at 7:52 am
Hey, I just turned 50 I love the idea of young women dating us older guys to me 40 is a young women.
May 9th, 2008 at 6:00 pm
Aw, c’mon Suzanne. You’re ruining my fun. PLeeeeaaasseeee!
May 14th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
I just love reading these comments! My husband and I are 18 years apart (I am 33 and he is 51). We have been together for three years and married for 2 years. We just had a baby a few months ago. Let me just say that I am very happy with my husband because we have a lot in common. We love to collect antiques and watch the same movies and he is my best friend and soul mate. He is also a fabulous lover in bed. We have a great sex life because I’m always turned on by his charm and good looks. I was married to someone the same age as me and was very unhappy with the marriage because he wanted to spend more time going to football games and gambel, rather than spending time with me. Now I have someone who wants to spend time with me and appreciate me more. I do not care what society thinks because I am happy that I found my soul mate.
May 14th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
There is nothing wrong with having a 50 year old woman who you grown old with and love for a long time because she could probably never be replaced and shouldn’t be. However, when a man looks for a second wife, he will always go for a younger woman because he is “visual.” Society today promotes many young very good looking women. I am over 50 and just got remarried recently to a woman almost 20 years younger than me. We both have a lot in common along with a blended family. I do not understand why women my age look at us with such contempt. I have kept myself in shape and I do look quite a bit younger than I am. I found that being with women my own age provoked equal controversey due to the fact that the woman looks older than me. It is true that I am very attracted to her and the sex is mind blowing. I just ask that the older woman to not hate us, but just go look in the mirror. After all, if you are shopping for a new car, would you choose one with higher miles and needs work, or go for a newer model and less miles? Commander!!!!!!
May 15th, 2008 at 5:24 am
I´v been reading every single comment, well kind of… and some are funny, some are sad(which i´m really sorry), some are stupid, some are like oh my god SHUT the fuck up, jaja you named it!. In my case, i´m 20 years old and my boyfriend just turned 30. I love him, absolutelly love him, everything about him.. he doesn´t have any children (which i´m thankful, otherwise i would never ever accept him in my life). We are thinking to get marry like in 4 years, and have childrens in probably 6 or 8 years. I personally never thought to get involve with someone 10 years apart from me, i guess is not a lot of years apart.., but i do think about how´s it going to be later?, I mean, is hard to think about that… because to me marry is for life.
Our storie is kind of like an ADVENTURE jaja, i´m not an american girl, i´m mexican. We met each other trhu an exchange abroad that i did about 1 year ago. Now, he is in the army and i´m back in mexico studying… it´s sounds crazy huh? BUT we really love each other, we´are living like our own romantic movie, he calls me everynight, sends me letters etc, he´s actually coming to meet my parents in like a month.
ANYWAYS… I think girls that we just have to think about OURSELVES first, like finishing a major, work, etc. To get in a conclusion, i think what makes a couple HAPPY is the different kind of ideas that you can get from each brain jaja, in order to talk about many things and not get bored.
I really love USA, but I adore mexico… the difference of cultures make the relationship HOT HOT HOT HOT,.. (giggle).. God bless all of you =)
May 16th, 2008 at 9:59 pm
Just in case my previous comment do not pass moderation, now that I’m older (53) I am luckier with women, a lot luckier! The crazy thing is that most of the women I met are young (mostly less than 25), quite intelligent and classy.
After grandma passed away, we put a nurse to take care of grandpa, who was 77 years old. She was a beautiful woman in her late 20s with a 4 year degree in nursing and doing grad school. The bastard got her pregnant, married her and have other 6 kids with her, the last one at 90. Grandpa passed away at 120 and as a good viking, with his word in his hand and a smile in his face (we had to turn the thing down so he can fit in the coffin).
Dad married 7 times, the last one at 67 with a 19 year old beautiful girl. They lasted 20 years until dad passed away. The had a kid, a beautiful young woman doing grad school now. My beloved youngest sister. In his last year the girl called me to complaint that dad had two girlfriends. Dad told me that as long as the roster croaked there will be candy for everyone. I think he could not bear the stress of three women at the same time at 87. I never saw a woman crying so badly. She told me that dad treated her like a woman and as a lady and that he was the love of her life. She is still single.
That young lady Ava, seems interesting, the type of woman I like to met. Of course, I only met in public places first and for tea or coffee, just in case I have to run (it happened twice). In any case my e mail is richardwagner5000@yahoo.com
Yes, I also compose classical music and play violin, although I am an economist by profession.
RW
May 17th, 2008 at 3:46 am
“# Kyle Rapton Says:
June 25th, 2007 at 1:18 am
All of you are sinners. Pre-marital sex is a serious offense toward God. Hooking up with women half your age isn’t normal, guys. Can’t you see it? Stop being pawns for Satan and wise up! Marraige is a lifelong thing, kitty. The fact you have been maried three times should tell you that you aree the problem, not your ex-husbands. You’re no better than the men. You all need to repent today.”
Yea, I agree about the premarital sex part and that they need to repent but repentance won’t happen until God is willing, therefore I don’t really care what anyone else is doing as long as I find the right girl for me if God is willing. Other’s having premarital sex, while it can be frustrating trying to find a suitable girl who also has the values I am looking for when it seems most don’t share mine, is really not my problem. The rest of what you said is total BS.
“Hooking up with women half your age isn’t normal”… Why not? I agree it’s not normal if by normal you mean the “norm” but I’m sure you meant “not normal” as “bad”. Then riddle me this: Mary was about 14 when promised to Joseph who was in his mid thirties. She probably went through a one year period then of being taught in their parents’ home how to be a wife and then still have to give birth so by the time they consummated their marriage she was 15/16 making Joseph about 20 years older, around 35+, which is more years than she had been alive! God approved. Is God wrong or is God right? God says it’s right if they are old enough and within marriage. All this “Oh my gosh the age” is just a bunch of opinions formed by people who are influenced by society and laws without question, what they perceive to be the majority view so that they can follow it because it gives them a sense of security belonging to the team with the most players and so that they can be sheep and their personal grudges that often have no real foundation in TRUTH and is a load of horse crap, and while these first few paragraphs may not mean much to a non-believer it should convict you if you really are one.
As far as Kitty, you don’t know her situation and weren’t there to know whose fault it was. Maybe it was her fault, maybe it was his or maybe both. You don’t and won’t know, so you can’t really talk. The Bible doesn’t say you can’t judge. This “do not judge” thing people use as a cop out is taken out of context and used as an excuse by those who don’t want their delusions revealed, but what it does say is to judge righteous judgment and the righteous judgment is judged by measuring things against what God says, and not your opinions, so you shouldn’t really get on Kitty’s back.
Stop parroting the BS you hear from the ignoramuses you hear preaching their phony doctrines from the pulpits and find out what the Bible really says. You can start by listening to this educated man who has been studying the Bible, Hebrew, Greek, and ancient culture for around close to 50 years here and is a real straight shooter. I wouldn’t be surprised if he knocks down one of your favorite televangelists:
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=7420836678474864309
http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-1360389349562865534
As for some of the rest, sometimes I really think the world is crazy and that most people are mental. Since when the heck is a thirty year old, old? When did 40 become old? Shoot, someone get me a pine box ready then cause I think i’ll be meeting the reaper in 10+ years. I’ll be over the hill and and going down that hill fast. I mean, the last few girls 10 years my junior who liked me, what were they thinking those silly girls? Maybe they were mental? Man, some people can say such unbelievable things. A 10 year difference is nothing. 20 years is no big deal either. Maybe when you start getting into 25 to 30 years older you might want to think about whether or not you want to be a widow/widower by the time you are around 45 or so, because it’s still relatively young. But if you are okay with that, then that’s your business.
And some here saying stuff similar to “I like older guys. I’m 21 and my boyfriend is 27″. Huh??? 6 years is this “older” guy you’re talking about? Gimme a break! And the poster of the article, saying this is about women who are twenty somethings dating a guy in his 40s, 50s or 60s. That “40s” seemed out of place to me since a 20 something can be a 29 year old and that’s only 11 years from 40, and even if it’s 15 or so, “whoopy-doo”. Hardly worth mentioning.
I have an aunt who was the eldest child of my grandparents, and sometime between the age of 16 and 20 (around there I can’t remember exactly) she married a man who was about my grandparents’ age. They were pissed, especially my grandmother and she wanted to disown my aunt, but after a year or two of cooling down they met the man and guess what? They fell in love with his “wrinkly” ass and they ended up being married to each other and very happy. He died when he was about 80 and she was 60. Big deal. Granted, men and women I suppose were different back then (also another country) and then it was not so believed (so I am told ;-| ) that a man well into adulthood marrying a young 16 to 20 year old was not generally frowned upon and considered normal, but 50 years later, shit, some people are ready to mob over this crap! So, it may be less probable to have that luck in today’s societies, which is conducive to keeping people childish and stupid longer, especially in the good ol’ US of A (and yea, I am American. I say it cause it’s true) but it’s possible and even if “you’re” experience was bad that was “you” and other people are not like “you”.
This Lez person or whatever talking about libido and sperm DNA damage. Gimme a break, dude. Many men are as virile in their 40s and 50s as 18 year olds and I’ve seen guys in their near 60s who look 40 and beat the crap out of these virile young men, have rugged chiseled and not saggy looking faces with young bodies. They take care of themselves and eat right. A young slob, lazy SOB ain’t gonna break any records in the bedroom either, man.
And this Maria, talking like she’s saying “So and so said they are 47 (or whatever) and dating a 17 year old .. oh my GOSH! Isn’t that a sin (trans. against the “law”)??? AHHH!!! Someone call the damn cavalry!!!” Wake up, woman. The average age of consent overall among US states (if he’s in the USA) is 16/17 NOT 18! You don’t know what state he’s in or what country. You’re like one of those types who doesn’t know a child is actually only a prepubescent and that paedophilia is defined as someone who is ONLY attracted to prepubescents (does not necessarily imply actual molestation) and NOT someone who is attracted to someone underage (trans. someone who is under the age that the government has set as the “official” age of adulthood). So, while in principle one 16 or 17 year old may not be ready for anything serious another may be, I still advise to just stick with over 18 to be on the safe side, even though it should be parents’, guardians, relatives and communities to determine maturity and not the gub’ment with their one size fits all magic age. You can go back and watch “To catch a predator now”. I’m sure you like that show of dumb shits.
Problem is people want to take their personal opinions and make them apply to everyone. You think “older men are gross, so it’s wrong”, “Oh, I was in a relationship with an older man and it was okay for two years but then his-baggage-his-baggage so it isn’t a good idea”, “I was with an older woman and she started nagging me and getting bossy and it got to be a real drag, so I think it’s a bad idea”, “My husband divorced me and then found a 20 year old so it should be against the law!” Bla bla bla freaking bla. That was YOUR situation and may not be someone else’s. If it’s the baggage then it’s the baggage, not his age. You think they are gross because you’re used to seeing the ones that are gross, then get out more or realize that’s your taste and not universal and realize that when people say older men they don’t necessarily mean 100 years old you know? The “old bag” started nagging you? Well maybe it’s not her age, it’s just that she was hurt before or maybe just a bitch. You’re husband divorced you and found some college student? Maybe he left because you were a pain in the ass or there’s a part of the story you’re not telling and you’re bitter, or maybe it wasn’t you but it was him who was a jackass! Passing some BS law to disallow marriage or dating between a certain age gap ain’t gonna solve your problems, because that’s not the problem. That’s akin to passing a law to making adultery illegal, and while I don’t agree with adultery, it’ll happen between any age and gender and I don’t know how you would enforce that. People making a big deal out of something like 20 years when it’s not even really any kind of deal. Have mercy!
People with vendettas influencing everything they think the way things ought to be for everyone else. Seriously, get the hell over it.
Heck, I think I’ll move to France and no more of this junk for me to deal with. Good luck to everyone, I mean it and sorry I wrote so much :-)))
(None of what I believe to be facts that I’ve mentioned should be taken as fact without verifying first for yourself because I’m fallible like you are and I won’t be responsible for your lack of due diligence)
May 17th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
Suzanne, please. You’re being so coy, I can’t believe it. It’s okay…I am a very patient man. But, don’t make me wait too long.
May 18th, 2008 at 1:04 am
For Richard Wagner:
If your dad treated his last wife as a lady - what was he doing cheating on her? I have the feeling, somehow, that most ”ladies”, specifically those with all their faculties still working, wouldn’t consider THAT as being treated like a lady - or a woman - for that matter!
So maybe, after tea or coffee, it’ll be the ”lady” who’s running (in the opposite direction.)
Just a thought………..
May 18th, 2008 at 2:34 am
To Richard Wagner:
Did I understand you correctly? That you’re actually contemplating dating your ex step-mother (who’s also the mother of your step-sister?)
Perhaps some extra soul searching and a teeny weeny bit of discretion might be the order of the day, in this situation, if only out of respect for your step-sister.
Is this a viking tradition?
Just another thought ……..
May 18th, 2008 at 3:28 am
I don’t care what the rest of the world thinks regarding younger women marrying older men! Just because they think negatively in that regard doesn’t make it so! When the aforementioned meet and find that they think alike and possibly a soul mate, one cannot fault them for being attracted to each other! It’s so difficult to meet someone who understands you completely and thinks almost as you do! Age should NOT be a consideration, unless the female wants a lot of children and the man is many years older than her. If she doesn’t care about that, then, why the worry? As the saying goes: “It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.” This is my case. I married at 40 and my love was 72. Don’t laugh or scoff! He looked and acted 20 years younger and remains so to this day…after, 11 years and still maintaining! He maintains a healthy diet and exercises regularly. His mind is sharp and I find him to be a joy to be around! I know it was meant for us to meet, and I have NEVER regretted my commitment of marriage to him. I do not find myself longing for a younger man, because I know I have found someone who reaches me to the depths of my soul…gratifyingly, the feeling is mutual on both sides.
Never criticize what you have not experienced or understand, until you look deeper into the situation.
Yes, I know..you’re going to say: “what about the time when he becomes much older and ill, and you’ll have to care for him. The day will come he will pass away…what then?” Naturally, before the marriage, I took that into consideration. I was a RN and was very familiar with older people and their health considerations; so this was not a blind spot in my determination to marry this rare individual. When true love comes along, and you find the same in your heart: “for better or for worse, in sickness or in health…” no matter what the future holds, that is what carries one on this unusual journey of younger woman marries older man.
May 20th, 2008 at 2:42 pm
Suzanne: Fine, ignore me. You’re a real mean little, fragile thing Suzanne. And I have decided I don’t care for you anymore.
May 21st, 2008 at 12:14 am
I am 23yrs old and my SUGAR is 42………he is the most loving…..caring person I know. We have candle lit dinners every weekend……he gives me good advice on my major decisions…….we dont just sit and stare at each other we have meaningful conversations……..the cash flow is great……he takes me shopping,he pays my bills, whenever we go out he takes the cheque…….i never have to come out of my pocket…….I love his companionship and him. So guess what? I am going to PLEASE my SUGAR until.
May 21st, 2008 at 2:00 pm
Hey Pretty Paris: Why don’t you surprise your SUGAR and pay for something every once in a while? Pry open that very tight wallet of yours, baby! That way you won’t appear to be a money-grubbing leech.
May 26th, 2008 at 4:09 pm
hey guys. i`m a 17 goin 18 gal. and i`m currently dating a guy who is turning 30 this year. i suppose i`m ok with it, as it runs in my family? my mum and dad is 15 yrs apart. but i`m jus afraid that things dun go the way its supposed to. advice, anyone? thanks.
May 29th, 2008 at 7:02 pm
i have to tell the truth it sucked
May 30th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
What happened, Janie? You went out with an older guy and he didn’t treat you right? What is it? Why do you say it sucked, my little princess?
May 31st, 2008 at 10:32 pm
Why so glum, little Janie? Did your parents restrict your time online?
June 5th, 2008 at 3:15 am
Oh, little Janie. Did you have to have your little diaper changed? Yo! Janie!
June 6th, 2008 at 12:45 am
This was a great article, really funny. I am nearly 50 years old, in great shape ( run 6 miles a day ) ive been dating a women 20 years my junior for appx. 4 years, we have a great time together, tired of the old hags my age that are set in their ways.
June 11th, 2008 at 6:31 pm
Old hags with flabby bags is what I say. Right on, Tman!
June 23rd, 2008 at 3:15 am
Funny responses here and all are only “OPINIONS” but the biggest loser is that judgemental catholic here - Kyle Rapton. Gee what gives you the right to act like this and judge people? I’m sure in your bible Jesus said let the man without sin cast the first stone. People who judge and abuse others are the reason people leave the church and can’t stand the followers. Like Ghandi said “I love your Christ but I don’t like your Christians”
June 26th, 2008 at 9:44 pm
I’m 36 and older - up to 15 years is the way to go. They know how to treat you in and out of bed. Just the fact that some young chick will go for them makes them appreciate you more. They are established. They usualy have kids and don’t want any more. They are smarted about sex. BTW te best are the older reformed Catholic guys. Being Catholic myself they can relate.
June 28th, 2008 at 1:41 am
Sounds like you’ve been sinning on several different levels and want to get it off your chest, Matt. Don’t cast stones at me, sir–I am just a member of Christ’s Army, trying to help misguided triflers like yourself find God. Don’t slay the messenger, you poor, confused little man. Your hatred only makes me stronger.
July 2nd, 2008 at 7:34 pm
“Love knows no bounds.”
I found my soulmate 18 months ago because I did NOT allow myself to be bound by:
- our 14 year age difference
- our 3,000 mile geographical difference
- our different countries of citizenship and residence
- our lack of finances, or
- our current marriages and families!!
I credit the love of my life for being so loving and wonderful and inspiring me to take this bold step with him. I have been grandly rewarded for my courage. We have not worked out all our challenges but I am thrilled to report we now live together as we work to finalize our respective divorces and try to find a way to earn a comfortable living together. At least we ARE together! I am 36 and he is 50 years young! Truly, I thought we had each lived our lives and experienced all there was worth experiencing. But I have found that everything is new and more wonderful now that I experience it with the love of my life. Thinking I’d have only grandchildren to look forward to in my future, I discovered yesterday that I AM EXPECTING!!!
If I have any advice to offer it is this:
Don’t settle or compromise your values! Never give up on finding love. Know that if you are sincere in your motives then you deserve it. Be open-minded, let go of past hurts, your judgements and your fears and you will be rewarded. Life is all about the *journey*!!
P.S. Look for us and our incredible story of love in the Second Life Documentary Coming Soon!!!! (Yes, we met online!! - what an incredible age we live in!!)
July 4th, 2008 at 7:59 pm
Great comment, Amie. Congratulations! It is fitting that your response to this posting was number 300!!
July 6th, 2008 at 11:21 am
It’s about 5 am and as I sit and read these comments on age and love. I wonder if anyone took the age thing and put it in the trash and looked at the other sex as a lover/friend/partner. My woman and I have been together for 6 years and still love/trust and respect each others ideas on life.We enjoy dinner and dancing and a trip to six flags just as much as being nude in the swimming pool a night, so everyone who is ANGRY about their X get over it and love the one you’re with. We do PJ58/CARRIE27
July 7th, 2008 at 8:45 pm
Very interesting, all of you. I can’t help but notice that those most opposed to the man being many years older have what seem to me very fixed ideas and concepts about what it means to be older.
I have always dated women a few years younger or my own age. My wife was the same age as I. After she passed away, I began dating younger women.
I have been blessed with really good genes and have made fitness and good dietary habits a life-long plan(since I was 15) I am now 58 and look 40. NO ONE ever guesses my age correctly as I am very fit and dance professionally. For me, younger women are simply a better match. I have ZERO issues with ED and it seems that function is as it was at 35. When I look at women my own age they just look like my mom and I can’t go there. After all, I don’t have wrinkles, a flabby mid section or much grey. I did go bald, but so many guys shave their heads these days, it’s not an issue. Women in their 30’s and 40’s see me as a very attractive man, as do women in their 50’s, but these think I’m too young for them, as they never would guess that most often I’m actually older!! As well, I get a kick out of guys in their early 40’s trying to school me about one thing or another because they think they are older and wiser than I. But to sum it up; everyone is different. Generalizations about age are quite useless. Just let everyone do as they please without the pointless judgements.
July 8th, 2008 at 3:02 pm
You know,something just occured to me. Those ladies who think that older guys are gross, as someone mentioned, have this to keep in mind; You only notice the older guys who ARE gross. That’s right, the ones with plumber’s butt, beer bellies, bad teeth, skin issues etc. Chances are, the guys my age(50 plus)who’ve cared for themselves and look 10-15 years younger than their actual years, these you don’t see! You may in fact see and meet them all the time, but because they look so much younger than your preconceived notions of what that age should look like, you remain in ignorance as to what else 50+ can be! 50…it’s the new 35!!
July 8th, 2008 at 4:27 pm
This article gives me hope! I love young women, unfortunately I can’t help but age.
July 10th, 2008 at 3:41 pm
Well written article. Thank you so much. I learnt a lot
July 13th, 2008 at 7:29 pm
I love the young stuff as well. Can’t get enuff of it!
July 22nd, 2008 at 4:53 pm
Thank *YOU* Ed!!!…. for an article that brilliantly balances humor and truth. Over 300 responses and still counting says it all! If we have a son, we’ll have to name him Edward ;))
I am encouraged by the success of your article on this EVER-HOT TOPIC. I hope that the SECOND LIFE DOCUMENTARY which I, AMIE GOODE, and my love, BLUNTLY BERBLINGER, are featured in, will meet with as much success.
Look for our story to debut at Sundance next month!! And to hit TV or theaters during this coming year!!
July 22nd, 2008 at 5:10 pm
Mr. Attanasio: I made an error in my last post by citing Sundance is next month (that is registration). If you decide to post my reply, kindly change “next month” to “January”.
Thank you in advance.
Wishing you continued success!
Amie Goode
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:46 pm
I am a 29 yo female and my live in boyfriend is 23. I used to only date older guys, but quite honestly found them to all be the same. In fact, often older guys are the ones with tons of baggage (even though the guys here are saying older women have it). Older men only want younger girls for one reason, sex. Now, that is not to say ALL older guys. If two people fall in love then great. But I am sickened when I see 50 year old guys who “wont date anyone over 35″. Wwhy is that? You are looking to manipulate and take advantage and you know it. I have seen 20 year old girls who tan and smoke all day look hideous, and I have seen 40 yo old women that workout, eat well and put them to shame in the look department. You cannot say all young girls are hot and all old girls are nasty. You are dillusional. Also, to my younger sisters out there calling old women shriveled up, used and nasty….are you kidding me??? You realize we all age right??? You realize that we are all human beings right??? What losers to talk that way.
As for my boyfriend, he says he never even things about the age. He is from Europe though where they are less focused on age and more on the person. People mistake me for 19 years old all the time, age is just a number.
July 23rd, 2008 at 7:50 pm
also to jd and the older guys who look young
just like you don’t want to be generalized as pot belly, shriveled, etc….why generalize older women that way??? Like I said I have seen 20 year olds who go to the tanning bed every day, puff on ciggies and have terrible wrinkled up leather faces. I have seen 40+ women that are gorgeous. How do you know you cannot find any woman your own age that is just as fabulous as you?
July 24th, 2008 at 4:32 am
Kay–are u dating on the side? You sound like you must be super sizzlin’!
July 27th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
All men, no matter who they are or where they’re from, love the young stuff. My 77-yr. old grandfather had cancer of the penis and was dying in the hospital. He told me that he would forfeit any remaining time he had left on this planet if he could just have 15 minutes with some young p—y. We got him a 20-year-old hooker. He had a great time with her and died three days later. He passed on with a big fat smile on his face!
July 29th, 2008 at 3:52 pm
Funny stuff…What gets me though is that they always portray the “older guy” as a Senior Citizen. Fat, no hair and looks more like grandpa.
I had always attracted the younger women (not girls) and I have asked them why me? Their answers have been from maturity to better sex. They all had a different answer, so it comes to down to preference.
PS I now date an older woman (older then me) for three reasons maturity, better sex, and I feel in love.
August 15th, 2008 at 3:33 pm
Young women cannot give me what I need, because sure they look good but in the end they are selfish, self-centered little brats who have always had their way and expect you yo be their personal slaves. Buy me a Porsche. Buy me some Russian caviar! Buy me some class! They never stop with it!
August 22nd, 2008 at 3:44 pm
I loved this. I laughed and laughed and then just when I thought I was done laughing–I laughed some more!
August 26th, 2008 at 4:48 pm
I have turned a lot of my good friends on to this posting and they laughed and laughed and just when they thought they were done laughing…well, that’s when the laughter was just beginning. Brilliant! Bravo! You are the best thing on this site.
August 28th, 2008 at 9:44 am
I agree with the other persone who is in her 20s who looks younger and dating a older man. I have the same problem I look about 8 years younger then my age and my fella is 13 years older then me and looks his age people are very judgmental its very uncomfortable to go out. People should have some respect and stop judging. They assume what they will just go on about your daily life.
September 4th, 2008 at 2:52 pm
Wow. After reading this, I found one of them young un’s about which you speak, Ed. So far we haven’t had any sex yet, but man–what a body! The fact that she’s not that bright (she thought Obama was a new energy drink!) does not matter to me in the least, because all I want to do is get the punane! Thanks for inspiring me, dood! You rock!
September 5th, 2008 at 1:17 am
Tonight could be the big night! (I’ll keep you posted.) Wish me luck!
September 5th, 2008 at 1:18 am
We’ll hopefully find out how many times 46 goes into 22! (wink wink)
September 8th, 2008 at 3:00 am
scccccccccccccccccccccccccccccccooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooorrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee! I hit it out of the ballpark, my good man!
September 14th, 2008 at 9:42 pm
Cracking blog post, and some of it rings true. I’d love to get my hands on a fit woman in her early 20’s now that I am close to 40, imagine that firm body!
September 15th, 2008 at 10:17 am
well, am 28 years old and my boyfriend is 52 years old and i ve never had one of those 50 reason…. except i have one major problem….. his tool is already out of function. what a mess
September 19th, 2008 at 3:59 am
I am now hitting it and won’t soon be quitting it and I owe it all to this article. You da man, ED!
September 22nd, 2008 at 5:59 pm
Wow I am really glad I read this article. I am 21 years old and have been dating a 41 year old for a year now. I have not said yes to actually being his girl friend because of the comments a lot of people make towards us. There is a lot we have in common because I am highly intelligent for my age and he doesn’t act his but he is very intelligent too. I have a four year old daughter and she is absolutly in love with him and my parents like him too. Older men have a lot to offer like stability, caring, they appreciate younger women, and they have a lot of old world charm and qualities that younger men no longer practice (like holding the door).
September 22nd, 2008 at 6:21 pm
I am 24yr old female from Africa and iam (on-line) dating a 53 year old guy from Germany. He is caring and loving but he seems so sensitive and protective. Actually, this is on-line dating (1year now).He seems to protective even with the distance between us; for instance, he will get upset if i invite him to a site like Fan IQ, claiming that am on a sort of chatting site or dating site. May I please know why he might feel like this?
September 22nd, 2008 at 7:06 pm
I would like to add that I am a sociology major (one of the top in my class) and what I have come to find is that the United States has huge social problems. We have no rights to judge anyone. Other English speaking countries have already adapted to social problems but we are years behind. Just pick up the book called Families in Transition if you do not believe me. There is no definition to what a family should be. It is defined by each individual family unit. Why let happiness go because some stranger does not agree with it? Most Americans are unhappily married or just plain unhappy and most of them are similar in age. These people are the ones judging you.
My boyfriend is 41 and I am 21. Every where we go people stop and tell us how they wish they could go places with us because we are so much fun. I have had many past relationships and had been very unhappy for a while until I met my boyfriend. Now, I have never been happier.
September 22nd, 2008 at 7:45 pm
im 17 and my bf is 40 and i love him!
he never buys me things like you make out young girls are gold digerz i dnt want money 4 him loving me.
him loving me is a bigr gift than money.
all gold diggerz shud get the hell off ther arse n str earnin money.
and i recond to grls to d8 oldr guys!!!!
youngr guys fuk u thn fuk u off. oldr guys r thr longer thn 1 fuk =]
mwah
September 23rd, 2008 at 5:21 pm
I’m 20yrs old and my boyfriend whom I live with is 55…I have never had as much in any other relationship. Nor have I ever been treated this well, and I dont mean sugar daddy. He opens doors, makes me dinner some nights, but most of all he supports me emotionally and he shows emotion. We share the same passions in life and I learn from him as he learns from me. He would be a amazing father should we decide to have a baby down the road (he has no children.) Theres not a doubt in my mind that he will have me for life.
September 24th, 2008 at 7:36 pm
BEEN SEEING A YOUNG LADY FOR A MANY A YEARS , WOULDN’T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY
September 26th, 2008 at 1:37 pm
I have just dumped the most wacked out woman I have ever dated!! she was 29 when I met her and I was 45. The only thing we had in common was sex!! and wow!! she just happened to have an oral fetish I mean anywhere anytime. She really liked doing it in the middle of the day in parking lots and stuff kinda like trying to get caught, whatever I was bamboozled by the sex and in hind sight I would probably rethink the whole thing cause truly I am not a Whore!! but she drug me in with her minipulating ways, but truly the youngness of her was a big plus
everytime my friends saw us they slapped me on the back and gave me kudos for “baggin some young stuff” I have repented to my outlandish sexual behavior but the problem now is that all the woman my age look 60!! I am stuck now having to keep it young, What a ride!!! also for anyone suffering with limpdickism I HIGHLY recomend Boston Medical Group!! this is the stuff the porn industry has used for twenty five years. 2 hour hard ons NO SHIT!! I was in heaven it equals to around $27.00 per sex session but viagra and levitra both gave me bloody noses and dizzyness and after my first orgasm it dissapeared.with this product I had two to three orgasms before giving up actually (tired !!) but it was still erect for another 30 min EVERY TIME!! they have free counciltations where they actually test it on you.my first trial I was erect for 2 hours and 15 min!!! HEAVEN BABY!!!!
September 28th, 2008 at 1:03 am
I’m scoring from both sides of the plate. It’s never too late for the young shtuff!
September 28th, 2008 at 6:36 am
I am older now. I was such a jerk when I was younger just like all the younger jerks are now. I mean I was terrible. Now that I am getting older and less of a jerk, I’m too old to date the younger girls that I like. Wisdom, understanding, and tolerance does come with age. I don’t care what they do as long as they don’t fool around on me or do drugs. Life is backwards.
September 30th, 2008 at 4:59 am
Hilarious, although I’d actually have to say that I’m a proponent of younger men dating older women (I’m 25, I prefer women I date to be late 20’s to mid 40’s, depending on how well they take care of themselves); older women are just easier to deal with, more direct, and more compatible in bed with younger men…
October 3rd, 2008 at 3:59 am
This article was great! I love older men and this article is so true. I will definitely come back to this particular article for future reference. This article was funny as hell!
October 13th, 2008 at 5:48 am
Hahaha Lisa - how about you at LEAST start on your Master’s (if you even decide to go that far with it) before you attempt to know what you’re talking about. Families In Transition? Is it amateur hour in here?
October 18th, 2008 at 4:05 pm
I’m 18 and my sort of boyfriend is 42. I was the one who made the first move and he has said that he couldn’t believe it. I’ve had sex with him 5 times in the two weeks I’ve been with him. The sex is incredible, by far the best I’ve ever had. I’ve found that young guys are so selfish in the bed room.
I definitely don’t want my guy for money, although he is rich, I’m not attracted to him for that reason. I thought that I would just want to have sex with him but he has said recently that he wants me ‘long-term’ and it’s not just ‘f*cking’ that he likes about me, he thinks I am intelligent too.
I used to be so cynical about men. I was quite the feminist but now I’ve started to soften up and have feelings for him! I’ve never been in love before…I’m intrigued as to what it will be like!
I haven’t told my parents about him yet. When I stay the night at his, I say that I’m staying the night at a fictional friend’s place (Sarah or Amy’s). I think my father would go crazy if he knew about him.
The last time we were out, he took me for a meal and at the table opposite was a young guy (about 22) and his girlfriend. The young guy couldn’t stop staring at me, it was so distracting, John (my beau) asked me what I was looking at! I don’t know why the guy was staring but I was paranoid that it was because I was with a man clearly much older than me. It does not help that I don’t look my age (John thought I could be 15!!).
I really hope it won’t be like that wherever we go! I’m seeing John on Monday, I’m so excited!!
October 22nd, 2008 at 1:58 am
You hit on him? That is one lucky old man!
October 24th, 2008 at 10:28 pm
That was really funny… I can’t believe people are taking this so seriously. My fiance is 15 years younger then me. I’m 44. We are alike in so many ways. I realize when I’m 90 and can barely get around she’ll still be a energetic 75 year old. I don’t really want to add more fuel to the fire but I did look around for a couple of years with local dating sites (toronto) and I found a lot of woman who had let themselves go. They had bad attitudes, high expectations and very little to offer. I made a decision to expand my horizens a little. I expanded the age range I would consider and location.( Please note I never excluded older woman but the few I found who interested me where all into younger guys) lol… I found my cutie 15 years younger and on the other side of the planet. For a while I was worried about the age difference so I asked her how she felt about it. She said for her she likes only guys who are at least 5 up to 30 years older then her. 15 started looking like a small number. All that matters is you find someone you love.
October 25th, 2008 at 6:24 am
I’m very touched by the real love story of Anthony Robbins & Sage Robbins (22 years age gap). But I would prefer to be with someone who’s not more than 12 years older - simply because I hate the idea of seeing someone I’ve grown to love leave this planet sooner than I do
October 25th, 2008 at 3:09 pm
I don’t get the whole my parents or dad would be upset. Young guys often ONLY want sex, do more drugs, do more girls. You can’t tell who’ll be OK and who’ll fuck up their lives. Older men not only don’t just want sex they need other things to lead a full life. They have figured out how to have safe sex. They have no killed themselves drinking and driving or doing drugs (time has weeded out the ones of their generation that have fucked up). Older guys CAN’T just date for sex, it’s too boring for most of them, and embarrassing, if she’s just a bimbo. Financial stability is a big deal too. Your daughter is almost certainly going to have a safer, well rounded relationship with an older guy. The only drawback is, if he’s very much older, having kids - and that’s only if you really need to have two parents until they are 30.
October 26th, 2008 at 9:58 am
I don’t know what senior men you know, but all the ones I know do not eat at PF Changs and Drive luxury cars. They drive Buicks, eat at Dennys and play bingo. They are not really what you call “well dressed” either, they wear leisure suits or baggy jeans that expose butt crack. Now thats hot!! I will pass, thanks.
October 27th, 2008 at 3:56 am
Thanks for the laughs because I needed it. I haven’t laughed in a month and a half. I’m just getting over a 1 year and 7 month relationship with a woman who was half my age. It’s not easy knowing that I have to move on without her, especially after going through a horrible divorce from a 2 year older cheating wife of 10 years and finding out that the 3 year old child I raised wasn’t mine. I was 38 after the divorce and was approached by a beautiful young woman who had to convince me to go out with her. I was worried about the age difference, but later accepted it. She lived with me and we both shared happiness, sorrow our share of dumb arguments during that time. You’re absolutely right, she brought life back into me with her carefree attitude and thrill for new adventures. But when I became more comfortable with her like a bird settled on a branch, she wanted to keep flying. She broke up with me to experience life on her own, not for another man. I understood, but knew that I had to go it alone once again and declined her request to just being friends until she was ready for a relationship again. The pain is still the same no matter how you look at it and I still love her with all my heart to this day, but if it wasn’t for her, I would never of had the opportunity of living life again like I should have before my marriage when I was 28. I wish that it could have lasted forever, but again, that’s the chance you take with either a younger or older woman. Thanks again for the laughs and the online therapy.
November 20th, 2008 at 11:24 pm
I am 65 an live just south of Dallas, Tx. Most of you will think I’m an old pervert an completely deplore what I m saying. Thats ok, I respect your opinion. The young girls that I have sex with are not prostitutes or escorts, most just need a little help. I can only get sexual stimulation from a young girl…now. I hope you consider this to be civil….because I do. I have found most of the young ladies on dating sites….adultfriendfinder and fling, those two sites are the best. I know one guy was asking where to look, theres two place on the web…guaranteed….gene
Msngr: daddy_gene69@yahoo.com
November 23rd, 2008 at 4:44 am
Well that’s a good post.Interesting one. The truth is love has no age,no cast,no religion nothing. It’s a special bond. Well about one thing, old man may be not so passionate in bed with them as compare to us young ones. we can makegirl’s drive crazy on bed; But not an old man!! lol!!
November 24th, 2008 at 12:24 am
Americans need to grow out of their prolonged adolescense of dating people with 2 or 3 years of their age. That formula is clearly failing witha 56% divorce rate.
Everyone has 4 ages: IntellectualAge (how smart/knowledgeable they are); Emotional Age (how mature they behave); Physical Age (how young they look and or their energy level) and Spiritual Age (how evolved they are).
Your chronological age means nothing for a relationship.
November 24th, 2008 at 5:46 am
Cassie;
Congradulations for rising above it. You say that you were a feminist….Being a true feminist means having choices. In your case you chose to date an older man that keeps you happy. You did not cave in to hypocritical friends, who would make you feel like you’re crazy. These are friends that are often miserable failures in relationships and dole out advice to others. So, keep it up. Don’t let “friends and envious feminists derail your happiness. Older women are jealous of you for encroaching on their market.
I have happily dated many women much younger than me.
November 25th, 2008 at 3:26 pm
I am 26 years old and my fiance is 45, I love him, when I met him the age It wasnt a big problem, because everything was perfect, actually I prefer a man older than me, because naturally often women get old, or look older before than man, but maybe an smaller difference, I didnt think about that before falling in love, and now I m suffering. Im not American I m a latin girl, we have been one year in a relationship, a beautiful time…. But now that we are thinking about marriage I want to be honest and think whats gonna happen when he get older, I dont want to loss him, however, when I have talked to people they tell me, dont worry about that, because the life is not sure, you dont know when you will die, maybe in an accident before him, and you didnt have the opportunity of share with your really love, and many times the love have when and where you dont expect. Now the difference is not a big deal but when I be 60 hes gonna be almost 80, what do you think is possible, I dont know, I dont care what people think, I think in I want to have him for many time, and for our children, If I should be with him, but I would like that he be the father of my children, and we have done many plans about the future, he is a great person. Sometimes I ask myself, and god, why I didnt meet this perfect man with ten years less?? why does life is not perfect? Maybe he deserve a woman better than me and doesnt think in that, because If you really love somebody that wont be a problem, for instance when you get married, and one of them, get sick for ever, for example cant walk, or have sex, you should be with him, take care of him until death too, whats the difference? I have read and many experiences are helpful for my doubts but others are realistic and bad, Im confuse, but I know everything is gonna be okay.
P.S. I think is possible if Michael Douglas and Kate Z. Jonhs, Tom Cruise and katy Holmes can do it why other people not, they look very happy, in love whith children and I dont believe is for money because the girls are famous, and they look very good for their ages, like my handsome boyfriend.
Good look for everybody I hope everybody can find the really love, whenever and wherever you dont expect.
November 26th, 2008 at 7:56 am
My father remarried several years after my mother divorced him. His new bride was in her early 30’s and he was in his late 40’s. He died at age 84, his bride was in her 60’s then. She never regretted their 40 + years together. They met in Spain and traveled the world as my fathers work took him all over. Age does not matter if two people are in love and willing to make the relationship last.
November 26th, 2008 at 7:46 pm
First off, i want to say that this has provoked much thought and entertainment. Not just the article, but the comments as well.
Here’s my philosophy. I’m a 22 year guy. I’m not wild and crazy. I truly believe that it’s the conversations, thoughts and heart a girl has that counts. For me, i love culture, the arts(Hendrix and Monet), philosophy, political discussions, activism and i hate sports and beer.
Sure i’m not opposed to drinking, but not often.
The way I feel is this, and maybe it’s because I’m an only child and was always around older people in my life, I’ve been much more attracted to older women.
Younger girls are very shallow, hard to trust or they are just bored way too easily. And most of the younger women that I find to be really cool are dating douche bags. It’s the way it goes.
It seems to me that younger women either want one of three things in this order from a man: money(which means security in one way), amazing looks and social power. If a man has all three, he’s got it made.
But me, as a 22 year old guy, I don’t make that much money and i’m not that good looking. So not much happening for me in the dating women my age department.
December 6th, 2008 at 12:09 am
alas…..it amazes me how we all seem to need to define what we need ll the time…
December 9th, 2008 at 2:59 am
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December 10th, 2008 at 1:54 am
I love reading all of the comments that have been left regarding younger women dating older men! I am a 31 year old woman myself and have always dated older men purley for the fact that they are more mature. When I say dating older men it was usually a range from 4-8 years my senior, my previous boyfriend of 3 years was 8 years my senior.
After we split up I was lucky enough to capture the attention of a 47 year old man who didn’t look a day older than 38. Although our relationship is purley a no strings attached situation we have the most amazing sex ever, he is very attentive to my needs and desires and is very much a gentleman! In fact the first night we met we sat and talked for 4 hours. We live in different states and see eachother when we can, which is not enough in my book, but it works.
I can say easily that for me the main reasons why I choose to date an older man are:
1. Self confidence
2. Commands a sense of precense when he walks into a room
3. Succesful (not necessarily in a financial sense but that’s a bonus)
4. More mature
5. More attentive to my needs
6. Earth shattering, mind blowing sex
December 12th, 2008 at 11:41 pm
Beware of older men, one day you’ll look up and see an old man in bed with you and things will never be same, trust me. Once he’s seen as an old man the thrill is gone and you are out seeking a man your age or younger. Old men are really old farts and no amout of money will keep a younger woman out of the bed with a young stiff one–viagra will not do the trick, it’s youth that youth needs!
December 14th, 2008 at 2:20 am
IM 24 AND MY BOYFRIENDS 46 WE BEEN TO GETHER A LONG TIME iVE LIKE OLDER GUYS BECASUE THIER MORE MATURE AND HAVE MANNERS IVE DATED YOUNGER ONES THIER JUST NOT STABLE AND STILL LIVE WITH THIER PARENTS AND THEY USE WOMEN US YOUNGER WOMEN ARE MORE EDUCATED AND LIKE MEN THAT HAVE A BRAIN THATS WHY I WENT TO ART SCHOOL AND BECAME A MODEL BUT OLDER MEN ONLY LIKE SKINNY WOMEN SORRY NOT TO BE MEAN BUT MY BOY FRIENDS A 4 STAR GORMET CHEF AND HE DESERVES ME HE MADE SOMEING OF HIM SELF AND DID I LOOK UP TO HIM AND OLDER MEN LIKE WOWEN THAT AT LEAST LOOK 23 AND WEAR HEELS AND DRESS SEXY AND ACT SUBISSIVE I LOVE TO WEAR SIX INCH HEELS FOR MY CHEF ROY AND HIGH HIGHS AND CORSET THAT WHAT A REAL MAN WHAT NOT SOME WOMEN THAT CANT TAKE CARE OF THIER SELF. THEY WANT SOME SOME INDEPENDENT BEAUIFUL A HOUR GLASS FRAME NICE LEGS I ALWAYS POINT MY TOES. YOU HAVE TO LIKE YOUR SELF LOSE WIEGHT AND STAY IN SPAPE I WITH A BABY BOOMER THEY LIVE LONGER I DONT WANT HIS MONEY I JUST LOVE HIM HE HELPS ME AND I HELP HIM I WILL ALWAYS LOVE HIM I DONT LOOK AT OTHER MEN ONLY HIM I WAS A LADY WHEN I MEET HIM BUT HE MADE ME MORE IT TO A LADY HE GOT ME A WAY FROM MY CONTROLING FAMILY. IN THE OLD IN DAYS YOUGER WOMEN WERE WITH MEN. BUT OLDER WOMEN CAN HAVE YOUNGE MEN OLDER MEN CAN HAVE YOUNG HOT LITTLE TINY THINGS LIKE US 20 YEAR OLDS THAT LIKE SEX LIKE ALOT AND WE ALWALYS LIKE TO PLEASE. WELL I HOPE THIS HELPS. KISSES FROM CHRISTINA
December 14th, 2008 at 4:56 pm
Wow, I haven’t looked at my article in a long time, and I am amazed to see that it’s still #1, with over 350 comments. I never knew I was hitting such a large nerve witht his topic. My fiancee is 46 (I am now 50) and we’re getting married in May, but I did date my fair share of young women when I was a single mingler. I even dated a woman 22 years younger than me (for about a week!) It was fun, but I’ve found the right one after all these years and I’m happy. Whomever you do find, readers, (young or old) just be happy, because life is too short!
December 14th, 2008 at 11:09 pm
I’m a young female but I have never been attracted to older men.
The fact of life is that we all get old. Some still look good at 30 or 45, but the truth is that we become unattractive to the opposite sex. It’s very rare that a young person is drawn to an older person and usually it’s not because they want to jump into bed with them.
The sad thing is that I don’t know any female that’s attracted to wrinkles. I don’t know what you guys are talking about. I understand that you old fellows wish to have sex with young women. But sex is the last thing we think about when we see you on daily basis. You old fellows need to shift your attention to something that’s more useful for the society. You need to stop terrifying young women with your unwanted advances.
I understand that you are terrified to admit to yourselves that you are not of sexually appealing age anymore. I will be there soon too and you don’t have to remind me that.
December 15th, 2008 at 4:11 am
I’m a young woman and I hate it when old guys hit on me. It makes me feel weird.
I don’t know any female who is attracted to old guys. If you are old and you got lucky with a young person, be happy, more power to you. But please don’t say that young women are attracted to old guys, BECAUSE WE ARE NOT!!!
It’s only an old man’s fantasy.
I’m sorry for all the old farts out there that can’t get laid. Maybe you shouldn’t..he, he, he.
December 15th, 2008 at 10:24 pm
Two words”MIDLIFE CRISIS”. I Believe that a man who chooses to date a woman 1/2 his age is fine, as long as he understands the dangers an the consequences of the after party (you play you pay). I believe deception (on both partys) and denial play a major part on this kind of relationship. While they both give each other a sense of feeling good (whatever that may be) that usually lasts so long until someone can no longer hang in the party. I believe as a woman reaches her prime and maturity, she strives to want more out of life (he has had that opportunity) As he enters into his senior years he starts to become dependent on her. This is where woman no longer finds it fun anymore. They like the perks and not the responsibilities of maintaining a older man in regards to feelings, emotions. and physical health (Please tell me what woman at 35 wants to push a 65 year old in a wheel chair). I believe this is where the reality of the question of love comes in. If he comes to the truth that she did not truly love him for who he really is then it can take a devastating effect on him and lead to depression and other mental heath problems. Including Alcohol and Drugs. This is just my view you do not have to like or agree just a point of view that both Men and Woman should think about.
December 16th, 2008 at 3:04 pm
HERE is what iam saying!!!when a man is lets say 60 ..would he date a woman 75…when a man is 50 would he date a woman 60…thats where the problem lies..a 40 year old man can date a 20 something no problem ..a 40 years old woman can date a 20 something man …but as above mentioned..what when we are 60 and our partners are fossils….than we want to tell those youngens well you married me ..and love me for me now…lol thats where discusting comes in..when i was a girl in her 20 i liked older man …iam 47 ..if i had to sleep with a 60 year old age spotted fossil…i believe they have worms lol…..so most older man and those famous cougars now are just narcessitic idiots…and out of touch with reality…and 99% of the time they get the bill for the live they live…but since they are narcesistic or in some cases sociopathic it does not bother them to loose live savings the love of their children and all else worth having…….they trully dont feel real feelings just percieved selfish self absornbed nuttyness…and the young people involved with them are all disturbed by their parents or live one way or the other…………….GOOD luck with the idiotic live style…and to young people ..always think that marriage is for live …and having to deal at 40 with a fossil is no cake walk
December 19th, 2008 at 6:22 pm
friend has given the link has not regretted that has come
December 22nd, 2008 at 6:23 pm
As a single, never married, no kids, 41 yearl old man I find this topic interesting.
After breaking up with my longterm girlfriend (she dumped me) at age 33 I have dated women 10-20 years younger since. I lived in Brazil for almost a year and a half and it seemslike most men marry women muc younger. I met aguy whose wife was 37 years younger and they both seemed very happy. As older men in a position t date younger womn I think its important not to make the same miakes we made with women in the past (unromantic, selfish, down on life, etc.). It is the fact that we have learned from our mistakesad have became better is what makes us special. Also I prefer mot to use money as the bait because how you start a relationship isow it will end. Also stay away from clubs, bars and women of the night. If they are still int that lifestyle you will not be bleo change them. - tchu
December 26th, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Why do old men get horny?
December 31st, 2008 at 11:19 pm
I love your article. I’m 45, and getting ready to marry a 62 tear old. He’s awesome. He knows who he is and what he wants. Whatever time we have together…I’ll very much cherish. He’s in better shape than guys my age. He’s healthy and I love his gray hair. He’s also finacialy stable. Don’t knock it till you try it. It’s great
January 2nd, 2009 at 3:25 am
Are you serious, toogood? Everyone, regardless of their age, gets horny!
January 8th, 2009 at 5:26 pm
I am 23 and I have been seeing a guy who is now 50 for 3 years. He is amazing and I love him to pieces. He is always there for me and helps me in any situation. He is smart and clever and knows so much that I feel so safe with him. He is also the best guy I have ever slept with.Older men win everyday!
January 8th, 2009 at 5:31 pm
Mona!Your eyes are obviously not open wide enough!I know many people that are with older men, infact it is very common nowadays for age gap relationships, haven’t you seen the amount of young famous women hooked up with older men?You need to get real!Young men are useless as lovers and partners, they do not give women what they want at all!
January 8th, 2009 at 7:27 pm
im 20 yrs old and im dating a 43 yr old and i must say he is one of the best guy ive ever dated…ever. he’s the best and hes going no where lol. i love him dearly!
January 9th, 2009 at 6:50 pm
Bring back Irene and Tommy….. who wants to bet they’re having a torrid affair??
I’m 37 yrs old and currently dating a 49 yr old male. Age has never played an issue in any relationship I’ve been in. Why things like money, race, and age should come into play at all is beyod me. Who are we to judge two people who found it with-in themselves to enjoy each others company whether it be for purely sexual benefits or satisfying some form of self esteem flaws. relationships compromise of two people…if both are willing participants and the communications and needs of both are freely discussed.. who’s business is it of ours to judge, comment or otherwise scorn??
January 10th, 2009 at 3:41 am
You’re 37 and he’s 49? I hate to tell you Kim, but that’s not much of an age difference. Guys, as a rule, age more gracefully than women do. Gravity doesn’t have the same effect on us. In a few years, you’ll be considered a cougar!
January 11th, 2009 at 3:41 am
Awesome…. something to look fwd too!!! I’m at the MILF stage now….Bring on the Cougar YEARS!!!
January 11th, 2009 at 9:56 am
i wish i did read this last year….i’min this situation and i am really confuse who am igoing tochoose. i have this guy with the same age whois willing tomarry mebut i feel in love with a 59 year old guy ( i’m 29)…..
i love the old guy coz he is so caring…..as in!
January 11th, 2009 at 7:23 pm
I am 25 and I love older men. I was dating a guy that is 53 and it is great, the sex amazing!! I put the first moves on him and he couldn’t believe it. I would love to date older men again i flirt with them all the time and i just get turned on all over again, no more young guys for me.
January 14th, 2009 at 5:37 pm
Don’t be calling women cougars, Ed. They don’t like it!
The other day I was talking to a rather attractive, post-50-year-old woman in a bar when I referred to her as a “cougar”. To say she didn’t appreciate it is an understatement.
“I am not a cougar, you idiot!” she exclaimed. “A cougar is not a nice thing to call any woman and if I was a little more intoxicated, I’d slap you so hard your ears would ring!”
Wow. That was the wrong thing to say. This woman had come at me like a very angry, rabid—cougar. I was surprised by her negative reaction because I thought I was giving her a compliment. I was trying to tell her that she was good-looking and probably capable to attracting young men into her lair. She explained that a cougar was a female who preyed on men much younger than herself and that she considered it a derogatory and sexist remark.
Oh well, I learn something new about the opposite sex every day, I thought. Chalk this one up and file it away under “just another thing I can’t say to a woman.”
When I told my fiancée what had happened, she had the same reaction (after interrogating me about why I was talking to a hot woman in a bar)
“What were you thinking?” she queried, with a look on her face that always stops me in my tracks. “Don’t be calling women cougars, you slob!”
Ouch! Obviously older ladies don’t like the new “C” word.
So, I did a little research and this is what I found:
First, I went to Wikipedia and saw this definition:
Cougar – an older woman, usually in her 40s or older, who usually sexually pursues men in their 20s and 30s.The term has been used in (American) TV series, advertising and film. The 2007 film Cougar Club was dedicated to the subject.
Then I started Googling all over the Internet to learn more. I found out that cougars have been around a long time. So much so, that there are now cougar dating sites (www.gocougar.com), cougar chat rooms, cougar social clubs and even cougar clothing lines. Cougar hookups that last more than one drunken night are called “age gap relationships” and terms like “cradle robber” and “baby snatcher” are now considered boorish.
So, now I know. No more calling women cougars. And no more talking to 50ish women in bars. That is, not if I still want to get married to my 46-year-old fiancée in May!
January 15th, 2009 at 4:06 am
I am 26 and I am dating a 55 year old guy. I just love it because he’s the only one who’s ever been nice to me. It’s not about the money,okay?He’s not even that rich, but he has a job!And I appreciate that about him.I adore him and another thing is that he is a Leo/Cancer.They are the only one that are nice to me in any of my relationship.We get along really well and are very passionate about each other!Hurray for older dudes!!!
January 19th, 2009 at 10:58 am
I’m not a fan of older men myself at all. When I dated guys they were always younger and I still find younger guys to be sexy. But, to each her own. I still think this article is very cute;) I like the whole “When He Dies You Can Date His Cute Son!” Very funny;) Got me laughing out loud over here.
January 19th, 2009 at 11:00 am
Lol, and work those senior discounts, HA! Loving the pics as well.
January 19th, 2009 at 11:03 am
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January 19th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
I’m not sure if I agree or not. I’m in my late 20s. I’m married now, happily still, but my wife is quite a few years younger then me. You say this is an upcoming trend for girls, not even women yet, to like older men. A 16 year old dating a 24 year old, or older, is not uncommon. However its not an upcoming trend, its a fact of instinct. For thousands of years it was not just common, but expected, that a 14-16 year old girl would marry a man in his late twenties to early thirties. Some time during the late 1800s this all changed and it became unacceptable for a girl under the age of 18 to even think about getting married. 120 years ago an 18 year old girl that was unmarried would have been considered a reject, she should have gotten married at least a year earlier. Instinct does not get bread out in 100 years when its been bred in for as long as history goes back. My question is, what changed? Girls started going to school is the excuse I hear, but that doesn’t stop a girl from dating. My prediction is, society will eventually level out. We are in a time of unbalance. Never before has culture changed so quickly in such a short period of time. Personally, looking at it from one end, a 16 year old dating a 50 year old is disgusting. From the other end, when I’m 50, if I’m not still married, God forbid, I’ll be pissed off if I can’t get a 16 or 17 year old girl because your absolutely right, at some point women become undesirable when they are older an unattached.
January 19th, 2009 at 11:17 pm
Wow. From these top 50 reasons, I’ve learned quite a bit about myself (a younger woman dating a man who is 13 years my senior.) Here’s my top 5 things you’ve taught me about me:
1. I’m a bimbo.
2. I’m too dumb to know Paul McCartney fronted a little band called The Beatles.
3. I’m money hungry because I’m dating an older man.
4. I must surely have daddy issues if I’m dating someone 10+ years my senior.
5. I’m too stupid to have gone to college.
Good thing we’ve never met in person because you’d not only quickly realize how wrong you are about the younger woman - older man phenomenon, you’d also have some very sore balls from me kicking them.
Your ignorance is astounding and your cliched writing painful. And here I was all happy and feeling good about the world on this, the inauguration eve. Should have never read your bullshit.
January 21st, 2009 at 5:39 am
thats hilarious…although it is an overgeneralization about older men and younger women
January 21st, 2009 at 8:57 am
Dear Dating is Weird:
Guess what? Things may be okay for you now….
If your guy likes younger women, is attracted to younger women -
you will be replaced. THEN, you will be older - and will realize that you should have created a realistic, age appropriate love relationship when you had the chance.
That’s the reason not to date a guy who wants/like someone younger than him. What he is attracted to is not going to change. He obviously can’t “grow” and mature and date people his own age. He is stuck, thinking that that one type of women is what he deserves.
BUT you will not always be that woman, you are going to age. He is going to age also, but he is going to continue to think he deserves a young girl.
So, when you are older and alone, you can thank yourself for helping to allow men to believe that it’s okay for them to age, but women aren’t allowed to.
January 21st, 2009 at 10:46 am
hi am kenyan 29 am up for it. older women n young guys..thumbs up!!!!
st4twenteen@yahoo.com is ma reach..let’s have fun!!!
ok we need it for money ,yes..but they are tender and loving.they have this nurturing thing…just love it….ohhh it gets hotter!!!
January 22nd, 2009 at 3:51 pm
Sounds like you fit one mold Too Weird: You’re an angry little gunt with no sense of humor whatsoever. Sounds like this article helped you learn a lot about yourself. If you read the entire article and then took the time to write a lengthy response, then why did you waste your time? I feel sorry for the unfortunate old fool you’re shlepping.
January 23rd, 2009 at 4:28 am
I’m 27 y/o and married to a 50 y/o. So far - soo good..I agree- younger women now tend to date older guys coz we realize that young boys is nothing but for sex.. no future..nothing at all..but if u date older guys its all like ALL in One package…I’m happily married with my man and everyday is like heaven to me, our sex life is great, and is emotionally and financially stable..cant ask for any better..
January 24th, 2009 at 12:00 pm
Hey Guys! Hoping that young princess is going to come knocking at your door it AIN’T going to happen. You need to go find her. So, get out of your PJ’s and scurry down to the next running event to watch the 18-30 year old group. Then talk to them. Ask how there run went…you can take it from there.
Best of Luck!
January 25th, 2009 at 4:16 am
I don’t look at this site very often. And I must say that I don’t really mind negative criticism….but that Weird womam really pissed me off with her comments. Don’t people understand that this is a PARODY. I realize that many young women out there are VERY INTELLIGENT people. I can only hope that you can see that this is HUMOR, SATIRE & FICTION. Lighten up. My juevos are not for kicking. they’re 4 …..
January 26th, 2009 at 11:24 pm
My boyfriend was 62; a bushworker, and truck driver. John and I met when I was 16. Actually, I saw him long before he saw me, and I thought that he was the most gorgeous man in the world. I was the one that pursued him for the longest time, making all kinds of excuses to be near him, or to accidently meet up with him. Finally, he relented one summer night, and that was the start of something beautiful. Well, John died 4 years ago. I am 24 years old now; a social worker by day, and a waitress by night.
As I healed from his loss, many young men my age showed their interest. And I did have two relationships, albeit short ones. Then, I started working at the cafe again, and I gravitated towards older men. They treated me the way John had treated me - with kindness, understanding, gentleness. Even their love-making is so tender, yet passionate; a night of passion with an older man leaves me sleeping in his arms, happy, content, safe, and satisfied.
So, yes, I choose to be with older men, and should I ever decide to marry, it will be to a man older than I. It is a matter of choice, a personal choice. And when I make that choice, I think that my world does not revolve around the opinions of other people. Life is difficult enough without denying myself what I choose to want.
Jessica
January 27th, 2009 at 9:10 am
I am currently dating a younger woman. She is 26. I am in my 50’s. I am aware of the age difference. I feel like she is my one shot at sanity. I love her sexiness. She is very demonstrative and somehow manages to keep touch me all the time. It could be just touching my arm or a brief quick kiss to show me she is there. It is not about money because I don’t have any. If I did, I would spend it on her. So far she won’t let me. Yes, there is no fool like an old fool in love. Sex is great too. I feel alive with her.
January 28th, 2009 at 11:56 pm
Chuck!I love you and I always will!Thanks for the comment!
January 29th, 2009 at 11:39 am
I am 19 and he is in his late 30s. Never been happier. I don’t care for clubs, drinking, dancing, or even malls. The first man who can fully satisfy me in bed, who I can talk to about anything, who helps me with Algorithms homework, who takes good care of me when I’m sick, fixes all of my technological issues (computer programmer), fixes my mistakes, etc. Both our families are very happy we are together. He is my best friend, lover, teacher, and even father sometimes.
1, 2, 3, 7, 14, 25, 26, 27, 47, and so many more apply
I tried with kids my age, got sick of feeling like their mother/baby sitter (in almost every aspect, even maintaining them financially). For some reason, boys my age seem to go nowhere, no future, no plans, no intelligence, nada!
February 1st, 2009 at 3:17 pm
I am so glad to read these most recent comments. If people are happy in ANY type of relationship, how can anyone say anything bad about it? We’re only on this planet for a short time, so why not try to be happy. No one should ever worry about things like age. Congrats to all of you who are making it work! I am 50, never been married, but I am taking the plunge in May, marrying a woman who is only slightly younger than me (4 years)!
February 1st, 2009 at 8:33 pm
no the age difference is just too much and it wouldnt be easy coping with a man of that age
February 3rd, 2009 at 7:08 am
I am 30 and am going to marry a 60 year old man soon. What made me choose him? So simple. Because apart from the freebies that am getting as this article mentioned, I will be a better person with him. I have dated young men for sometime but this man is special. I wish I could reverse his age, but that is one thing I cannot. Thoughts about him dying soon and leaving me behind is part of the package. Thoughts about wrinkly balls and lower libido is also part of the package. You have setbacks marrying young men as well. Marrying a young stud does not guarantee happiness as well. I will focus on spending good quality time with him. To be happy as we can be because life is short and we all deserve to have a glimpse of heaven on earth. So at the end of the day, your choice. Old men or young men? I made mine. Old man for me =). Funny article though. Thanks!!!
February 8th, 2009 at 3:13 pm
Where are you ladies meeting these older men. I am 20 and despise men my age. I would rather shop, go out to nice restaurants, travel, listen to music, go to art galleries and ballets, and stuff like that. Young men are so immature and I find older men really attractive and sexy. But where do you go to meet these guys. I feel like some men might be weirded out by the age thing too if I approached them.
February 16th, 2009 at 9:17 pm
I was out at some bars in San Francisco this weekend, and I experienced first-hand why many young women are going for older men. Young 20-something guys treat women like sh-t! What happened to chivalry? What happened to respect? What happened to manners? I could not believe what I saw! And the worst part of it is, the women put up with it!
February 18th, 2009 at 7:50 pm
I am 34 and recently met a man who is 54. Already I am swept off my feet! He is so caring, attentive, and considerate—qualities that I hardly ever came across among the guys I dated who were around my age. This man has treated me so well, is a wonderful father (his sons are 15 and 19), and cares tremendously for his entire family. I love all those important qualities. We haven’t gotten very physical yet, but I am really developing emotions towards him so I know that it will be a genuine expression of my love and admiration when we do get physical. And most of all, he is downright impressed with me, and I have never felt like I need to impress him. In other words, he loves me just the way I am and is never afraid or hesitant to let me know that! There is a mutual appreciation for each other. From my experience the younger men I’ve been with were reluctant to express their feelings towards me, and that made it difficult to feel confident about the relationship.
I know it depends on the individual’s character, but all I can say is that from my experience, dating this older man has been phenomenal so far. He is emotionally supportive in ways that I’ve never before experienced in my dating life. I’ve never dated someone this much older than me, so I was really nervous in the beginning. But like the French person wrote, it’s the spiritual, personal, and physical connections that matter most and constant efforts should be made to keep them lasting.
February 19th, 2009 at 4:02 am
It’s not true that young men treat younger women like garbage. Some. Women are just looking for them at the wrong places. A bar is not a good place to meet people.
The only negative side I can see to getting together with a younger guy is that he doesn’t have much money….mostly because the “older” men are reasons we are in an economic crisis right now.
February 20th, 2009 at 1:57 am
I have been with a man 34 years older than I, for 12 years now. I was drawn to him when I was 20- he and I bonded when I turned 21, he was 55. Now I am 33 and he is 67. It is all way “beyond belief”. I will just say that when you can read each other(in every way); all senses are in sinc- your minds seem to complete eachother- YOU ARE IN THE FLOW! It is a rare energy source of compatability! WE COMPLIMENT EACHOTHER! I look as young now as when we met. He looks 10 years younger than he looked 12 years ago. YOU WOULD HAVE TO SEE IT TO BELIEVE IT! He is stunning! And I keep him healthy, physically- although I am the selfish one! *WOW! (Call it whatever- love, fate, etc… I call it “MEANT FOR EACHOTHER”!
February 25th, 2009 at 12:57 am
I think older guys are way better than younger guys. Mostly because they are experienced and way more fun, younger guys are kind of jerks. But I am just going off the relationships that I have been in. No offense to those awesome young guys that know how to make a relationship work.
February 25th, 2009 at 4:30 am
Interesting to glimpse at this fantasy world of yours. Younger woman? Got mine. First had her when she was 19. Married her when she was 20. She gave birth to our first son when she was 21. Gave birth to our second son at 26. We almost divorced when the shock of 30 hit her. She turned 40 this year. We lost our firstborn son in June of this year. I have told her for years that her body feels no different to me at 40 than it did at 19. Our marriage is not perfect, but we have grown up and we will grow old together.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:44 pm
Great site……good job you guys are not in UK…age is everything here. OK I’m in my seventies but fit and healthy. Women my age over here all seem overweight,flabby and uncaring. Younger women consider anyone five years older than themselves over the hill or got to be a pervert. The few young women I know in the 35 /55 age group are intelligent,trim ,slim and great fun, but they are the exceptions. Age shouldn’t be a factor in relationships. The “youngsters ” I know were not aware of my age when we met, and I think that is significant
March 2nd, 2009 at 1:20 pm
Where is this place? I live next to a collage and still cant find the younger ladies looking.
March 8th, 2009 at 3:29 pm
I am 55 y.o. and find that many of the comments expressed here are true either way. In general I agree with the idea that most women my own age who are dating are pretty jaded and usually have had horrible experiences with men and marriage. However, I work with 20 something women and find that although they are smart and beautiful, they are so naive about life in general. Don’t get me wrong, I’d love to go out with anyone that much younger! My young friends like my vast array of knowledge on many subjects, and often ask me about my love life… They find it amusing. I like the honesty of younger women and find these days that most women I’m attracted to, who are in their forties are cougars, and want a hot 25 yr old guy… it goes both ways!
March 9th, 2009 at 12:59 pm
I was a younger woman 24yrs when I married my husband 33yrs. I am now 48yrs old and left my husband after 24 years marriage & two kids. I have been asked out by younger guys who excite me and I find fun. I have just had drinks with a 60 year old who asked me out, and he is so comforting & charming. Does this make me a younger woman or an older woman.
March 9th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
Hmmm… I’m a 37 year old lady that looks younger…so I have been told. I do understand the man’s position on women around my age and older to be opinionated, bitter and so forth.. I’m one of the rare ones who don’t carry around bitterness… going by what I went through, I should.. but I’m not. I know how that can eat away like acid so I chose not to be that way.. anyways… I’m here to say is there are quite a few older men who’s mindset are 20 something… careless, reckless and like a child.. or is it my bad luck I’m running into them
Sigh, I do prefer older men.. but I’m just not finding that levelheaded guy. However, I’m still attracting the actual 20 something men ( umm boys really).. the younger they are the more of a need I want to change their diapers.. yeah I know I’m harsh. I’d post my website here, but I don’t want every Tom, Dick and Harry checking me out , lol
March 14th, 2009 at 2:44 am
The opinions I’ve read here are totally awesome! There’s nothing like a good debate to bring out the best (and worst) in people! I’m going to be 54 this year but I have the heart of a 19 year old. I love to have fun and be spontaneous, and ride motorcycles. I’ve been dating girls younger than me for a long time simply because they make me feel young and they like being treated with the respect that generally and older guy can give. Every woman that I’ve dated that was even close to my age were too “stuck in their ways” to want to do something spontaneous. They wanted to be too controlling, or too demanding, or too “I’m too old to go riding around and having fun like a kid” thing going on. I don’t have a lot of money and the girls that I date know this. The girls that I date are cute, each in their own way, and even though I’m not the Sean Connery type, they hang out with me because they know that they’ll be treated with the respect they deserve. I’ve been criticized constantly and faced a lot of negativity for my “dating choices.” But you know what? It all comes down to this: so long as the girl that I date is legally able to make her own decisions, and so long as we’re both happy, who has the right to dictate who we love, or why we love? I’ve found that the majority of the criticism comes from women who are incessant naggers in the first place and have to try to control the lives of others, or from younger guys who don’t have a clue as to what’s going on, or from older guys who only wish that they had the courage to follow their own hearts. Or maybe I’m wrong. I’ll have to ask one of my girls about that. onewhois@whoever.com is my email.
March 16th, 2009 at 4:12 am
Hey, my guy is 43 years older than me and treats me like a princess. I just love him because he’s kind, wonderful, generous to me, and loves me with all his heart. I met him when I turned 18 and now months later our relationship is awesome. I hope he will ask me to marry him and I hope my parents will accept the idea when I say “YES” !! itsbrandigirl@yahoo.com
March 16th, 2009 at 5:04 pm
LOL! That was awesome! I laughed all the way through it.
March 20th, 2009 at 1:09 pm
very intresting
March 21st, 2009 at 6:35 am
Hey Ed;
I read your article on 50 reasons why young women date older men and not only did I find it interesting but so very humorous. I was doing a little research, trying to get to know me. I broke up with an ex boyfriend from work, big mistake and although he treated me like crap, I miss him. Go figure!
I am a 40 year old woman and want to get over this damn ex boyfriend of mine and I am having difficulties in accomplishing this. In any event, I met a man about 6 months ago who is 51 years old and although I am no spring chicken, I find him to be too old for me.
He appears to be sweet, caring, and very much inlove with me. We have not been intimate and I just went out with him once. I never went out with him again because he embarrassed me. We went to the movies and he forgot to put his cell phone on vibrator, the phone rang and he picks up and starts a conversation.
He seems a bit primitive and dorky.
But at the same time there is something endearing about him. And I find myself wanting to get to know him better and even screwing his brains out. I have mentioned to him that I wanted him to make love to me but he got the notion that I wanted to get serious with him. I can commit at least not now. And I don’t want to get too close either. But I fear that I may be losing out on being a very happy woman. I don’t know if I should give him a chance to get to know me.
His age does not bother me as much as his way of being. I can date anyone who is even 60 years of age but I like to know that I am with someone who is articulate, expresses himself well, knows a lot about everything, shares common interests. Do you think I am expecting too much? Write me back, if you can. I love to hear from you.
Mabel
March 21st, 2009 at 6:47 am
Ooops, I said Vibrator instead of Vibrate. Got my head in the gutter. Oh boy!
March 23rd, 2009 at 6:48 pm
I find your reasons to date an Older man hilarious, But I must also make a comment. I am a 51yr old divorced man and I find women of all ages attractive and as we all know( but some will not admit) the first thing you notice about a person is their looks and that is what draws you to them. Then you find out what they are really like and then take it from there. I, myself, do not put women in an age catagory, because there are some very sexy older women out there and age to me is just a number. But I do find my self drawn to the younger women because of their energy, because I am not a couch potato. I am fit and work out on a regular basis and ladies I love to dance.
I have heard the comment when I am with a younger woman of being a dirty ole bastard or she is a gold digger. I don’t understand why people cant just be happy no matter what the persons age. In other countries a much younger women with an older man is accepted but in the U.S.A. is not, just alot of bad attitudes, men and women.
March 24th, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I love the young stuff, but I also like the mature stuff. I love it all!
March 26th, 2009 at 4:35 pm
First of all, Ed, thanks for a great, funny read. I don’t know how I stumbled upon this, but I’m glad I did today.
Not to bring the room down with my story, but the remarks about older women being “bitter” and “not taking care of themselves” and “controlling” seem to be generalities. Sometimes things happen to the men in our lives that are beyond are control.
I was 53 and my guy 58 when we fell in love and made plans for the future. I figured we’d both lived lives up to that time and would continue together for the foreseeable future. He struggled with some nasty problems (depression, failure to recover from prostate cancer surgery), but I reassured him he was the man for me. He withdrew, then vanished. WTF, I asked myself, this isn’t normal for a man of his age, one who has been married, has kids & grandkids. This is more the actions of an adolescent ready to bolt from The C(ommitment) Word.
Well, guess what. He rediscovered the wonderful world of overseas online dating. The highlight? A trip to China to meet up with a 22-year-old girl who would marry a man sight unseen to come to the U.S. Clear thinking on his part? Doubtful. A fantasy he felt would come true? Evidently it didn’t.
Wouldn’t you know, now and then I get a brief email from him, including a “Happy New Year Gorgeous” one in the closing moments of 2008. He wanted to come visit me in my home city a couple of times. I simply said nothing. What else needs to be said? It’s one thing to have someone say, “This isn’t working for me, I’m sorry” and depart. It’s another to simply vanish to pursue an online dream scenario that has little or no chance of working out. But it’s his choice. I wish for him what he wishes for himself, very simply.
In the meantime, I’ve moved on. Don’t think I’ll ever quite figure out how I went from being the most gorgeous, warm, witty, kind, smart woman he’d met to the gum on his shoe overnight. Much of it can be attributed to the depression and the post surgical slump. I would have stood by him. He preferred that I didn’t.
So I go forward, grateful for what I had in life, grateful for all I still have…and especially grateful for what’s to be.
The best is yet to come, and 60 will be a piece of cake.
Happiness to you all!
March 30th, 2009 at 12:32 am
RedRabbit you got it!
Thank you for summing so much of it up in a beautiful well told story.
As far, as the older guys finding women old and flabby and a long list of negative adjectives, well you all, I feel have an inferiority complex. You not only can’t deal with a smart and articulate woman in her 40’s, 50’s 60’s or whatever the case may be but you also like to think that you are something more than you probably are. What makes you think that we also don’t perceive you as this old, flabby and impotent old guy who can provide us with sexual pleasure in a limited way? Moreover, what makes you think that your “accomplishments” will not eventually not be seen as important down the line when your “young thing” begins to need more than you can give her. For all you men and women who choose to clump EVERYONE under one category, I have one word to say, be very very careful - by putting labels on others you are inadvertently putting labels on yourself. I am 48, in great shape and beautiful. I have had a long term relationship with a man almost six years younger than me when I was in my very early 30’s. It was wonderful in many ways and then eventually we grew apart for many reasons, including his immaturity. Now I have been in a relationship with a man who is 65 for nine years. I was 39 when we met and he was 56. It was perfect sexually. Now, although I love him greatly and he me..he cannot keep up with me sexually and it has become very problematic. I will not go outside of the relationship yet at the same time it is difficult to have such an essential ingredient between a man and woman missing. very recently, a man my age with whom I had gone to university with met at a gallery opening. The sexual energy was tremendously overwhelming. I am refraining saying yes to his invite to go for a drink because of I am afraid of my own feelings. So you older men, who want to label all us women and all of yourselves, be weary!!!!
April 3rd, 2009 at 6:07 am
This is just fascinating: I consider myself to be a very luck man at 53 with a wife of 47 and married for 22 years, still very much in love and great friends that want to spend all of our time together and do the little things that matter…
You know, I think far too many men discard there mate and call them old prunes, shrews etc. but just remember most men contributed to her becoming that way. The love lost makes women angry and bitter. The lack of responsibility taken by some men leads to nagging and frustration.
After all you wanted to be with them as their partner not a son and mother relationship. So guys we have to take the necessary steps to help you partner grow and remain the person you want her to be.
My wife is not perfect, but neither am I by a long way. Would I trade her in for a younger women.. no! Why because I feel that young people should be able to grow older together and enjoy making their experiences not hearing about the exploits from their older partner.
Do I have an issue with people who choose to have a disparity of age.. again no. But I do feel that society puts much pressure and many stereo-typical labels on them. Which is yet another hurdle for the couple to overcome.
I just count my blessings..if we were to become separated I would only look for someone my own age group. I like to talk and reminisce, what would I reminisce with a 20 year old who has missed out on 30 years of life experience.
This diatribe is not about taking a position for or against age disparity, merely to say that some of us have been luck and don’t have to go looking.
Good on those that can make things work.
April 3rd, 2009 at 6:51 pm
Anna, you’ll be having a good time when you’re 90! Enjoy all that life has to offer.
I’m doing just that myself.
April 4th, 2009 at 11:01 pm
I am 14 years old and I have no clue why but I have always found OLD men attractive. My teachers especially, I’ve had many steamy dreams and then woke up wanting to do them but couldn’t! Not until I’m 18, can’t wait.
April 10th, 2009 at 2:30 pm
How funny, just started kinda dating a guy about 20 years older than me, and several of these are soo right. But it is GREAT!
April 12th, 2009 at 7:51 am
I read the articule and all the comments and what I can say is that most of the women here are very right about older men. I am 36 years old and I was married for 14 years to a man that was 4 years older than me and he treated me so bad… I left him. I dated some men around my age and it was SO DISSAPOINTING.. Then I met my boyfriend who is 58 and soon we will get married. I agree with all the women here about older men been more caring and all that stuff. And surely it is not about money at all. I make more money than him. Older men are men, younger men are just stupid.
There is something else nobody has mention here… the fact that people in the street judges woman for making this choice.. I mean, people always ask me if I am the secretary or the assitant of my boyfriend. I see why people think this way, I look like I am 25 and I am mexican and my boyfriend is german with gray hair. People are easy to judge….
April 12th, 2009 at 5:38 pm
Funny and realistic to a point. As a young woman, I dated a man 20 years older and really loved him, wanted to marry him. This was based on his loyalty and financial security. Honestly, I laughed at most of the things he was proud of, took advantage of him financially, cheated on him and he still came back for more.
Now I am married to a man who worships youth and cheated on me with young women who used him like I did that old guy. Karma is a bitch. I hope more guys read your blog and get a clue. Well marriage counseling is in my future, good luck and keep having fun.
April 13th, 2009 at 4:31 am
I believe there is a certain level of confidence that older men possess which younger women find attractive. We truly enjoy this stage of our lives and I think women pick up on this vibe. Unlike younger men, who haven’t come to terms with their identity, we are very genuine with our thoughts and comments. I guess there is a level of wisdom and maturity gained through life experiences that women find comforting - no pretenses.
Also, young men may be more energetic but the older gents know how to handle a woman between the sheets.
April 13th, 2009 at 4:55 am
I do like older guys, but my limit is about 8 years older. For some reason I’m not attracted beyond that. BUT, I have to say, I do have a thing for some guys a few years younger than me, too. A lot of guys think that only women lose their looks after a certain age, but sadly, it seems both genders do =(. LOL I guess guys like to think that there are studs forever! I like to think the same (well, not that I am a stud, but maybe a beauty queen). Ah, the way people try to fight old age is funny…
April 13th, 2009 at 12:49 pm
This is so true!!!! I’m 44 years old and was married to a woman 2 years older than me and things just didn’t work out untill I started dating an 18 year old chick who turned my whole life around and now I feel 24.
Thumbs up to all those young tender beautifull chicks. M.G
April 14th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
Wow. I love reading all these comments. I can’t believe that this article is still #1 on this site after so long. It seems like I wrote it a decade ago! I am getting married in 38 DAYS (for the first time at age 50) and my fiancee is 4 years younger than me, which works just fine. I did date some women much younger than myself before meeting my future wife. At one point, I was dating a girl 24 years younger than me, and the sex was great, but the conversations were short.
I also have an unrelated question for the women reading this:
Is it bad form to call a woman a “gal”?
(My fiancee jumped on me about it the other day)
If so, what is the acceptable vernacular? Woman? Lady? Babe? Cherub?
Please help me out here!
April 15th, 2009 at 2:27 am
I could not agree more! Younger women should date and marry older men. In Las Vegas, I know a lady who had a husband 30+ years older than herself. Kudos to the older man, but my God, I could not imagine “hooking-up” with grandma. Come on. I’m in my 30’s and if I was to go for a woman that was 30+ years old it could be only be one woman. Christy Brinkley!
April 17th, 2009 at 2:56 am
What you expect is what you will get in life, love, and health. I’ll explain. All of us can not have perfect knowledge of everything around us. So our perception of things around us must be based on our experiences. Since we can’t possibly know everything we tend to have tainted vues on all things in general. Then out of fear of the unknown we go to the safe known experience, good or bad, and stay with it, look for it, and worst except it as fact cause its the safest thing to do!!! That is my torment in life. I know that I’m probably wrong about all of my perceptions about women, success, and why I’m hear and I still do and think the same way year after year not changing a thing. Knowledge can be misery.
April 17th, 2009 at 11:53 pm
What you expect is what you will get in life, love, and health. I’ll explain. All of us can not have perfect knowledge of everything around us. So our perception of things around us must be based on our experiences. Since we can’t possibly know everything we tend to have tainted vues on all things in general. Then out of fear of the unknown we go to the safe known experience, good or bad, and stay with it, look for it, and worst except it as fact cause its the safest thing to do!!! That is my torment in life. I know that I’m probably wrong about all of my perceptions about women, success, and why I’m hear and I still do and think the same way year after year not changing a thing. Knowledge can be misery.
April 24th, 2009 at 8:53 pm
Well, i met a man in my high school years 30 years older than i was. I was 17 at that time. He was very attentive, a really good friend, and had lots of respect for me. Now, 12 years have passed, and i really fall in love with him. I’m 29 and he is 59. I don’t consider him old at all. He is very young at heart and doesn’t have any wrinkles. He can stay up all night talking with me on the phone, and he never gets tired. We have spent lots of wonderful time together and i can say that i really love him. I think age it’s just a number, when we really love someone. Eventhough, i look so much younger than my age, and some people mistake me for looking like a teenager who is with an older man, i don’t care what people thinks. I really love him for who he is, and i will spent the rest of my life with him in the bad times and in the bad times, because in the good times everybody is.
April 25th, 2009 at 10:09 am
Very interesting post and thread.
When I was a young man I thought all the women my age were the most beautiful in the world. Now I’m 48 am I interested in women my age? No way! I like young women. Besides, women my age are still just as difficult to get into bed as they ever were, so why waste time with an older woman? For the same amount of time and trouble, I can have a much younger woman.
When I was 42 I dated a woman aged 21. She told me that her older woman friend had advised her to go out with an older man, not one her own age. When I asked why, she said, because, an older man will be slow to anger, slow to divorce, he can understand me when I am not being logical, and he will help me in life. All true.
April 27th, 2009 at 4:22 am
I read the article. It was absolutely fabulous! I am 26 and have always had better luck dating older guys. I’ve tried to date guys closer to my own age but I’m always going back to someone older. My current boyfriend is 21 years older. Each person has their own ideals in who they date and are happy with. MY advice go for it and love who you want don’t look at the number.
April 28th, 2009 at 5:38 pm
Exactly Jackie. As Stephen Stills said, “Love the One You’re With.”
April 28th, 2009 at 5:39 pm
And I really like what Nick Deno said. I read his comment and I can’t stop thinking about it. It is SO TRUE!
May 5th, 2009 at 10:09 am
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May 5th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I am a 32 year old woman, and I have been totally in love with a man who is 27 years older then me for the last 6 years. Unfortionatly he remains in a bitter, loveless marriage for his children, otherwise I’d love to be with him. He is everything I have ever searched for in a friend or partner- and I have never found anyone that comes even close. He is one in a million, and I would be eternally happy to be with him some day-regardless of age.
May 10th, 2009 at 5:56 pm
I am in my early 60’s. I have looked at older women and most look like my own mother. The younger women are more attune to their looks because they thrive on the attention. The older ones seem like they have given up and don’t care anymore about how they look. I have always gone for an attractive female so yes, the younger women do appeal to me. She doesn’t have to be a super model either just overall attractive, especially her personaility. I don’t have a younger woman to date but I can say that she would get my full attention and as long as she didn’t treat me like just a “sugar daddy”, I would treat her like a queen. I am no where near rich but do have a decent “retirement” income. I travel out of the country at least once a year and would love to have some “eye candy” hanging on my arm. It would make me feel good. I do have one younger female friend but all she wants from me is just to be her friend and nothing more. I have a very difficult time being around her because I am attracted to her yet know I can’t touch. Oh well, I’ll just have to keep looking.
May 12th, 2009 at 4:29 am
I love older men. I’m 22 and dating a 44 year old. He’s wonderful! He’s smart, intellectual, intelligent, attentive and wonderful in bed =)
May 13th, 2009 at 4:39 am
Hey Number 14 sounds great to me. I love to dine out and P.F. Changs is definitely a favorite. I have actually been there with someone that I met online for the first time!
May 14th, 2009 at 4:15 pm
Never EVER thought it could or would happen to me. I am in my 50s, and have always gotten involved with women close to my age. I mean, that’s how it should be, right? Well, that’s what I always thought..that is, until February, 2007, when she came to work at my work place. I wasn’t looking, especially not for a lady more than twenty years younger than me, but there she was, and there went my socks, blasting right off my feet, and ankles, or whatever. She’s from Eastern Europe, and I have been carrying a Statue-of-Liberty sized torch for her for over two years. I finally got the nerve to reveal my feelings to her, just recently, and she gave me the “just friends” like I totally expected, and, deep down inside, feel that it’s best this way. I don’t know…common sense, maturity, love and emotion, they just don’t seem to be at ease around each other, such an age-old conflict. She and I have almost nothing in common, and whatever negative thing any of you nice folks have had come to mind, believe me, those things have been entered and exited my lovesick mind countless times, and I always have to answer them with the forever standby, “tell it to my heart.” The thing that has shocked me the most is, I haven’t felt this way about someone since my first love, waaaaaay back when. I’m not pining away like I did then, as a teenager, but, well, the feelings, still, are quite similar, but really, not entirely sad. The fact that someone can bring to life feelings so, far and away dormant, is actually very romantic to me. I write poetry and have been doing so since elementary school, and she has inspired some pretty emotion-filled pieces of writing, some of which actually make sense. She is beautiful almost beyond words, and well, you get the idea. I could say I feel like the title of the 60s song, “The Sun Ain’t Gonna Shine Anymore,” by the Walker Brothers, the way I would have done, and did, back then, with my first love, but I’d rather just leave you with the words from the Byrds song, 60s also; “…ah, but I was so much older then; I’m younger than that now.”
May 15th, 2009 at 12:53 pm
joe, believe me- many negative thoughts went through my head during the time i met the man 27 years my senior- like is this creepy? why would he be interested in me for anything other then the obvious?? But then I was surprised at my own feelings as well- which i tried really hard to shove down. I realized that i had never felt this way about anyone before in my life- even after dating “the perfect guy” for 5 years. Then I thought- oh maybe it’s the fact i’m in a foreign country- adding to my romantic feelings-nope. 6 years later i still feel the same way- only now i shove those feelings down knowing he will probably never leave his nasty manipulative wife- and be miserable - when he could have been with a woman who worships the ground he walks on for the last 6 years..
May 16th, 2009 at 2:48 am
Let’s face it most men are worthless until they are in their 30’s if you can find a man that has kept himself in shape it’s a much better deal that the moron’s and jerks in their 20’s. I not going to tell my age but I date a women that are most of the time at least 10+ years younger. Regardless but over all most younger women in their early 20’s still want guys that age.
Young women are a real turn on and often a lot of fun…but they tend to be less reliable, and often don’t have anything to say. But becuase of their fresh perspective and hot young bodies most men will deal with it. I personally want both quality inside and outside.
I will say if you can find a woman that has kept herself in shape that’s in her 30’s they are more fun to be with, more reliable and most of the time better in bed. I know some women in their 30’s that are 10 times hotter then any girl in their 20’s. Why? Because they took very good care of themselves (Most are fitness models)…They are very much into fitness, don’t or rarely drink, don’t smoke and don’t do drugs. Those are the biggest causes of age and most young women it seems try to make their looks fade as fast as possible by doing all of the above in great excess!
PS:I not over 40 yet so I don’t kiss ass and pay their way all of the time either. It’s reciprocal or they can take a hike! I’m no ones sugar daddy! So I don’t agree with 15,19, or most of the Geriatric ones…lol
May 18th, 2009 at 5:23 pm
Thanks for both of your comments. There is much wisdom and sense in your words. What I still don’t understand, and have pretty much resolved in myself the belief that I never will understand why, in so many situations, opposites still attract. The lady I’m in love with is a bit of party type, and there is nothing wrong with that. She is beautiful, young, exotic, and single. Why not? In contrast, I have always been on the shy side, not so much the introvert, but more the slightly, or maybe not so slightly, insecure type. I guess that’s why she says she feels no more than a friend. She must have realized from the start, or who knows when, that there was nothing there, and, truth be told, I probably did, too, but was so captivated with her that, well, common sense and logic be damned. I swear, sometimes I think that I don’t even know enough to know that I don’t know.
May 18th, 2009 at 11:33 pm
This article is very interesting including all the comments that was made. i am a 23 yrs old female who had falling for a man that is 50. I don’t know how it happen and i am constantly confused. Yes i am attracted to him and yes i want stability from him. I am not a gold digger, so don’t get me wrong. i just want a comfortable life with him. Is it wrong of me to ask for stability from him even though i truly like him. what should i do????
I read all the comments and i think i learn a lot and understand a lot more on how relationship like this work. But one thing that i dislike are the comments about older women. that is a little harsh. we should not make comments like that.
May 27th, 2009 at 8:31 pm
joe, I’m not sure why opposites attract. I tend to like people more like myself- i feel more comfortable this way… i am outgoing, and very active- and i tend to like people who are very active and have similar interests as well. But age aside-she may not have been the one for you -even if you guys were the same age. all relationships are the same that way- either you click- or you don’t. I have tried to stick out relationships that didn’t click-( but looked good on paper)- and they never worked out in the end. good luck
May 28th, 2009 at 3:38 pm
I gotta say that this particular forum has been the most helpful and thoughtful one that I have been involved with. You are all pretty terrific, and I appreciate your comments. I have been told in the past by close friends that I am more attracted to the romance, intensity, and emotional thrill of it all, even more than the possible relationship itself, and that, once it begins, if it does, then things can only deteriorate and go down hill from there. Geez, that’s a crazy and scary thought, not saying I agree, but, heartstrings versus gray matter, I don’t think I can confirm or deny either way. When I look at some of the poetry I write, a lot of times I’ll think or say to myself, “damn, where the hell did that come from?” and then I answer, “you’re asking me?”
May 29th, 2009 at 6:45 am
Well worth the read… both the article and comments. Good laugh.
Personally, I am very satisfied with this man:
A college student, works as a model, long black hair, extremely fit, enjoys my choice of music, thinks we should split bills, has an environmentally-friendly car, has never had kids or a wife, is open to my opinionated rants, understands my sense of humor, has good stamina with great passion and a long-term desire.
We are simply compatible. Neither of us has had to change for the other. Neither of us is after the other’s economic assets. Neither of us is attempting to escape our own generation. It started with a long-lasting friendship, and has been good for these four years. There is only one difference between us: he’s more than twenty years my senior.
Age never mattered to either of us.
May 30th, 2009 at 10:25 am
I just found this site and I like the jokes. I am 47 and have a brand new 32-year-old girl friend that likes to hang out with me. We have had sex and she loves it when I do my thing to her. I give it to her from behind and she tells me she has multiple orgasms all the time. She’s a little bit country and I’m a little bit rock and roll. If you know where that line comes from then you are at or over my age. You are old man!
I’m in the Sacramento area and the women look like bar flies but if I lived in LA I’d be in hottie heaven.
Wake up and get out there and get a woman you old geezers!
May 30th, 2009 at 3:59 pm
Hey- This stuff makes for some good laughs. I am a 49 year old male who was divorced 6 or 7 years ago. Lost count by now. I have a GREAT woman who is only 10 months younger than me and I love her. I did kinda date/ hang out with some younger gals for a bit before I met her. YES- they were fun to hang out with and they did have that certain zest for life that made them fascinating to me. BUT- when it came time for them to “step up to the plate” and be a WOMAN- they were still young girls that just weren’t ready. They still have to “sew their wild oats” just like a young guy has to. It was great for a male ego when they’d tell you how much thay liked your singing (I’m in a band) or wanted to sing with you, BUT in the long run- the truth is - I am SO much better off with the woman I’m with now. I guess it is more rare than it being the “norm” where it works out when there is a BIG difference in the age range. BUT- ya still can’t blame anybody- be it a guy or a woman- for trying!! Best of luck to EVERYBODY!!!!
June 6th, 2009 at 10:54 am
Too funny and so true. Your hilarious, love it.
June 7th, 2009 at 8:05 pm
I still think of her as much as the last time I saw her or talked to her which is more than nine months ago. I remember when she gave me a Superman cape, and from then on she called me Superman; pretty cool, since we never had a chance to find out if anything about me was “super.” I let her put the cape on me once, as long as she understood that I would NEVER EVER, wear any tights! Got to draw the line somewhere.
June 9th, 2009 at 1:45 pm
Joe- you will meet someone one day- and you BOTH will know instantly that there is some unmistakable force involved between you- like electricity! Every moment you spend together is like magic, and every moment spent apart is like Hell. You’ll find her when your not looking. Sometimes it takes an event- or a moment.. I had known and travelled in the same circles as the older man I had wrote about- but we never actually spent time together. He was always in the background, and I had never really paid much attention or given him a second thought. One day we literally bumped into each other in an art museum (while looking up at a high painting)-The feeling was like two stars colliding- or maybe a super nova (who knew!?) We ended up spending the rest of the day in the museum together, and then later on AGAIN we ended up in the same Bistro for dinner. After that day- it became almost comical- we always ended up in the same locations- like some force was pulling us together- we became such close friends- and our friendship has been this way ever since.
One day I went to a psychic with some friends (just for fun on a whim)..I felt my blood run cold as this woman asked me about the person with the same initials as the man i mentioned above. She told me the reason he’s so much older then me is because he left me in the last life early and I died in old age. She said that we will always be drawn to each other because of this- and this is why we are lives are so intertwined- and no matter the distance between us- we always stay close. Before that day I always thought of psychics as some sort of quackery- now I’m not so sure…
But i’ll tell you one thing, I’d be happy spending time with him even if he was 100 because love is more then a number.
June 11th, 2009 at 12:01 am
i am a 21 years old hispanic female dating a 42 year old Caucasian male. i am in love with him. i adore so much and i cant wait to move in with him next year after i graduate from college. im not a gold digger or anything like that.. i got tired of dating boys my age cause all they do is make up excusses and seem so childish.. ugh.. i am truly happy with my 42 year old handsome man. i hope we take our relationship to the next level.
oh and yes i found out your birthdate .. and no i am not mad
June 11th, 2009 at 1:40 am
Looking at your picture (with you chubby face and yellow aged teeth) gives this young woman a major reason not to date older men…..yuck!
June 12th, 2009 at 5:25 am
I can’t believe all of the comments on this thread over such a long time. I must admit, I didn’t read every post, but I don’t understand why so many would be against the idea of two people mutually deciding to have a relationship. What does it matter to anyone else, as long as the two parties involved both derive joy and happiness from each other. I am not an overly religious man, but if you are lucky enough to find “true love” with ANYONE, then God has blessed you and you should do whatever you can to pursue that love, regardless of the age difference or any other variation from the societal norms. Older, younger, male, female, black, white - whatever works for you. We are each only here for a very short time (something you realize more and more as you age!), and unfortunately I feel that not everyone gets the chance to find their “soul mate”. So it would be best not to limit yourself to a particular set of characteristics, but let love find you.
I myself have been married twice. My first wife and I were in our early twenties when we married, but by our early thirties we had become so different that we could no longer stay together. My second wife was in her late twenties and I in my mid thirties when we married, but again we grew apart after twelve years. In both marriages we had tried to salvage the relationship through counseling, but were unable to reconcile. What I did learn through counseling was that in neither marriage did we share a common outlook or philosophy on life, which is what caused the final demise of the relationship. I could easily blame each of my ex-wives for the failure of the marriage by calling them bitter, angry bitches, but in reality I am 50% responsible (as I am “childish, irresponsible and insensitive”). Both cases are gross exaggerations.
In any event, I now have a much better idea of what to look for in a relationship, and the main key ingredient is compatibility. Both of my ex-wives are in relationships with older men now, and it seems to work for them. Now in my late forties, I am still hoping to find my “soul mate”. And I think it will probably be someone who has the curiosity and excitement for life of a younger woman, yet the self confidence and “inner peace” of someone more mature. Whatever her age. (And yes, it would be nice if she was hot!!!).
June 12th, 2009 at 8:55 pm
Thanks Vlinder. Or should I call you Slander? You’ll be pleased to know that since that photo was taken, I have had my teeth whitened, lost 45 lbs. and two weeks ago I got married. Date people your age, please! Old guys won’t put up with your B.S. I guess snarky comments are part of the game, but I can’t help but wonder what you look like.
(I’m guessing you’re a dumpy, 20-something, bucktoothed stutterer, for some reason.)
Thanks for the cheap shot. Now, how do YOU like the baseless criticism?
June 13th, 2009 at 1:20 am
You have illustrated another problem with relationships today in our society, Vlinder. People are WAY too into looks! You judged me in an instant based on my physical characteristics (chubby, yellow teeth) while I am more of a human being than any philandering, abusive and shallow pretty boy you are currently or have dated in the past. I don’t know why an insipid little miscreant like yourself has gotten under my skin with your snarky little comment–you really aren’t worthy of my time–and you’ll probably never see this, but my goal is to bring fun and humor into people’s lives. Not to snipe and criticize others based on their appearance. I wish you happiness and hope at some point in your life you develop something called a personality.
June 13th, 2009 at 8:01 pm
I think it’s healthy to date younger women. Why not?
June 13th, 2009 at 9:57 pm
You know, Vlinder, Ed is right. What a stupid and ridiculous comment. This IS a problem with younger women in this country today. No respect. No class. No character. And certainly no inner beauty. In my homeland (Ooty, India) if a woman said such a thing to a man, even if it was not her husband, she would be seriously chastised and most likely asked to leave the community. How dare you? Ed wrote this article for our pleasure and entertainment (and I think it’s hilarious and from ALL these comments I can see many other people find it very funny as well) and you attack his appearance? In my country we have a saying and it loosely translates into this: “If you are a miserable person and treat people miserably, you deserve everything bad that comes your way.” I curse you, Vlinder, yet I am also praying for your salvation. When I see vicious comments like yours, it makes me realize that Satan is still alive and well in the old US of A!
June 14th, 2009 at 2:09 am
Good on you, Lola. I haven’t had time to read all of the comments, but being a separated 47 year old male, I understand why middle aged guys find women half their age attractive, particularly and obviously if looking to have another family.
Ed, your 50 reasons are a scream to read. Hopefully, a mature sense of humour is another thing that younger women appreciate as well.
June 14th, 2009 at 2:46 pm
That Vlinder comment illustrates why some older guys like me stay clear of the young girls. They’re immature and in many cases, unsophisticated and also very spoiled. Today’s youth is into texting and hooking up and getting stupid drunk every Friday and Saturday night. They expect everyone to give them things without doing any work for it. Vlinder, God bless you. But, I’d never go out with you. I like a mature woman with a good head on her shoulders who can hold a semi-intelligent conversation, not a little bimbette who wants to watch the Simpsons and drink Red Bull and vodka while chain-smoking all day!
June 16th, 2009 at 3:40 am
Ed, why do you even waste your time with the little b—h? She obviously doesn’t understand anything.
June 17th, 2009 at 5:28 pm
LIMTAN (Uh, acronym for Love Is More Than A Number), you are so very sweet and I appreciate your words of encouragement. I do always realize that things are what they are and our control over certain things is more often than not, out of our hands. I love your experience and if you ever decide to write something, it would make for a great story.
June 17th, 2009 at 5:34 pm
Vlinder, even at my seasoned age, I still wonder just where people like you come from. For you to make such a senseless and cruel remark like you did, among all these caring and compassionate people, yo have to be bitter, self-centered, thoughtless, and possibly inbred. Stay off this site; you are not welcome, and I’m not speaking for anyone but myself.
June 20th, 2009 at 5:06 pm
Thanks Joe. I am happy to see that some other people are looking at it the same way I am. I hope Vlinder never returns here, she may not get the friendly reception she’s anticipating.
June 22nd, 2009 at 11:50 pm
I know Vlinder. I used to go out with her, and she’s not bad looking. But, man–what a spoiled little ho. She is a nag and a yenta and should be muzzled. All she ever says about people is bad things. She gets off on doing hurtful, spiteful stuff. Just pray she never comes back, because she is miserable and makes everyone else feel the same way.
June 24th, 2009 at 1:18 pm
Now that I think of it, whoever moderates these comments should delete Vlinder’s remark. Here this guy Ed has written a very funny (looks like the most popular posting on this site so far, considering all the comments and the fact you have it rated #1 after how long?) article and he has to deal wityh a personal attack based on his photo? Not cool. Do the rite thing and Delete that little bitch’s remark.
June 25th, 2009 at 9:41 pm
Can I say this? Through the years, the females that I have met who are my age and older have only been interested in alcohol and chainsmoking and have a very limited level of interest in intimacy. Puppy kisses and baby hugs are the only expressions of warmth that they’ve seemed capable of. This has taken a toll on my self esteem as well as my level of interest. I wish that I could meet a female who has deep desires, deep thoughts, and passionate warmth that burns with the same intensity as mine. To date, these qualities have only been found in SOME younger females. While age has always been just a number with me, I am now in my later forties, never been married, and have no children. This would seem one ideal circumstance to find one’s self in to be attractive to these females. I care about my appearance. I have been careful and responsible in my search over the years. I could not have put forth more effort and still remained loyal, respectful, and real. But look where I find myself now: still looking and still lonely. At least I am not lonely AND in one of those empty and unfulfilling relationships…not right this second anyway. There exists no environment for me to make at least casual acquaintence with younger women and they certainly do not seem to be flocking to me. So while I may find younger women quite attractive and hope to meet one with whom I find a mutual interest one day, at this point it is only a matter of fact admission. As the clock ticks on, I become less and less marketable each day. It certainly feels that way to me. I’m not certain why I wrote that and what it is I hope to read in response, but there it is.
June 28th, 2009 at 10:59 am
thanks for the funny blog ^.^..i never thought that i would find an older man interesting because those that around me are way to preverted and they think that they can get any woman that they want (cuz they are rich old man), but i have found this one guy thats funny,understanding, someone who can be my bestfriend and younger man that i know so far cant be this understanding ..so i think love is totally blind and if the person love you sincerely, age doesnt matter that much ;D
June 29th, 2009 at 6:32 am
I am 21 years old and my boyfriend of 4 years is 49 years old. He left his wife for me because we fell in love. However i have this big complex with what my parents willl say, I feel like I have let them down and they wuold be ashamed of me, so because of this we have kept our relationship very quiet and secret. I believe my parent issue is the only thing from keeping us from being together for a very long time and living a very happy life. I would love to hear what others in my situation have to say and how there parents reacted etc.
June 29th, 2009 at 4:31 pm
Funny Stuff Ed,
I really like the not being able to text.
Keep up the good work!!!
June 30th, 2009 at 3:44 am
Good evening everyone.
When I was in my very early twenties, I met a lady who was 19 years older than me. She was spectacular in every way. I believed she was the most beautiful woman in the world. My friends, (who were all around my age) without exception loved her. We could go to ballet, opera, disco, just anywhere, and she would fit there like she was born for it. We even went on camping trips on the motorbike. I eventually bought land, we built a house, made a garden and did all of the greatest things together. It was the most stable and also most exciting time in my life. I did not earn a great deal of money, and she earned even less, but it did not bother us in the least. We were together for more than ten years before lost my senses and fell in love with with a girl six years younger than me. It was a fiaco from the second year on. But it was the standard fiasco which it seemed all couples in the early thirties were having. She was a great woman, and I do not think that I was really a bad person either, we were both good, but just not good for each other. We did cling to it for almost 14 years though, before she finally left me. She had two daughters from a previous marriage, both were in primary school when we met, and even though they are now both in their mid twenties, they visit with me at least once a month, and call me almost every day. Just to talk a bit, or ask what I think they should do now, or how they should go about something. I love them both like my own children, even though I have not seen their mother in a very very long time.
I live in a condo with more room than I can use, and a few years ago, an old high school friend of my two stepdaughters came to stay with me while she was looking for new place. She eventually stayed for a year. We became very good friends. Friends only, totaly platonic. We would sit for hours and talk and just enjoyed being at ease. No expectations, no intrusion on each other’s thoughts. And she made the place look pretty. By being in it, not by decorating it or moving stuff around or changing colours and pictures. Just by being in it.
Eventually, some harsh things hapened in her life and work, and she finally was almost pressed into making the decision to go to University and start studying. It meant that she had to move to a different city. I was very sad to see her go, but I did not try to stop her. I wanted to, but I realised that if I did, she would probably never get into University again, and it was very important to me that she did.
That happened more than two years ago. She is still studying, and we spend hours on the phone every week. She calls me almost every day, and we speak about the good times and her studies and life and not so much about quantum physics. She comes to stay with me whenever she has a break. She talks more and more frequently about coming back to live with me again when she finishes her studies. She is 28 now, and I am 52. I do still ahve all of my hair and teeth, so I guess that counts for a bit, but I still do feel that she has no business being with an old guy like me, being as smart and really beautifull as she is. I still do not know where this will end. But with that very long story, I do have an idea:
Men and women pass by each other and unfortunately, we are not
“age compatible”. I believe that for a guy in his early twenties, there is no woman better than one who is at least somewhere in the thirties or forties. Women in their thirties and forties have the widest “span”. They are absolutely the best for men anywhere from nineteen to probably sixty or even more. The older a woman becomes, the younger the man she has to be with. For us men, I do not know if the picture is as pretty. I love this lady with all my heart, but I have a hard time convincing myself that a serious relationship with her, will be any good for her in the long run. So, I am probably going to be her best friend for as long as she will have me, and then, I shall sadly say goodbye. Will I then start looking for a woman my age? Not on your life. They deserve better. And younger.
June 30th, 2009 at 9:05 pm
Interesting and funny post
July 1st, 2009 at 1:30 am
Hello again to all:
To the two young ladies who in part responded by sharing (Apricot and Ash), thanks. Your words describing your experiences were comforting to read. That magic (love) is elusive. The parents aspect might indeed be difficult to deal with, though that may be a bit of jealousy on their part having lost their own youth. Or rather, grown beyond it. Too, the numbers thing might be difficult for anyone to handle were it too extreme and if it involved one’s own child.
When I was eighteen to about twenty-eight the older women seemed very attracted to me. I found those to which I now refer to be interesting in their own rights-regardless of their numbers at that time. I have a vast interest in all females and those older than I were a bit more learned than the younger crowd and I found that very sexxy.
But there exists a limit. This may vary in each case to some degree, natch, but I dread that some young lady may one day look at me and think: “he is someone’s dad” or “he is someone’s grandpa”. She’d be feeling inside herself as I did about those that I said those very same words (gender reversed) to myself about as I looked at them and smiled. Being ultimately single and finding myself in these mid to late forties, those words now bother me a great deal.
I have not lost curiosity. I have not lost passion. I’ve not lost my desires to please. I’ve not lost that satisfying purr in my heart during moments of intimate abandon. I’ve not lost my sense of kindred spirit during discussion of mystery or (mutually) intellectually stimulating matter. I don’t understand why it SEEMS as though some cast these deepest values aside or at least allow them to crumble, replacing such treasures with, that’s right, puppy kisses and baby hugs. I just don’t get it.
So for me it is back to books and television for the rest of the evening.
Goodnight ladies, sleep well. To the gentleman above, you are a very unselfish and sensible person Mareaux. I doubt that I could be as strong and detached as you seem to be. But that remark is because I am presently outside looking in. Good luck is wished to all.
July 1st, 2009 at 7:45 pm
There are some young women that like much older men and some that don’t like them or even feel repulsed by the idea of having intimate relations with such men. It’s a matter of psychological types some women strongly prefer maturity some are indifferent to it.
As for my personal experience, I am 48 Y.O. and I never had any problems up to the present in attracting plenty of younger women in their 30’s, 20’s or even at times, horror, in their teens. Perhaps the fact that I look younger than I am plays a part, most people put me in the late thirties to early forties. I mainly put it down to having an intense but gentle personality and not carrying any baggage, I was never married and have no children.
I would prefer a relationship with a much younger woman but in a committed relationship, I want to enjoy the innocence and freshness of her youth and give in exchange maturity, experience and knowledge. With a woman that is intelligent, restless, and has a thirst for learning new things. These relationships between young women and older, caring, honourable men are by far the best and most fulfilling.
As for aging this is something that affects women far more than men for the simple reason that for women their major asset is their physical beauty, their body. For men some wrinkles some baldness or white hair don’t mean much. For them the more important assets are personality, social status, education, wealth, and these may well improve as they get older.
Men can get more mileage out of sexuality as long as they remain sexually potent and do not get stricken by devastating chronic health problems eg arthritis or spinal pain, if health goes everything goes. They could reach their early seventies before being considered as badly damaged unsellable goods (a humiliation that women experience already in their early fifties) due to serious health problems, impotence or quasi impotence, and an almost non existent sex drive. Not much loss since only something like 5% of men will live beyond their late seventies.
July 2nd, 2009 at 6:30 am
I found this article very amusing, as well as the comments =]
I literally started laughing out loud.
Some of this is true, others were just thrown in to poke fun. But overall, i don’t think any of it was supposed to be taken very seriously.
I am an 18 year old female. FINALLY legal, which is a really great thing because i have always been attracted to older guys (between 23-34 when i was 16-17).
There have always been people judging my decisions, not to say that there wasn’t anything wrong with dating older guys because i WAS a minor lol.
But it seems like people had more of a problem with the number of years rather than me not being legally able to date them (example: OMG how can you date someone that is 9 years older than you, that’s kind of gross, etc..)
I started maturing at a very early age, am ambitious, curious, open-minded, have my priorities straight, experienced, etc..
When i was 16 i started working, graduated from High School early, and by 17 i had a job at a real estate office (even though i was only a secretary & did accounting lol), started cosmetology school, moved out w/ a roomie. Now that i just turned 18 i got my own apt since i am able to sign a lease.
And since i have high goals and standards for myself, & i refuse to date an immature boy in his 20’s who works at Starbucks, construction, taco bell, etc.. and is just looking for a piece of ass. OR just any young boy, period. Even if he is sweet, etc.. He most likely does not have the qualities that i’m looking for.
Now I’m the kind of girl who will always offer & insist to pay for dates, esp the 1st ones, to show that i CAN take care of myself & that i don’t expect anything from him. But c’mon, don’t let the girl pay for every date. That’s a huge turn off for me, and a deal breaker, bcuz yeah i’m kind of old fashion & what girl doesn’t like it when a man takes her out. But i deff dont agree with girls expecting it, esp before they even get to know the person & think its the mans duty to do so.
I’m sure guys would feel special if the girl took HIM out sometimes, or bought HIM flowers too =]
But my whole point is, it really just depends on the people. If the girl is mature enough for the man, and they have alot in common & are happy, then why not? Age does not define a person, neither does ethnicity, gender, sexual-orientation, etc..
So here i am, an 18 year old Ukrainian female (born and live in california), madly in love with a 34 year old Greek man living in Florida. & what do i say to the people who choose to judge and analyze everything?
“While you’re busy gossiping about me because you’ve got nothing better to do, I’m out having the time of my life”
Not only do we like the same music, we also like the same movies, food, hobbies, share similar thoughts on religion, politics, family values, etc.
Maybe it’s the things i’ve been through that made me the open minded individual that i am, But it’s really up to you to make yourself the person you are.
You either turn bitter, cold, and chase off every man who wants a chance.
(referring to some of the “older women” NOT ALL! Alot of older women are amazing!)
Or you try to realize what went wrong. What YOU did wrong, what THEY did wrong. Don’t blame, Don’t hold grudges, bcuz this wont do you any good, it wont make you happy.
Just learn from it, stay positive, and know what NOT to do next time, and what kind of men NOT to date.
All of these 25 year olds tell me i can do better than him, i’m hotter than him, i can have a sexy young stud like themselves. But i say screw you guys, i’m not interested in games. Honestly i think my man is damm sexxy. 16 years older than me, who cares? I have a man who treats me like a damm princess. He doesn’t get jealous when i want to go out to the club with my girls (which is rare). He LIKES it when guys hit on me (unlike young insecure guys who get pissed) bcuz its a compliment to him. I dont have to worry about him hooking up with some girl when he’s out with the guys. We encourage each other to flirt and have a good time when we’re out, because its healthy. But We know where to draw the line, and no one leaves with any numbers.
I go to Florida every month to see him. Usually for about a week because we’re both busy, but i wish it was alot more.
(I’m going for 3weeks this time bcuz i took some time off from school!!)
I know that i’m happy with him and i know that i could never find all of his amazing qualities in someone who was 10 years younger than him, Even he knows that he was a completely different person when he was in his 20’s. & yeah, he helps out financially, i’m a student, what can you expect? lol. But that isnt what our relationship is based on. And we know that when i’m done with school and into my career, i wont need it anymore. In the meantime, he enjoys helping out bcuz he knows i’m smart and wont go spend it on dumb shit like gucci purses. lol.
So here’s to romantic nights in, wild nights out, nude beaches, intelligent/meaningful conversations, intense passion, amazing sex, & never feeling ashamed or embarrassed when asked how old/young our bf/gf is =]
ps, i met a 47yr old HOT female (she works at a salon in downtown & did my hair)
I was shocked, i thought she was in her mid 30’s at most.
Well she dates guys in their 20’s. 23-27 is her preferred age range.
&her current bf is 27.
Which proves just how different everyone is. I told her she’s crazy, even I cant date guys that young, and i’m 18! lol.
So whatever floats your boat.
Best advice: Learn to not give a dam what anyone thinks.
You’re in control of your own happiness, and not everyone can possibly understand why you do what you do. And that’s ok. Don’t let it bother you because they don’t know any better.
Feel free to email me!
Sweet.romance@hotmail.com
I’d love to hear stories, experiences, etc.. Esp from young women as myself.
But plz no guys trying to get at me. lol
XOXO
July 2nd, 2009 at 6:53 am
IN addition to my previous post..
I was 17 when i first talking to my bf. We met on a dating site.
He assumed that i was 18, and when i told him that i wasnt, he freaked out.
Nevertheless, we texted and talked on the phone almost every day, lost contact for about 1-2 months then kept at it again, until i turned 18 and he flew me out to see him for my birthday. I was crazy about him before we even met in person. Sometimes you can just tell. & i think it is the cutest thing in the world that he waited like 6 months for me. We got to just take our time and get to know each other and we built a pretty solid foundation.
(& proves he’s not a sicko, he didn’t even think about touching me until i was legal. lol. Moral standards, plus he has too much to lose)
July 2nd, 2009 at 7:16 am
Mingle.nu, thank you. I realise that my life till now has been interesting. At the very least, it has been interesting to me. I am gratefull for that. And, yes, when I consider it, which I do frequently, I very often cannot help laughing at myself. It is funny how we do sometimes do things so completely wrong isn’t it?
Justfoundthisforum, thank you for your very kind remark. You have to remember that when you are outside some place, it must mean that you are inside some other place. It is not possible to be absolutely outside of every place. So, it is not a matter of getting into some place only, it is a matter of getting out of one place and into another. So, it is about changing places. However, you must be prepared, wherever you go, the first person you will meet there, is yourself again. And, ultimately, the last person you will be with, is also going to be you. I have told my daughters many times, remember, no-one will spend more time with you during your entire life, than you, yourself. Not your parents, nor your children, or any of your friends. That makes you very very important in your life. You are the person whom you will have to live with, longer than anyone else. You have to make sure that you can live with yourself. Without shame and without reservation and without guilt or disgust. If you can do that, then you could most likely live very well with almost everyone. If you cannot do that, you can most definitely not live very well for very long with anyone.
I believe that life is fair. If nothing else, it is absolutely fair. It can be hard, or easy, but it is fair. It is a closed system. It is a contained environment. It has to balance. It has to be fair. Ultimately. We are all here for one reason only: We are here, for each other. If none of us were here, none of us would need to be here.
I have to get back to the issue of age difference. I think that we are all looking for companionship. It validates our reason for being here. If no-one needs me, then there is no reason for me being here at all. Does it matter how old the person is who needs you? I do not think so. The greatest fortune is when the person who needs you, is also the one whom you need. We just cannot lay claim to anything.
Am I strong? Not at all. Detached? Not that either. I am just an old guy who sincerely loves a young girl. A young girl who seems to love talking to me and being around me. And who might, in a few years, love being around someone else. Am I going to let that stop me from enjoying her company, just because it has no lifetime warranty? Not at all. I am just going to try my best to do nothing that could possibly make her regret knowing me in years to come.
I know that I have a very imperfect understanding of life and love and especially of women. Still, I sincerely wish you well, Sir. She is there, somewhere, looking for you, and being a woman, she is probably looking with much more fervor than you are.
(I used to believe that I would be completely happy dying in my very own arms some day, but with this young lady in my life.. I am not so sure at all anymore!)
July 2nd, 2009 at 5:14 pm
I like older women myself to some degree,but I don’t think it’s right to date people as old as you’re parents because one it’s sick and two you’re just doing because you’re insecure about yourself or you’re looking for a mother or father figure.I think five to ten yrs difference, maybe fifteen given you’re circumstances.I’m recently 27 and my exgirlfriend I was seeing is 30 she said we would never work because I’m too young for her and that she’s interested in older men,and she still wants to have sex with me but no relationship with me because of my age.I’d really like to find a older woman that I can have a mature relationship with but I don’t see that happening.
July 3rd, 2009 at 7:44 am
John. It will happen when you are not looking for it. And when it does, you will be with a woman whom you will be able to trust completely.